Depression is a luxury

[idiotstillwantstodie]

I just briefly thought about all the people who have little kids, families to run, people depending on them and all i can say, is that depressive thinking is really a luxury.

With kids you have lie all the time, tell them that they matter when they dont, tell them that life has a meaning when it doesnt, tell them that they are going to be fine when they are not etc. You probably even end up believing your own bullshit in the end.

In a way, I'm one lucky bastard.

 

[D&D]

Glad you think so ... Enjoy your luxury.

I think depression is an umbrella word coined to cover all kinds of human responses to trauma and painful life circumstances.

Having the time and space to ponder it is what, in my view, could be termed 'luxury.'

 

[Sherri]

Luxury?? I wish it was so I could get rid of it. I wish things were just as simple as a "luxury". The only luxury about it is the hundreds of money I spend each month to make me at least a bit functional, so I can work and have a warm house to sleep.

 

[Jaded Pear]

I don't think depressive thinking could ever really be considered a luxury, generally something which is a luxury brings you comfort and I'm sure we would all be slightly more comfortable if we managed to get rid of even a fraction of our depression.

I do kind of understand where you're coming from though. If I had kids I would be much worse than I am. Knowing I would probably end up becoming worse parents than my own and having to pretend everything is fine when it's not, just to try and avoid repeating history would ruin me.

I guess in comparison to someone who has kids and depression, I have the luxury of being able hide under my covers and pretend there are no problems for a while, because I have no one who really depends on me. For me depression will never be a luxury, not having kids could be seen as blessing to people like me at least. But if you seem to enjoy your depression, more power to you.

 

[Nostalgic]

Lol if it is a luxury, wish to god you could get rid of it. Soz completely unrelated, Does anyone know how many replies do you have to have to be able to dm people? Someone made a post on my profile but I can't reply to him/her.

I just briefly thought about all the people who have little kids, families to run, people depending on them and all i can say, is that depressive thinking is really a luxury.

With kids you have lie all the time, tell them that they matter when they dont, tell them that life has a meaning when it doesnt, tell them that they are going to be fine when they are not etc. You probably even end up believing your own bullshit in the end.

In a way, I'm one lucky bastard.

Looking at the night sky without light pollution. Sometimes as humans we forget we are just ants on a rock spinning through outer space. Each one of these stars have their own solar system. Looking at the sky at first I was terrified, like it would just swallow me whole. Because I was alone by myself, pitch black a predator could just sneak up behind me and just kill me. but looking at the sky again I felt at peace. Maybe because I was not alone, there is so much out there. Forget the materialistic things, the social media things, the social status, the money. Its okay to feel things you know ;)

 

[Someone123]

I just briefly thought about all the people who have little kids, families to run, people depending on them and all i can say, is that depressive thinking is really a luxury.

With kids you have lie all the time, tell them that they matter when they dont, tell them that life has a meaning when it doesnt, tell them that they are going to be fine when they are not etc. You probably even end up believing your own bullshit in the end.

In a way, I'm one lucky bastard.

Lucky compared to a person who has major depression in addition to all of those responsibilities- however, most people who have families are happy- it is the unlucky 1 or 2%, in my opinion, who have very bad luck and get overwhelmed by depression. When I was younger I made the big mistake of interpreting other people's family lives in light of my own family life- which was hell for me. If I had seen the happiness in other families I would have pursued that type of life, because that's the best way to alleviate loneliness.

 

[death137]

With kids you have lie all the time, tell them that they matter when they dont

This is funny

 

[Dragon's Heart]

I guess that's one way to think of it. Yes! I actually have something nice! I have depression!

 

[FuneralCry]

I see it as better to see the truth about life, rather than hold on to delusional beliefs. The way I see it, we are brought into this world just to suffer and trying to deny the harsh reality of this life will eventually just cause us to experience more pain.

 

[idiotstillwantstodie]

Lucky compared to a person who has major depression in addition to all of those responsibilities- however, most people who have families are happy- it is the unlucky 1 or 2%, in my opinion, who have very bad luck and get overwhelmed by depression.

I don't really care about happiness, i care about being able to see clearly, even if doing so makes me feel depressed.

 

[TheHatedOne]

I find depression to be more a curse than a luxury because it means more suffering which I despise.

 

[idiotstillwantstodie]

Luxury?? I wish it was so I could get rid of it. I wish things were just as simple as a "luxury". The only luxury about it is the hundreds of money I spend each month to make me at least a bit functional, so I can work and have a warm house to sleep.

Some people are constantly brainwashing themselves to be positive because they have to. Some of these people are deep down so desperate that they can't even afford to feel desperate. At least when i'm going down i'm going down alone. To me that's luxury.

 

[Sherri]

Some people are constantly brainwashing themselves to be positive because they have to. Some of these people are deep down so desperate that they can't even afford to feel desperate. At least when i'm going down i'm going down alone. To me that's luxury.

That js your opinion and I respect everyone's ideas.

 

[Sister of the Moon]

Some people are constantly brainwashing themselves to be positive because they have to. Some of these people are deep down so desperate that they can't even afford to feel desperate. At least when i'm going down i'm going down alone. To me that's luxury.

What would you rather they do? Show their children all the negative stuff and mess the children up for life as well? It's not brainwashing, it's trying one's best in spite of one's own difficulties.

 

[WhiteRabbit]

I think some people are just born happy or at least content, and I'm very envious of them. I've always been restless.

 

[idiotstillwantstodie]

What would you rather they do? Show their children all the negative stuff and mess the children up for life as well? It's not brainwashing, it's trying one's best in spite of one's own difficulties.

Yes, and that often involves living in denial of certain realities. Which was my point.

 

[Sister of the Moon]

Yes, and that often involves living in denial of certain realities. Which was my point.

It's not a denial, I can assure you. It still all hurts the soul. Even more so when the reality is that you can't check out because of not wanting to mess up the children's lives too. That's the reality of it, and it's nothing to do with brainwashing or denial. It's more about doing the right thing.