Discussion Dismissal of Suicidal Thoughts by Loved Ones

[Alcoholic Failure]

Because of my known alcoholism, my family and friends attribute my suicidal thoughts to alcohol intoxication/blackouts. Although alcohol certainly increases the frequency of these thoughts, it is not true that once I quit drinking then those thoughts go away. I was 11 months sober when I hung myself for the first time. I'm curious to know: to what extent do your friends/family dismiss your suicidal thoughts as a product of something external?

 

[Toy]

My family associates my suicidal thoughts to myself being online and inside of my room all of the time, which is completely not true since I was suicidal without the help of the internet at a very young age and being outside of my room makes me more suicidal than being inside of it. The internet is the only sense of a "normal life" I have. When my family tried to take away my phone to make me "feel better", I ended up being more suicidal openly due to them taking away the only outlet I had, which they did not care or comment about.

 

[Alcoholic Failure]

Thank you for responding to my post. Feel free to PM me if you want to converse about this or other issues.

 

[MildlyBetter]

I remember when I first mentioned being suicidal to my parents, a few years ago when I was 16. I feel like they never really took it seriously, they mostly blamed it on me not doing enough productive things or playing too many video games, just stuff like that. I don't blame them, they were raised in a culture where this kind of stuff was never talked about, so it's not really their fault, but it was somewhat disheartening to me and I never really talked to them about mental health again.

 

[DazaiKinnie]

Because of my known alcoholism, my family and friends attribute my suicidal thoughts to alcohol intoxication/blackouts. Although alcohol certainly increases the frequency of these thoughts, it is not true that once I quit drinking then those thoughts go away. I was 11 months sober when I hung myself for the first time. I'm curious to know: to what extent do your friends/family dismiss your suicidal thoughts as a product of something external?

It's a combination of factors that they blame it on:
1. Mental Illness
2. Spending too much time inside(like getting some fresh air will help or whatever they say)
3. Writing too much about death(I am a writer and most of my books include death and suicide in them)
There was and still is similar dismissal, where I was told that I have to live because I will hurt everyone else. And also my mom telling me that she owns me (that how she put it, in more colorful and kind words, even tho I am an adult). Or my therapist told me that I shouldn't do it because it's not natural for parents to bury their children and that's bad and wrong. She sent me a whole novel about how life is a gift and how I am irrational, dismissing my mind slowly decaying and going more distant from reality as time goes.

 

[SilentSadness]

I don't really have "loved ones" but I guess any pro-lifer is bound to be toxic and dismissive. After all, their world view is that torture is positive if it extends life, so it would be foolish to assume that they would have any empathy at all. You're also right that wanting death isn't generally the fault of someone's lifestyle, and pro-lifers will blame anything but life itself. I hope you find better people to be around soon.

 

[Alcoholic Failure]

It's a combination of factors that they blame it on:
1. Mental Illness
2. Spending too much time inside(like getting some fresh air will help or whatever they say)
3. Writing too much about death(I am a writer and most of my books include death and suicide in them)
There was and still is similar dismissal, where I was told that I have to live because I will hurt everyone else. And also my mom telling me that she owns me (that how she put it, in more colorful and kind words, even tho I am an adult). Or my therapist told me that I shouldn't do it because it's not natural for parents to bury their children and that's bad and wrong. She sent me a whole novel about how life is a gift and how I am irrational, dismissing my mind slowly decaying and going more distant from reality as time goes.

I don't really have "loved ones" but I guess any pro-lifer is bound to be toxic and dismissive. After all, their world view is that torture is positive if it extends life, so it would be foolish to assume that they would have any empathy at all. You're also right that wanting death isn't generally the fault of someone's lifestyle, and pro-lifers will blame anything but life itself. I hope you find better people to be around soon.

Thank you for your response. I often hear people tell me that "there is nothing you can't come back from". That is a blatant lie. The world is full of people that bit of more than they could chew, and are dead because of it. That includes suicide or otherwise.

 

[awaitinglove]

growing up my family was very dismissive of my suicidal thoughts. they always blamed it on being a hormonal teenager, isolating myself, or just being a drama queen. it's been a few years since then and they seem to take my mental health way more seriously. i think this is because they started realizing that I wasn't getting any better. now it's hard for me to open up about suicidal because of how dismissive they about my suicidal thoughts.

 

[Rob1984]

I personally don't tell my family members. I've tried explaining my depression, and that in itself was confusing for them and was met with a lot of judgment. If they can't comprehend or empathize with my depression, I ain't even gonna attempt to explain suicidal tendencies. That would be a disaster lol.

 

[LittleJem]

I went to a 'recovery' meeting today. So many of us with lives full of nothingness, mental health issues, extreme boredom. There's a reason why people drink or use drugs. for most of us the drinking or drugs is not the cause of our suffering but how we cope with it.