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LivvenDe
Student
- Sep 22, 2021
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I have encountered a lot of people in SS who say they hate themselves...
For me, personally, this is a concept I don't quite understand, and if you do hate yourself, would you mind trying to explain me why?
The reason it is hard for me to understand is that my hatred/indignation/revolt has always been directed "externally", which means for example that when I thought I was ugly, I wasn't angry at me specifically, but I was angry at society for setting stupid beauty standards, or angry at whoever/whatever had put me into the world to suffer...
When I came to the conclusion I was gay, I also didn't hate myself for that. Specially because I had done nothing wrong, I was just made this way. Of course I felt ashamed, I used to try to hide it, but I never blamed myself for it.
Whenever I didn't go well in some test in school I also didn't hate myself, I hated the fact that I had to do the test in the first place.
Don't get me wrong... I am not saying I go about blaming everything/everyone else for my shit/shortcomings... I know of my responsibility towards my own well being, society etc. It is just that I don't direct any hatred towards me, because tbh, deep down I don't think I really have any control whatsoever, I didn't even decide I would be born, so why would I be angry at myself for something I cannot be blamed for?
Well, but if you do direct hate feelings towards yourself, feel free to share about it so I can try to understand it better from your perspective ;)
Thanks!
For me, personally, this is a concept I don't quite understand, and if you do hate yourself, would you mind trying to explain me why?
The reason it is hard for me to understand is that my hatred/indignation/revolt has always been directed "externally", which means for example that when I thought I was ugly, I wasn't angry at me specifically, but I was angry at society for setting stupid beauty standards, or angry at whoever/whatever had put me into the world to suffer...
When I came to the conclusion I was gay, I also didn't hate myself for that. Specially because I had done nothing wrong, I was just made this way. Of course I felt ashamed, I used to try to hide it, but I never blamed myself for it.
Whenever I didn't go well in some test in school I also didn't hate myself, I hated the fact that I had to do the test in the first place.
Don't get me wrong... I am not saying I go about blaming everything/everyone else for my shit/shortcomings... I know of my responsibility towards my own well being, society etc. It is just that I don't direct any hatred towards me, because tbh, deep down I don't think I really have any control whatsoever, I didn't even decide I would be born, so why would I be angry at myself for something I cannot be blamed for?
Well, but if you do direct hate feelings towards yourself, feel free to share about it so I can try to understand it better from your perspective ;)
Thanks!