Discussion Do you live with your parents ? #37

[MeltingBrain]

Do you live with your parents (and why) and do you feel like a loser because of it ?
I do and I feel like an underachieving loser . I have health problems because of which it's difficult to move out of home .
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[Blue Elephant]

Erm .. there is no option for me. : ( Sometimes I live alone and sometimes I live with my mum. I'm not ashamed when I live with my mum, I don't know why one would feel one way or the other. We can only live the best way we can.

 

[FuneralCry]

Yes, and I really wish they decided against procreation in the first place, it's sad how we all have to suffer ultimately because of the selfish decision to procreate. I don't have any feelings of self hatred at all, as I'm not the problem but rather existence is.

 

[Seered Doom]

Yes and I wish I wasn't so disabled that I have to live with them. I feel like a burden and a waste of space, time, and breath enough as it is. I don't think anyone wants me that badly, even though others say they would want me with them. I don't know why. I am objectively horrible and a net negative on others around me.

 

[nostalgia addict]

Yes I'm a disabled NEET at 18 years old because of my tinnitus

 

[Blue Elephant]

Yes and I wish I wasn't so disabled that I have to live with them. I feel like a burden and a waste of space, time, and breath enough as it is. I don't think anyone wants me that badly, even though others say they would want me with them. I don't know why. I am objectively horrible and a net negative on others around me.

Do your parents think that you are a burden? Have they said that?

Any child could be considered a burden, anything or anyone could be a considered one because you have to work more to provide a good life for them but that doesn't mean that one is not wanted. I had a dog once and she was a burden but I loved carrying that burden! It would be the same if I had a kid.

Yes I'm a disabled NEET at 18 years old because of my tinnitus

Don't feel to special! Most people in this world are disabled (psychologically), they just don't know it.

 

[raltsrover]

Yea. I dont feel like a burden because of it though, cause college is 5 mins from their house, so it's pretty convenient. I love my parents and I'm sure they understand.

 

[KillerIsMe]

Yep, live on my mom's couch.
Roommates are so uncomfortable to live with because I don't talk to them at all and just stay in my room.

 

[Myforevercharlie]

No. Left home when I was 15. Maaaaaany moons ago

 

[divinemistress36]

Yes it's embarrassing at 36 years old but I'm disabled

 

[the old man]

Wish I did .....they are both dead

 

[Kall]

Personally, I am very fortunate on this point. As a student, I had the opportunity to leave those aberrations behind

 

[Linda]

Unless I want to live 6 feet underground, living with my parents is not an option.

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

29 years old and still live with my mom. It hasn't done wonders for my dating prospects to say the least but at least she doesn't charge me rent or anything.

 

[glitteryaliens]

21, still live with my parents and have no plans to move out for the foreseeable future. I have pretty bad social anxiety and zero friends so I never leave the house. I'm just rotting away in their house and I hate it. I feel like a burden on my parents.

 

[sserafim]

Yeah, but I don't see anything wrong with it. It's my home too. I don't feel like a loser. Why would I?

 

[Malaria]

I live with my mother, and I wish I didn't. I want to be more independent.

 

[BlendedHeart]

Yeah, I live with my mother. Don't consider it embarrasing, don't care what "society" thinks. I pay all the bills and cook some things.

Maybe it won't help with romantic prospects, but there isn't any, so it doesn't matter.

 

[grahf]

Yeah, but I don't see anything wrong with it. It's my home too. I don't feel like a loser. Why would I?

Maybe because you are wealth? But idk maybe nothing wrong
For me I fell like loser because my parents are old and poor, and I'm unemployment so I didn't contribute anything to them and just burden
But this is just my opinion not everyone will agree with me
Sorry my broken English

 

[rozeske]

Yes, but not by choice. I hate every minute of it but this is what being a failure does to you. I envy those that cherish their situation of living with a parent. Some are even baffled by the idea of moving out.

 

[tbroken]

Yes, but because rent in the places i want to live costs too much and I will not share an apartment with someone else ever again or quit passions because of living in a small cage.
Life is a shit right now, but I got the feeling i will remain like this forever... It is not even that bad compared to others situations.
PS: i lived alone for 8-9 years.

 

[ijustwishtodie]

Yes, I live with my parents because I don't really have the skills to move out and maintain myself due to my autism (and, if I did, I still wouldn't want to move out as adulthood is exhausting as hell). I guess in society's view, that makes me a loser but I honestly don't care what society or anybody else thinks as I don't see myself as a loser for it. I don't like living with my parents as I don't like living at all but, at the same time, I don't really care about it either. Besides, it doesn't seem like my parents even want me to be independent anyways as they expect me to take care of them for the rest of my life.

That said, I'm very surprised at the amount of people who replied with "yes" here. I thought that it would be the opposite as I remember that, roughly when I joined this site, I saw posts of people claiming that if you're not independent by 18, you must be a minor and I thought that was the popular opinion on this site. I'm glad I'm wrong because those types of people are annoying as hell to see. It sure is surprising to see more "yes" than "no"

 

[bojackgoes]

Yes, I'm 26, unemployed and live with my Dad.

I don't have the energy to do basic chores, let alone move out and get a job.

 

[Tao]

Yes it's embarrassing at 36 years old but I'm disabled

Same age. Same predicament.

I try not to feel so much shame but I know they expected more of me. I expected more of myself.

But here we are.

 

[Morte]

Yes, late 20s and I still live with my parents. Here, jobs that pay well are extremely competitive and I refuse to work all day to earn a pittance.

 

[willitpass]

I live with a roommate and I'm thankful to not live with my parents for independence sake. Money is pretty tight right now though. I wish I lived completely alone so I could ctb in my apartment rather than having to get a hotel.

 

[Darkover]

I lived with my dad from the age of 12 until i was 23
i went into supported shared accommodation for 2 years
i went to live with my mom in 2011 until 2014
now 28 years old i went into supported shared accommodation for another 2 years
then i went back to my mom for 2 years at 32 years old
i moved back into supported shared accommodation for 1.5 years
then i got my own one bedroom flat back in 2020 been here nearly 4 years so far

 

[bac-9271]

Yes. I have no choice. For some reason it's normal in this country to keep on living with your parents. I hate it. I have to keep on staying in a broken family. My life never begun.
I wish I could be independent, have fun, explore the world on my own. At least I have my own room to rot in.

 

[Throwawayacc3]

Yes. Business died and trying to live in Spain didn't work. Dead end now.

Yeah, but I don't see anything wrong with it. It's my home too. I don't feel like a loser. Why would I?

That's not the issue. "Loser" is a society term. I don't interact with society so their terms means fuck all. The problem is lack to do what you want and be on your own (I like my systems, processes, etc). Hell even in Spain I had a system for how I put things in the fridge and dishwasher and how I cooked.

Unfortunately you have to deal with fuckers who control you for a wage slave and can't do anything with it - evident from people here flat sharing or house sharing and still having no money. You're fucked if you do and your fucked if you don't.

 

[oneeyed]

Late 30's and still do and definitely feel like a loser. Particularly hearing about other people's successes whom are younger than me, and yes I know I shouldn't compare myself to anyone but I can't help it. Just like @Dr Iron Arc, it's definitely not helping in the relationship part of life. The thing is, I know my anxiety and mental health issues would skyrocket otherwise.