Do you have or had an objectively good life?

[Doll Steak]

I mean a life as in you never had to worry for food, clothes, housing. Maybe you were bought gifts, or have friends or are in a relationship. But despite all of it you are still depressed or considering CTB. I know I kind of have, I don't have any friends really, neither a relationship, but that's about the extent of my personal issues, the rest is just mental bullshit.

I absolutely hate when people say you have no reason to be depressed because you have an objectively good life, as if dismissing the entire pain that comes with just existing in general. Mentally and physically.

 

[ankawannadie]

Yep. Basic needs met. My mental health destroyed it all.

 

[FinishingTouches]

No but there was a shot. If I just had a proper parent or some adult stepped in and helped when I was a kid. But everyone turned a blind eye.

 

[WatchmeBurn]

By global standards? Yes. By British standards? No.

 

[mysticatedwine]

i was spoiled for most of my childhood, and today i'm a student with relatively little money but enough financial support from my family to afford housing and food. So, my life is objectively good, yeah, it's mostly aimlessness, loneliness, and gender dysphoria that destroyed me i feel.

I don't think it's correct to dissociate body needs and psychological needs, seeing how much these two interact with each other. Brain is body, give it a good environment and it'll prosper in most cases. but good environments are rare and the needs are many

 

[Forever Sleep]

Mixed really. A lot of bereavement early on. A lot of (likely narcissistic) bullying. But, my basics were well covered. I never went hungry. I was well taken care of. I was also lucky to receive a lot of love, despite key family members being missing. Not sure really. People would probably agree I had a pretty tragic/ rough start but there again, I was able to pursue my dreams.

 

[Dejected 55]

Technically, until my impending future happens soon, I have to say that I've always had a place to live even when I wasn't sure that I would... and I always had enough to eat even when it sometimes wasn't as much or the kind of food I would have liked. But there is a difference in surviving vs living. Too many of us merely survive, constantly struggling to just barely be here... and that weighs on you more than a lot of people will admit or notice.

Being in survival mode mentally and physically is no way to live at all.

 

[SilentSadness]

I don't think having food, clothes and shelter mean that you have an 'objectively good' life. According to Maslow's hierarchy of needs those things only constitute 'fundamental biological requirements for survival'. I think that almost everyone has a significant reason to be depressed which is why I don't gatekeep depression.

 

[Rnr.369.35]

I mean a life as in you never had to worry for food, clothes, housing. Maybe you were bought gifts, or have friends or are in a relationship. But despite all of it you are still depressed or considering CTB. I know I kind of have, I don't have any friends really, neither a relationship, but that's about the extent of my personal issues, the rest is just mental bullshit.

I absolutely hate when people say you have no reason to be depressed because you have an objectively good life, as if dismissing the entire pain that comes with just existing in general. Mentally and physically.

For me I had needs met. I drank my way into end stage liver disease (Cirrhosis) because I was always depressed since a little kid. Everyone left. Almost homeles now

 

[Hope;ess Fear]

By your definition, yes. I've never had to worry about food, clothes, or shelter, I have a loving mom, and a few friends. But that doesn't take away the fear. My country doesn't want people like me, and none of the above can change that.

In a way I wish I didn't have what I do. I would ctb today if it wouldn't hurt my mom. I don't want to make my pain hers.

 

[EvisceratedJester]

I would say that my life is objectively good for the most part. No past trauma or hardships, close with my family, have access to food and shelter, I have a bf who loves me a lot (and I love him too), etc. I just don't like being alive.

 

[Cauliflour]

Objectively I've had a great life, but I have autism so all of that goes down the fucking drain.
Objectively I've had a great life, but I have autism so all of that goes down the fucking drain.

 

[PI3.14]

Almost had it perfect years ago, like 10 years ago. It's objectively bad now.

 

[derekWest]

By global standards? Yes. By British standards? No.

Why this difference?

 

[kopebaldy]

Currently? No.

Had? Absolutely.

And I was suicidal back then too.

People love to act like mental anguish doesn't matter as long as one is financially secured.

 

[ididnotconsent]

It was good for a bit during my childhood and early adolescence but then went to complete and utter shit shortly afterwards.

 

[knickknack81]

I would say yes I had a good life but recently it has all gone down hill. Broke up with a long time partner, had a falling out with my family (the ones that are still alive), work has gone downhill, friends have lost touch, and things just seem to be spiraling out of control. Hence, the thoughts of CTB. I can't help but keep looking back at my life and thinking how everything went wrong. I struggle with really bad anxiety and depression these days and I dont see it getting any better.

 

[WatchmeBurn]

Why this difference?

Because the UK is far richer than the rest of the world such that even poorer people have a better quality of life than many in far poorer countries. This is because of unequal exchange.

Unequal exchange - Wikipedia

en.wikipedia.org

 

[Pluto]

 

[amerie]

It would've been fine if I wasn't nd and had normal parents who cared enough

 

[Gustav Hartmann]

I definitively had a good life, now I am old and will end it with a good, self-determined death.

 

[Alexandra_]

No. My life has always brought me nothing but suffering