Do you plan on having children?

[drownll]

My desire to CTB is appeased for now, so I want to continue living, but I absolutely don't want children.
I want to continue living to continue growing spiritualy, and also see the future, technology is at its worse now it will only get better, imagine how AI and VR will be like in 2 decades, i imagine it will be possible to escape in a very convincing virtual reality, and be accompanied by AI companions. At some point i hope in my lifetime, mind control imput devices will appear and be mastered to the point that something like SAO will be possible in real life.
Also I want to create, my mind is constantly overwhelmed by new ideas that i cannot bring to fruition. I have one particular project that I want to complete before I die.
But first thing first, I want to be able to be self sufficient without having to work a shitty stressful job and deal with people, that's my first goal for now.
So having children is not compatible at all with the life i want to live. Also I would never willingly bring a new soul into this life without being multi millionnaire at least.
My family expects me to marry and have children, but they don't understand that the default path is not for me, i'm completely different from them.

 

[S like suicide]

I dreamed of having my own loving family and having children but that was a dream reality is another thing...my reality is hell and I want go away from all this pain suiciding.

 

[FuneralCry]

No, I will never become a mother. I view it as a disgusting crime to force one out of the ideal state of non-existence just to burden them with the ability to be tormented endlessly in this cruel and hellish existence. I don't see any value to the horrific mistake that is existence, all that existence does is cause harm and create problems that there never was a need for in the first place. Only never existing at all is perfection.

 

[WAITING TO DIE]

One of the best decisions of my life was never to bring more suffering into this dreadful world by breeding.
I have never regretted it for a single moment.

 

[sserafim]

My desire to CTB is appeased for now, so I want to continue living, but I absolutely don't want children.
I want to continue living to continue growing spiritualy, and also see the future, technology is at its worse now it will only get better, imagine how AI and VR will be like in 2 decades, i imagine it will be possible to escape in a very convincing virtual reality, and be accompanied by AI companions. At some point i hope in my lifetime, mind control imput devices will appear and be mastered to the point that something like SAO will be possible in real life.
Also I want to create, my mind is constantly overwhelmed by new ideas that i cannot bring to fruition. I have one particular project that I want to complete before I die.
But first thing first, I want to be able to be self sufficient without having to work a shitty stressful job and deal with people, that's my first goal for now.
So having children is not compatible at all with the life i want to live. Also I would never willingly bring a new soul into this life without being multi millionnaire at least.
My family expects me to marry and have children, but they don't understand that the default path is not for me, i'm completely different from them.

No because I'm aroace and I have no desire to bring more life into this world full of suffering. I never had a partner and never will, I don't like children, never wanted them, and never will have any. I just don't see a point in having kids and they're not something I desire for myself. I don't want a family of my own, I never did.

My family expects me to marry and have children as well and I hate these expectations and standards. I hate that society expects us to get married and have a family. My dad wants me to continue the bloodline and I will ctb as an act of rebellion against these expectations as well as being an adult.

No, I will never become a mother. I view it as a disgusting crime to force one out of the ideal state of non-existence just to burden them with the ability to be tormented endlessly in this cruel and hellish existence. I don't see any value to the horrific mistake that is existence, all that existence does is cause harm and create problems that there never was a need for in the first place. Only never existing at all is perfection.

I'll never become a mother either. I just hate how women are expected to become mothers and have children. I don't want kids, I never did, and never will have them either. I hate how society expects us to marry and have a family. I don't want these things!

 

[tiredone]

I have and love them to bits. But not long ago my partner decided to split because i was "emotionally abusing" her for years. She suffers with bpd, depression,anxiety,fibro and few others. She went behind my back and made and abuser of me just to get a house. She even promised to share living arragements and such. Now i know it was all manipulation and lies. Shr went behind my back and applied for housing with both our daughetrs. Basicly I am loosing my kids forever in near future and i cannot live withouthem, as they have been my anchor against CTB...until now. I love them dearly but I have been struggling for years now, lost almost all family, and i just cant live with the thought of separation from them.
tldr: dont have kids if you or paryner has mental problems. Even if you feel better now. You will just hurt them.

 

[hevlalab]

If you asked me that at the start of the year my answer would have been yes absolutely. I've always wanted to grow up and be successful with a loving husband and adorable children. But my world got turned upside down all of a sudden so no I won't be having children now unfortunately

 

[Lynx.]

'To have committed every crime but that of being a father.' -Emil Cioran.

I've never experienced the desire to have a family and children, but it wasn't until I was eighteen that I'd come to completely reject the idea of it. The mere notion of imposing life on this earth repulses me, and I couldn't forgive myself for it - I'd hate to look at the suffering child and know that I am the one responsible for it, for I had decided to reproduce just because of my selfish desires. Luckily for me, the desire of reproduction is non-existent, and whenever I picture my future life, if there is even such a thing, a family is never in the frame.

It also helps that I have repulsion towards the act of reproduction and bringing a child into this world: forcing someone else to carry my children for nine months, causing them pain and then the excruciating suffering of giving birth... It would not make me feel proud, like it does for many, but instead, I'd feel repulsed with myself.

Basicly I am loosing my kids forever in near future and i cannot live withouthem, as they have been my anchor against CTB...until now.

I'm sorry you have to go through this - it certainly is an awful position to be put in.

 

[Hollowman]

Absolutely not

 

[Forever Sleep]

No. Ironic really. I have friends who are grateful every day for their children. I'm grateful every day that I didn't have them.

 

[starlightsun]

Definitely not. My friend really wants a kid but is struggling to fall pregnant. I wish I could warn her not to bring a child to this earth because the way things are going right now I personally think it's inhumane to do so. But of course I could never tell her that.

I agree with some of the other commenters here, I would feel immense guilt every time I looked at my child for bringing them here. I wish my parents never had me, I don't think they gave it much thought other than they wanted some kids, my Dad in particular. It is quite a selfish thing, if we're being honest. Another friend once said to me, "if you don't have kids who will look after you when you're older?" - so my reason for having children is to make sure I'm taken care of in my old age...? And then they will do the same and so it goes. Afterall I guess we are literally programmed to survive and reproduce, well, most humans

 

[Agon321]

The best thing I can do for the world is not to pass on my genes in any way. They are weak from the point of view of nature. What saves me is the fact that I was born in the best times in history and someone like me can function normally. And to answer your question, I don't want children. I don't like responsibilities and I always take the easy way out.

 

[derpyderpins]

I have periods where I want kids. I get this desire to do better than my parents and help them grow up mentally stable and happy.

Then, I have periods where having kids sounds like a nightmare. If I am spiraling so much on my own, how can I care for someone else?

So, right now I don't want them, because kids is a full-time 20+year commitment, and if I'm floundering it's not fair to them to make them live.

 

[MeltingBrain]

My family expects me to marry and have children, but they don't understand that the default path is not for me, i'm completely different from them.

The society assumes everyone of the same age is standing at the same spot . They don't understand how life circumstances and genetics can drastically alter peoples path and their place in life. Take input from everyone but don't be pressure because only you know where you truly stand .

 

[Artictart]

I'm conflicted honestly. I want to fall in love and have a nice life and family but i know i will most likely never have those. I have very bad issues with talking to people and the thought of a relationship sounds overwhelming and terrifying, i'm not good at showing affection or being all lovey so i have been cheated on more times than not. Maybe this will change and i will have a family someday though, who knows. I'm still young and figuring life out

 

[NumbItAll]

Never had the slightest urge to create a person. Can't relate to those who do. There's "asexual" and "aromantic"... is there a term for not desiring parenthood?

 

[eatantz]

I never want children, i hate how people never believe me. They always say 'One day you will' or 'Wait till you meet the right guy' and it makes me sick with anger.

 

[LaVieEnRose]

No, they tend to be too fatty for my taste.

 

[sukiduki]

i dont want any of my own. i don't mind being in the lives of friends and family's children around me and being a responsible adult figure in their lives. but to have one that is my responsibiliy 10000% i already wanna die and am miserable so like that would push me over the edge

 

[thenamingofcats]

I never want children, i hate how people never believe me. They always say 'One day you will' or 'Wait till you meet the right guy' and it makes me sick with anger.

Wait until you're 40 and then tell them to fuck off. I did this (not proud of it) and it was just great, I mean really, really great. Again, not proud of it.

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

If I somehow manage to recover then honestly I probably would although the older I get the more difficult that may be and I'm not even sure I'd ever have enough money to support one or two.

I still want them for selfish reasons which is why I should probably CTB before I let it get that far. I'm convinced that me being a virgin incel is due to my future unborn children being time travelers trying to wipe themselves out of existence. I'm so proud of them.

 

[EvisceratedJester]

The idea of motherhood makes me nauseous. The only thing I hate more than the idea of being a parent is the idea of being pregnant (which is weird since I think I have a breeding kink, lol). I don't want kids and I'm aware of the fact that I don't have the patience needed to handle children. I prefer being child free.

 

[Dliena]

Fudgecake NO! It would be unpure hell to have any child in this economy and too stressful. I'd snap more than already!
Plus I wouldn't want them to suffer from my antics or anything else.

 

[Angst Filled Fuck Up]

No, that ship has sailed for me now, along with any genuine desire to have kids. I did have fleeting moments where I toyed with the idea in the past, and I did have the opportunity to at several stages of life, but truthfully I'm not too sad at the fact it never happened.

 

[falling_snow]

I dreamed od having a child. Of course I wouldn't want to force them to live. If my child were suicidal like me, I would respect it. Talk it, understand it, and if the solurion is CTB, I would guide them.

I want to give the best live to those around me. Though I can't always do it. But I wish and pray that if I ever had a child, they would be happier and more loved than I could ever be.

 

[sserafim]

The idea of motherhood makes me nauseous. The only thing I hate more than the idea of being a parent is the idea of being pregnant (which is weird since I think I have a breeding kink, lol). I don't want kids and I'm aware of the fact that I don't have the patience needed to handle children. I prefer being child free.

And to answer your question, I don't want children. I don't like responsibilities and I always take the easy way out.

Never had the slightest urge to create a person. Can't relate to those who do. There's "asexual" and "aromantic"... is there a term for not desiring parenthood?

Same

I never want children, i hate how people never believe me. They always say 'One day you will' or 'Wait till you meet the right guy' and it makes me sick with anger.

Ikr. It's so annoying

 

[1MiserableGuy]

Good luck planning either outcome. Got my wife pregnant with an IUD in, odds of which are less than one in ten thousand, and then after years of trying to get pregnant on purpose we only did once and lost it to miscarriage. Completely out of anyone's control.

 

[Dusk till dawn]

Hell no, i would never procreate under any circumstances, even if life suddenly turned shining rainbows to me i would never procreate, procreation is the worst sin a creature can do, nothing can rival the evilness of procreation in my opinion

 

[4am]

no, because imo procreation is unethical

 

[derpyderpins]

I have periods where I want kids. I get this desire to do better than my parents and help them grow up mentally stable and happy.

Then, I have periods where having kids sounds like a nightmare. If I am spiraling so much on my own, how can I care for someone else?

So, right now I don't want them, because kids is a full-time 20+year commitment, and if I'm floundering it's not fair to them to make them live.

I said this in October... I want kids less but the odds of me having one has gone up. If the one person who would spend her life with me wants one I know I won't be able to say no.