Discussion Do you hate your parents?

[Adûnâi]

Apologies for promoting "hate" (xd) but I thought this might be appropriate. My mom cooks for me and leaves a few times a month (I'm 27), but I still ultimately despise her for not making an abortion (it's free in the Ukraine thanks to Lenin).

I have never been beaten, so I don't feel forced to "love" my parents.

My mom is still the only human I can talk to using my voice (albeit I have to speak in this Ukrainian language), so that's something, at least.

 

[Forever Sleep]

No, I love my parents. Overall, they did their best and I think they had good intentions.

I'm not happy about some of their decisions though. I do wish they hadn't had children and I am an anti-natilist myself.

My Mum put off having chemo when she found out she was pregnant- her cancer diagnosis happened simultaneously. If I'm honest- I wished she'd just had the chemo. Maybe she thought she would still recover afterwards but- she didn't. I find it strange they didn't even consider that possibility but I guess it takes quite a lot to abort a child when you want one.

I feel like my Dad also knowingly exposed me to a (suspected) narcissist when he remarried. I think he had this naive idea that a loving environment would solve any problem.

So- all I can blame my parents for is naivity with maybe a hint of selfishness. That said- I'm way more selfish than they are/ were. I guess I feel resentful about my life but blame is a little strong because I don't think they intentionally meant it to turn out this way.

 

[Praestat_Mori]

I don't hate my parents at all - I love my parents. I also don't hate that I came into existence - I loved to live my life for most of the time. Only the last few years were a nightmare and the nightmare (declining life quality) hasn't come to an end yet.

 

[falling_snow]

My parents DO love me, but I feel like they can't understand me. I have gone through a lot silently and sometimes they say some really out of place shit. Coming out of the closet this year, being diagnosed with depression, I feel like a burden to them (they have said that).

 

[Life_and_Death]

depends on which set.
my bio mother and step father the most
my bio father and step mother not as much
i dont talk to any of them though. it makes me feel so amazing being rejected by 4 parents.

 

[Morte]

I hate my dad, but not my mom.

 

[BlackMoon]

I hate my genitors. They both physically and mentally abused me as a child. I hate people still telling things like "they're still your parents" etc.

No, they're just unforgivable monsters and they still haunts my nightmares today. Their violence, their sadism, it's inscribed in my flesh. Forever. I can't get rid of it. I can't forget. I hate them from the bottom of my bruised heart.

 

[FuneralCry]

No, I don't hate them exactly but rather I just hate existence in general and I find it very tragic how they so harmfully imposed existence in the first place. More than anything I wish I never existed, only never being burdened with the ability to exist is perfection.

 

[Unknown21]

Yes, i hate them so much.

 

[Krokodile]

Hate is a strong word. I do think they failed me when I was a child. I cut contact with them many years ago.

 

[ScubaCTB]

I don't hate my parents. But their divorce when I was a tween destroyed my life. I was well on my way to being a balanced young man with a real career and his own family. It still would have hurt. But I wish they at least had the decency to wait it out until I was 18 and out of the house. My mom once told me to "get over it." I don't hate her. But I never forgave her for saying that highly insensitive remark.

 

[Slow_Farewell]

I used to. But then I realized that they raised me the best way they knew how to at the time. It might not have been correct, but it was their best. Now I don't hate them but I havent spoken to them for 10 years+ already so..

 

[ijustwishtodie]

You should be thanking them for your existence otherwise you wouldn't have anything to hate in your posts and sermons

Wouldn't that be a good thing instead of a bad thing? Why should they be thankful for hating life so much to where they vent about wanting to be dead everyday in this small corner of the internet?

 

[caninecomposer]

I don't have "parents", I was brought into this world accidentally by two random non-married abusive alcoholics who didn't want children, and couldn't care for themselves, let alone someone else. I have no idea how I survived past infancy, but I ended up raising myself as soon as I was able to climb onto counters and hopefully find old stale bread to eat. I luckily haven't been in contact with them for a very long time, but I forever despise them for being so irresponsible, neglectful, and harmful.

 

[LaVieEnRose]

Yes. I couldn't love the ones who put me in this hell. That's too much to ask for. That said even though I wouldn't love them I might not feel antipathy towards them and maybe even feel obliged to stick around if it had just been a matter of that. But their parenting lacked a lot of things.

 

[loslassen]

I don.t hate them in the slightest, in fact I might love them just so much that all I do is for them all I've done was for them, sacrificing myself over and over for them and what they need, their tranquility, never speaking up specially not whilst they're stressed. I hate what they've turned me into since they are so unavailable, a desperate person for attention and acknowledgment, recognition, it's pitiful.

 

[ThymeToLeave]

No. They tried their best, I failed them every time.

 

[LastBitOfJoy]

I don't hate them, but I hate how ignorant they are.

 

[dreamingofrest]

I love them both, actually, despite everything. It's complicated sometimes but they never meant me any harm.

 

[Aim]

Hate is a strong word. But I think I can say yess. When you abuse, shame and terrorize your children and people in general. There is no mercy on that.

 

[TheShadowKing]

No I hate them their the reason I'm fucked in the head

 

[hibikikyuxx]

I hate narcissists and abusers so yes, I hate my parents. Even if they weren't abusive, I would still hate them. My father is a racist and homophobe and my mother supports Putin and Trump; I was pretty much doomed the moment I was born.

 

[saddo]

I don't hate them. I'm very close to my mum. I do feel like my childhood was not great and I feel like it messed me up and I've never really got over it. It feels like I'm just messed up now and nothing will ever change that. I don't know why. I feel like loads of people had much worse childhoods than me so I shouldn't be this messed up but I am anyway. I've never really managed to get it together.

Also I feel like I've been a terrible parent too. I think it would have been much better if I hadn't been born and hadn't passed my misery on to anyone else.

 

[BlazingBob]

My parents hate each other and their kids. That's about the only thing my brothers and I can agree on. They're vicious. I don't hate them. I think the word disgusted might be more accurate. I definitely don't love them. I tried, and tried for decades to get them to love me but both of them are empty wells. My mom has said a million times how much she regrets having kids and my dad has encouraged me to ctb. I really hit the lottery when it comes to family

 

[Kasumi]

Hate is a strong word. I do think they failed me when I was a child. I cut contact with them many years ago.

pretty much same thing.
saying I hate them is a bit much, rather I don't see my family as family, they're random people to me and I couldn't care less about them.

Although I do have some ill feelings, after all if not for that shitty family I wouldn't have to struggle quiet as much as I do now.
That said they're not worse than any random shitty people, just incredibly selfish, ignorant and conceited.

 

[Attrine]

My sympathy for my mom is the only reason I haven't CTB yet so no

 

[F@#$]

No,I hate myself.

 

[idkrat]

kinda complicated, they indeed abused me most of my life but still respect them. My mom is dead and I almost never see my father so its alright now. I just dont feel anything towards them.

 

[Archness]

Unironic mommy issues.

But fr, in my youth I had plenty of toys and attention but still autism. Eventually mother started to rly dislike me, always on the lookout for things to get angry about, always harsh, always putting me down, etc. When I was small she'd often push me around and yell to just make me cry like a baby.

Beyond throwing resources at me, trying to get others to "fix" me, or trying to have these "bonding experience", it just solidifies that shit isn't ever gonna click for me.

Nowadays, mother can so easily go from hating my guts and yelling abt how worthless I am to, atleast acting like she cares. How could I take that motherly voice seriously knowing she'll inevitably fall back on being hateful and angry, disappointed and angry.

I wouldn't say it "broke" me, her actions just lead to this... Indifference.

 

[snowlance]

LMAO Why is this so relevant to me, absolutely now I do yes