Debate on suicide

[Natbee]

Today something dawned on me and I want to get other's opinion on it.

Through my journey over the past couple of years, I've noticed there seems to be two types of suicide. I could be wrong.

From a distance you get people who leave no note, who stay quiet and one day they're gone.

Then you get others in my opinion that make their struggles known and get to a point of despair to when they either commit suicide or attempt suicide?

Just curious on everyone's views

My husband's best friend although he struggled with Mental Health through the years one day he was gone no note, no reason why, his family looking for answers that they never got.

Curious on everyone's thoughts

 

[Forever Sleep]

I think it can somewhat depend on the home environment/ culture in which we are raised. Whether we are encouraged to share our problems or, keep them to ourselves. Also- how much tolerance those around us have for issues like mental illness etc.

I wasn't exactly raised in an unsupportive environment but, there wasn't all that much tolerance for giving up, suicide, talk of mental illness. My Dad doesn't really believe in therapy. I get the sense he thinks it's people making too much fuss. Partly because he's gone through a lot without that support and probably assumes he made it through ok- so- why shouldn't others?

I imagine also- he probably fears and doesn't like the idea of parents getting blamed. I think he's a bigger proponent of individuals taking responsibility for themselves. I imagine we are greatly influenced by how our care givers raised us.

I think we learn through experience- how others around us react to what we say and reveal what we are struggling with. If all we get is a lecture on how others have it worse etc, we may learn it's better to stay quiet.

I expect men in particular are expected to be strong and cope. So- I think there is that too. People masking in order to live up to the expectations placed upon them.

As for people who speak up more. I imagine it's down to a range of things. Maybe they have perceptive and caring relations who believe it's important to share everything. Maybe they exhibit more obvious struggling behaviour that it's difficult for people to ignore. Maybe the attention they get is helpful.