Discussion Do you pamper yourself or, are you cruel to yourself?

[Forever Sleep]

I do a bit of both really. I enjoy nice food. I treat myself too well there. Regarding my living environment though, I've done peculiar things in the past. For years, I lived in the smaller room of where I lived. Keeping the nicer room for guests. I didn't put up proper curtains so my sleep was disturbed by all the light pouring in- on top of a really demanding job. Now, when stuff breaks- I'll tend to go without- rather than getting it repaired. To extreme levels too- washing with water boiled in kettles etc.

I suppose it is still a form of pampering. I'm pandering to my laziness in not getting things fixed.

Sometimes, I've been too ambitious in what I think I can go without. I moved once without taking much furniture with me- only to realise that I did actually feel the need for storage cabinets, a desk etc. I've thought I could sleep comfortably on a yoga matt on the laminate floor or in the bath- also not the case.

How about you? Are you cruel to yourself out of some form of self harm or, is it more through laziness? Or, do you make the effort to make your living conditions nice abd comfortable?

 

[fantamaxxer]

i do whatever i want

 

[Pluto]

 

[BlueMist96]

I go through cycles of taking really good care of myself and then completely abusing myself. I'll eat healthy, exercise, etc, And then at some point I'll just completely fall apart until I eventually start over again.

 

[Hystearical]

You were really courting Pluto with this topic weren't you...

 

[Forveleth]

I see pampering as a form of aelf care and have been working to do it more often. I love taking a nice bath to relax every once in a while.

 

[fedup1982]

I pamper myself physically, but I'm cruel to myself mentally

 

[FoxSauce]

Well sometimes I dont want to cuz I feel like I dont deserve it but sometimes rarely I do

I was taught to earn things
Even receiving gifts is still weird for me

 

[rotthjärta]

Can go both ways, as I've grown older i tend to avoid being cruel to myself, stopped a lot of bad habits. I want to live comfortable and content as possible ^^

 

[junctionbox]

in my experience, one of the toughest things to go through when healing from a depressive episode was trying to want good things for myself. for such a long time all i wanted was to harm myself in all ways possible. even tho it's been a while since my worst times, i still struggle to do good by myself, but i guess i've made some progress. i am still quite strict and cruel on myself but it's not all of the time anymore. pampering, sometimes, and it feels good but often comes with guilt. i really think everyone should be kind to themselves and treat themselves with respect and grace, it's just very hard to achieve when your self-worth is inherently zero. for me it's been an interesting mix of liking myself/being chill with myself, while still harboring deep-rooted self-hatred and worthlessness at the core of everything, leading to cycles of self-abuse, guilt and then, very slowly, actual progress.

 

[Leonard_Bangley39]

people tell me I'm overly hard on myself. i don't think I've ever forgiven myself. simultaneously id like to believe that i pamper myself sometimes.