Do you get frustrated with your neurotypical friends?

[EGR92]

I only have one friend left in this world and i have always been jealous of her, perfect life never coming across any sort of mental health difficulty, good well paid job, a flat that her parents bought her and a stable relationship.
She knows about my mental health difficulties but i just don't think she 'gets' it at all. Yesterday she said 'i wish you could come and get me for a drive' knowing how unwell i am - im not safe to drive and have no access to my car at the moment because of that. I said i wasn't safe to drive and she questioned me why! Then today she asked me if i was 'talking' to anyone. How could i have any interest in anything romantic right now?! im consumed with pain and thoughts of dying. I dont know... i just wish someone would understand and take me seriously..

 

[kinzokukae]

i get what you mean, it's hard to talk to people who don't experience what we do - even when they try their best to understand, it's impossible. i hate it when someone goes 'can't you ____? have you tried ___ or ____?' god please just take my word for it when i tell you i KNOW what works and doesn't for me, don't just try to give me pointless advice

 

[EGR92]

i get what you mean, it's hard to talk to people who don't experience what we do - even when they try their best to understand, it's impossible. i hate it when someone goes 'can't you ____? have you tried ___ or ____?' god please just take my word for it when i tell you i KNOW what works and doesn't for me, don't just try to give me pointless advice

Yep!! my favourite one from her was "Try not to think about it" oh why didn't i think of that?!

 

[kinzokukae]

Yep!! my favourite one from her was "Try not to think about it" oh why didn't i think of that?!

this and 'try to distract yourself' is advice i give to my friends when they think of their ex, not what i want to hear when the world is tearing into me

 

[Klee]

Normal people are quite tiring.

 

[EGR92]

Normal people are quite tiring.

Ahmen to that

 

[Deleted member 17949]

They're pretty understanding tbh, got lucky with them.

 

[SSlostallhope]

Can't remember what it felt like to have friends

 

[Nyxx33]

I used to get more frustrated because of jealousy, then when I wasn't so jealous but felt like I didn't fit in I often felt the need to escape any situation where I get in my head and see my friends as much better than me and more stable. Now I am trying to not be the jealous resentful type and just be happy for them, knowing I just have made certain choices in my life and I have no one to blame but myself. If I get frustrated I tell myself it's me, it's not them, don't take it personally, it's just petty feelings coming up.

 

[person123]

I don't have friends. No friends, no problems.