I think you are taking a micro view and I am looking at society as a whole. I think the child-free philosophy and that people are super happy in it are lying to themselves. They are told that's what they should want they have the issues above and probably ones I don't recognize. It's also different when you know you can have kids then when you find out you can't when you really really want one but now you are too old. Look here https://ifstudies.org/blog/shrinkin...-6-women-in-their-40s-have-never-given-birth- . Women's happiness in every age group is better when they are married. In fact with one minor exception I would expect to not be statistically significant women's happiness in the unmarried/no children category is worse then unmarried with children. 18-34 you see over 4x more women report being very happy in the married with kids group then unmarried no kids group. 35-54 2x the amount. 55+ 2.5x the amount. The countervailing argument comes predominately from Paul Dolan who essentially retracted what he said on the topic. It is truly shocking how many articles went forth and quoted him because it pushed the narrative. What narrative? That being childless/marriageless should make you the happiest person on the planet! I'd go as far as saying I know why... It gives them a purpose. How many women are saying they are happy being single and childless because they think they should be happy? That this is what happiness is. The point being this... Almost everything you read on the topic denigrates men to a very large degree. Treats them as borderline inhuman. I think we are used to it. You say it isn't the 70s.... But I don't think people are clamoring for that man or woman. They are clamoring for an equal relationship. I think it is scaring people because for every women dropping out is a man that won't get a woman to marry.
Lastly, I think it could be said women fought back. Back the results are maybe not what they want it to be. Look at depression, suicide rates, happiness, levels etc... Are people today really more happy? Does that mean bring the 70s back God no. But maybe not push away everything that existed like marriage and family. People don't have more friendships then 50 years ago either see here https://nypost.com/2021/07/27/americans-have-fewer-friends-than-ever-before-study/ or here . America is lonely and this is one of the reasons driving it. Are some women and men happier single without marriage sure. But it is probably about the same amount it has always been. Again like I said before numerous factors are at play. Technology, cultural shift for the worse, women becoming more selective, men being pushed away and left behind academically, etc.... Bottom line though what this shows is men *Do* matter. And both women and men should be pissed. Women should be pissed they are being sold on a lie (and this lie by the way is being bought more by educated women) and men should be pissed their value is basically nothing. Literally when is the last time you watched virtually any show or saw anything portraying a man in a positive light? Think about the words used today like mansplaining or manflu that are derogatory towards males. Dude can't even get some chicken noodle soup and a nap when he is sick without being called a bitch basically. I'm tired and this has already taken way too long but we both know many many others that are probably much better exist.
For the record there's an elephant in the room that should be addressed as well. Porn. The industry is designed to exploit men particularly boys. Want to know the average age a male watches porn for the *first* time. 11 years old. 15% have seen porn before the age of 10. Meaning on average if they had a child the day of the first time they had seen porn, by the time they could legally drink that child would be a year from having a child themselves. Put another way by the time a man can legally drink in the US he'll have watched a decade of porn. 44% of people seek out porn the first time or 56% find it accidentally. Porn has a lot of nasty side effects like premature ejaculation for instance. Guess what is bound to happen in this scenario... he will watch porn. Society is destroying relationships particularly families and it isn't for the better. To summarize men aren't supported in school to the contrary actually, by fifth grade they will have consumed porn for the first time on average, society continually tells them they suck basically, anytime a man needs helped he's basically mocked and told to deal with it, women are by and large leaving the dating scene to their own suffering, and society is better? I don't think so.
I think the one article listed 3s receiving the lionshare of the messages.
I think there is an active campaign against manhood because it thought to make womenhood better you must denigrate men. Why? Because lifting both of them up is hard. It takes work. It isn't easy. It doesn't win votes in November. Make men that had 0 part in society being the way it is and tell them they suck from the day they are born. I am here to say men don't suck. I think the article basically said men aren't sending in applications (see what I said regarding schools) and therefore to have somewhat even numbers it is easier for men to get in. And notably people were pretty peeved about this. Somewhat ironic considering in other instances like Asians applying they don't seem to care but whatever. Double standards will double standard.
Ehh you are looking at as a numbers game without needing too. There's apps with a skew towards women being the dominate party in the dating app sphere. Not dominate but bumble has a better ratio then say tinder. I agree it is bullshit. And above is the reasons why. Men are being devalued significantly. I am just saying I don't like it. It should stop. That is why.
