Discussion Do you think failing a grade is a valid reason to CTB?

[Ekim]

On 27th March I'm going to get my results and I already know I messed up my annual exams badly I might even fail am really scared of disappointing my father I already feel ashamed and I'm worried he'll call me a failure like he has before my parents aren't exactly abusive but I'm still scared of how they'll react I feel like my mom might react physically abusive and I'm terrified they'll abandon me I also feel guilty that my mother will have to suffer because of me, It feels like my academic downfall is going to ruin my life forever It's not just the exam failure that's making me feel this way there are other serious things too that I don't want to share publicly esp here after my death anyone could see what I've posted and I don't want to cause trouble for anyone.

 

[Abyss Dweller]

I'm really sorry you are in this situation, to say that your parents are overreacting is an understatement.
I'm no expert and it differs from country to country but my strong guess is 99.99% of the time there are additional chances or other ways one can take when we fail an exam. So it's not the end.

 

[dreaming]

I haven't done any schoolwork in months and am probably about to have to drop out, I feel like a failure, not finishing school ruined my only chance I was given, and it's definitely a possible reason for me to want to ctb, so I can understand why you would.

 

[Ekim]

I'm really sorry you are in this situation, to say that your parents are overreacting is an understatement.
I'm no expert and it differs from country to country but my strong guess is 99.99% of the time there are additional chances or other ways one can take when we fail an exam. So it's not the end.

I know I could probably get a re-exam but my father wouldn't allow it he's very egoistic and can't accept my failure, and I'm scared that CTB feels like the only option

 

[Apathy79]

Can you just not tell him and take the re-exam?

 

[Ekim]

I haven't done any schoolwork in months and am probably about to have to drop out, I feel like a failure, not finishing school ruined my only chance I was given, and it's definitely a possible reason for me to want to ctb, so I can understand why you would.

I'm really sorry you're feeling this way, I can relate and tysm for understanding me.

Can you just not tell him and take the re-exam?

I honestly want to, but I can't

 

[TheKingInBlack]

Only you can decide whether or not your reason is valid. Personally I feel like anything that makes you so despondent and miserable like this is perfectly valid. I had strict parents too so fear of parental reprisal can absolutely be crippling, alongside whatever else you have going on. Of course your reason is valid, don't fret. i've attempted before, and when I woke up, I was told directly to my face that my reason for trying to ctb was "the stupidest thing I've ever heard" by my dad. All that made me want to do was try again as fast as possible. so tldr: any reason is valid if your heart is truly in despair. I really hope you feel better though, and if it makes you feel better you can still go pretty far in life even without a traditional education, so its not totally over if you feel like sticking it out.

 

[vascomorrow]

On 27th March I'm going to get my results and I already know I messed up my annual exams badly I might even fail am really scared of disappointing my father I already feel ashamed and I'm worried he'll call me a failure like he has before my parents aren't exactly abusive but I'm still scared of how they'll react I feel like my mom might react physically abusive and I'm terrified they'll abandon me I also feel guilty that my mother will have to suffer because of me, It feels like my academic downfall is going to ruin my life forever It's not just the exam failure that's making me feel this way there are other serious things too that I don't want to share publicly esp here after my death anyone could see what I've posted and I don't want to cause trouble for anyone.

Having a poor exam doesn't make you a failure, but ctb would definitely make you one...

Try to bounce back, it's not the end of the world bro.

 

[Zura]

as someone who has failed a grade and have disappointed my parents due to that i think its pretty rough i hope you stay strong
also its surprising how i was surprised when i first checked my result and found out i have got an F like what was i expecting lol
but yeah you know disappointing your parents is sad
i will pray that you have passed all your papers
but about the ctb thing personally i dont think ctb should be done impulsively like its quite a big decision and yeah one who is going to ctb should give it a thought when he/she is relatively calm but then again when one someone goes through something and are not calm is when they want to ctb at the first place i guess regardless sorry for yapping too much i wish you the best

 

[Shiitake]

you got like 60 years to redo the exams, why let an arbitrary result that probably was failed by you not being happy let destroy you.
shits alot better than it seems
i was crying feeling like the biggest loser being alone for 3 years then i quit school, ended up stumbling into an opportunity and havent looked back since

I know I could probably get a re-exam but my father wouldn't allow it he's very egoistic and can't accept my failure, and I'm scared that CTB feels like the only option

To many of us, ctbing cuz of a failed exam seems like a stupid reason, which it is, i suspect there are deeper reasons, and that this might push you over the edge.

 

[lpdsvm]

I'm not sure. For me, failing to get a good income is a reason. It is tied to many things in my life. I can't without it.
And I wouldn't live in a toxic place. I would have left and tried from zero and CTB if no success.

 

[tonicer]

No, school or even college or university is meaningless. Not finding a job however is not. You should find an apprenticeship anyway. I studied for many years and i can't find a job. I wish i didn't waste my time studying.

 

[friendly_girl]

I know the feeling you're describing very well. It doesn't matter how many times people tell you it will be okay & there are other options, the feeling won't go away for a while. But there's a light at the end of the tunnel I promise. I'm here for you

 

[ilovenewyork]

Did you really think everything in your education would succeed the first time? That's not how life works. Retake the exam and move on. Your father will prefer it to a dead son

 

[behindtheveil]

So you flunked a grade, big deal! Do you know how many times Thomas Edison failed before he invented the bulb or look at Spacex, the number of failures they are incurring is beyond rationale, but they are set onf not giving up.
There is an institution for blind near to where i live. It takes care of kids who were abandoned on the roadside just for being born blind. And when I pass through that place, I see only smiles on their face. And you know what their parents are the real losers.
There are senior citizens who don't know where their next meal is going to come from not to mention their medicines.
There are serious problems out there that souls like you can help take care off when you guys will make it in future. Giving up on the account of getting a chance to redo a grade, trust me doesn't even compare to the serious issues out there.
As for parents, losing you would be the hardest thing they'll ever have to face.
Dont take this life so seriously cause it sure doesn't take us that way. Take it as a video game. You play, you lose, you shrug it off and then try again and win.

 

[Ligottian]

Several years ago, the son of someone my sister knew killed himself after making a grade he though would keep him out of medical school, which he was studying for. My sister thinks his parents may have been putting a lot of pressure on him.

 

[Endisclose]

On 27th March I'm going to get my results and I already know I messed up my annual exams badly I might even fail am really scared of disappointing my father I already feel ashamed and I'm worried he'll call me a failure like he has before my parents aren't exactly abusive but I'm still scared of how they'll react I feel like my mom might react physically abusive and I'm terrified they'll abandon me I also feel guilty that my mother will have to suffer because of me, It feels like my academic downfall is going to ruin my life forever It's not just the exam failure that's making me feel this way there are other serious things too that I don't want to share publicly esp here after my death anyone could see what I've posted and I don't want to cause trouble for anyone.

What do you want in life? Is there any one thing that you feel you can do exceedingly well, are naturally good in and passionate about? The answers to those questions could make the exam irrelevant.