Discussion Do you hate your parents for bringing you to this terrible world

[Villager_37]

I hate them....I hate her.....so so much, bring me to a place like this, she didn't give birth to me for "love" or "caring" She give birth to me as a "MESSAGE" to my trash of a human-being father, I was born solely as a tool to mock her "Husband" how "She did just fine raising a Tool 'Child' by herself" A pity rivalry I had and have no part with, after that, I was nothing but an emotional support animal, I only exist when she want me to exist, or I make her to. Born to an already failed marriage and a father who's in jail & cheated on her, if she loved me even a single bit, she shouldn't even give birth to me, I should've be aborted, but no, I'm here, with her. Strangling each other while not wanting to even harm each other, as a symbiosis. Still, I hate myself not as but more than I hate her, through the years, I found out that to fight against this 'Life' this 'Family', no weapon is better than the existence of myself, I am the best weapon and the only weapon for this, and I'm still preparing the courage to fully utilize this "tactical advantage"

 

[depthss]

i hate my parents. my mom was not ever really abusive or anything, just not a good parent, and i dont feel any type of love or like for her. but at least she stayed, thats more than i can say about my father lol, i dont really like him either. i hate my step-dad as well, hes been with my mom since i was a toddler. im very mad they brought me into the world, and i cant stand being around her. im planning to stop talking to her someday, just for this reason.
ive never understood the desire to have kids. i have pretty much no maternal instinct, i hate being around kids. i find the idea of it kind of annoying and stressful. i dont really find them cute either tbh, one of my friends had a baby recently, and i mostly felt bored being around them, i was only there because i would seem like an ass if i didnt go lol. i dont understand the appeal. im aware of how edgy and stupid this sounds, and i feel kinda cringey just typing it all, but its really just how i feel

 

[permanently tired]

Atm I'm indifferent. I was disgruntled at them at most, I despise circumstance more. The world is not ready to host a mentality like mine. I can't blame them entirely, my mother tried her best. She enrolled me in many extracurriculars and wanted to set me on a path she thought was good. My father was not in my life a lot, he always worked till late in the morning and slept during the day so I don't have strong feelings towards him.

It's a nuisance I have figure out how to deal with a problem they created though.

 

[gloomurai]

I can neither hate or love them, I sympathize with my mother to a certain degree. She had seemingly worse experiences than I have, trying her best but still her actions affected us heavily. My father, not being much in my life, I feel nothing to him. I don't have hatred to that man but I neither love him. He's just my blood father. My mother's background effected her parenting. She had kids due to abusive partner(my father) and making "stupid decisions". She was mislead and couldn't rely on her parents. I can't hate her for being similar to me.

 

[3rdworldsadness]

Yes I do hate them for bringing me in a world where they can't even give me a good life it's very selfish. I assume they bought me in this world to make their slave. I'm already living poorly in 3rd world of mess. That's why I'm an AN and will never forgive them.

 

[CacklingZombie]

Mine said that directly, that even i should have children so i have someone to take care of me when im old. Horrible. It's like a pyramid scheme. The fractal expands to the big picture by manifesting the incoming population demographic catastrophe with healthcare and pensions in western countries with low birth rates

This. What blatant disrespect. An appropriate 'fuck you' appears to me to be to let them deal with their old age on their own. We're gonna kill ourselves anyway. Let those selfish a-holes die in the bed they made for us.

 

[Ashu]

I feel guilty for ruining their life, but not having children was just not a concept for them at the time.

 

[tinyhotot]

I dont hate them for bringing me into this world, but I've openly criticized my mom for it. I told her she wasn't forced to have me, she had the option of deletus right there. So she has no right to complain when I complain, because ultimately my suffering was her choice.

 

[foreverlanguish]

Honestly, I love my parents and don't hate them for giving birth to me. I'm actually glad they did, as I learnt so many things along the way and believe I've become somewhat of a better person because of the things I experienced on this planet. That being said, I feel more bad for hurting them throughout my life. The only thing I could say I hate about them is how much they try to propagate pro life BS in my head. I despise this world and still want to kill myself.

 

[sximii]

Sometimes I feel like I do hate them. But really it's not their fault. They're good people. Everything that happened is not their fault, it's events out of their control. My entire family is very emotionally difficult/ mentally unstable and that's just how we are. It's very exhausting and painful and definitely caused me LOTS of problems but it's just genetics. We're all trying our best. Traumas that happened to me were done by someone outside my family. Maybe it's my fault I never told them until years later (although to be fair I forgot about it, dissociative amnesia), or maybe it's theirs that they aren't trustworthy enough. I don't know honestly. They never did anything inherently bad, and they try their best most of the time (even if it doesn't often work), so I still love them. It's honestly complicated.

 

[pachamacha]

my mother hates me for bringing me in to the world doesnt love me im just like my dad i ruin her life she wish i never born trolollolll shes entitiled hard done by anger at people intetefing her life for any inconvinience

anyway she teenager not planned i second child she's got problems herself still does i think

i just thought the hatred is more her feelings funny to me in a sense

blame hate regret resent they express time and place overal radical acceptence it is what it is just adds to burden there is no practicual use of hate that can not be used productivily in a controlled sense

no emotions are bad all emotions felt is good time and place or do an elsa im too tired and scatter brained one track mind tho i have my fair share being an edgelord

just i think of seperating the wrongs and rights it is what it is kinda thing when my brain is coperating with me

 

[ThatRussianDude]

Its not their fault I am who I am. My mom tried her best. But sometimes it just doesn't work out. How could she know I would have mental problems and not fit in this world. I don't blame her at all. She still loves me and I am sub-human thrash

How about: 'was he drunk or something when we did it' to a child of 11 y.o.

 

[currantcranberry]

ive always been closer to my dad and have a strained relationship with my mom, but thats typical daughter stuff i suppose. i dont hate them for having me, they couldntve known how id turn out and they had hard lives themselves. i find it funny though, because my mom prayed for a daughter after having two sons, and i was what showed up, lol.

 

[kunikuzushi]

I don't hate my mom. I just don't talk to her or see her except like once a year. I haven't talked to my dad in 13 years. So I don't know what I feel. I just try not to think about them.

I do think their decision to give birth to me was stupid. Especially because of how they treated me. And how anytime I expressed how much I was suffering they would get mad at me. If you're going to bring me into this hellish world, at least help me. But now I don't feel guilty that my mom gives me money because I think I deserve it as compensation.

 

[CatLvr]

No. I hate them for the way they treated me after I got here.

 

[EternalShore]

Yes, largely because I have been told over and over again by them that the only reason I exist is because they were religious, and as a Roman Catholic, she wasn't able to have an abortion- and this has been a seething point of rage and hatred for them ever since. It's part of why I've vowed to never have children. Some people are not fit to be parents, don't wish to be parents- and in my case, wound up treating their child like a demonic presence in their life, a divine punishment: a thing to beat and blame and heap the weight of 'ruining their life' upon, to scream at that they wish I had never existed.

They could have given me up, but refused to lose social status among those they knew by doing so, and I think eventually came to enjoy having a punching bag to scapegoat all of their blame onto- for their unhappy marriage, for unrealized talents, for education opportunities lost... If you have a shitty life, and an easy means to point the finger of blame at, it's easy to see why they would begrudgingly keep around their object to beat and psychologically terrorize and abuse so badly even trauma specialists have thrown up or burst into tears in horror at what I've shared in session with them.

They don't love me. They never have. They have outright expressed their hatred, their loathing. Why would I not hate them in turn? I haven't had a maternal figure since she attempted a double homicide suicide when I wasn't even a preteen yet- a literal child. What could a child do that was so bad, so wrong, to deserve that? Nothing I did, certainly- the quiet, studious, ineffably polite child, who only wanted to avoid getting hit in the face and to read in the library, where it was quiet and safe.

I'm really sorry to hear about that~ :( You did not deserve to be put in the middle of all that, and especially blamed for it like you did~ >_< especially since it's not even your fault for being born in the first place and certainly not your fault that your mother was presumably arrested! :/ their treatment of you must've placed irreparable psychological damage on you! >_< even tho you did your best not to get involved~ :( I wish your situation could improve past where it became due to them and that they can one day understand all your pain too~ :)

In regards to myself, no. They treated me well and helped make my life great for the first 14 years~ :) Plus, I know it's unpopular here, but I want kids myself too~

 

[judestfrancis]

i hate my mother for not thinking more of herself. i cant be too upset, she was a child and didnt really know what else to do, but i wonder a lot if her life would have been better without me. if she would have felt better without me.

 

[czzod]

i don't hate them at all of having me i mainly just feel sorry for them. my parents, all of them, are good people who have accomplished so so much and i'm so messed up i constantly think about ctb even though i know it will make them upset. i hate myself much more than u ever would my parents. i feel bad because they constantly worry about me and i just want to disappear so i'm no longer burdening them