When you feel shame, embarrassment hopelessness, sadness, feel that you can no longer go on, and think you may never see the ones you love again or even wonder what others are thinking as they look at you when your life has been exposed for all to see and have you even chosen this Avenue to either aid in your recovery or decide to ctb, I cannot help but respect your honesty and I am here for you.
Oh Swisher, I can't tell you how much that means to me. Thank you for kind and supportive remarks. As you can see above, I have been accused of just about the worst thing one can be accused of here - a fraud, a predator, whatever. I don't and won't ever understand what I could have said in any of my posts here to lead to those suspicions and accusations, but they're out there now for anyone to see. So this place may never again be for me the place it was - one where I could to tell my story openly and honestly (with all the ugly details of my infidelity, etc.). I'll never know how many here will read those accusations and conclude that indeed I am some kind of predator, or perhaps merely just entertain the suspicion that I might be - either way, I'll never feel quite as at home here as I did before this happened. So it means a lot that you reached out. I mean that. And likewise, if you ever need anything, I'll be here to listen. blessings to you. b
Easy to explain, buddy. You objectified sex workers in that self aggrandizing, tsunami like outpouring your "shame". You ostensibly were making some kind of confession, as if, like, seriously? Then you shift to soliciting sex workers to talk to you about the alleged harm they may have experienced in the patriarchal society.
Society has not been patriarchal since the state stepped in and created matriarchal policies. Patriarchy still exists, but it's becoming wiped out especially in the lower socioeconomic classes. These days in the US, women have rights over men. Families led by women are not patriarchy. Kids become more at risk of abuse when they have no bio dad living with them.
The reason that sex work is shamed is because women have a lot more power in the sexual arena especially when we are young. We are the gate keepers of sexual access and carry the power to decide what genes make it to the next generation. Women are supposed to be extremely discriminate in choosing a man because if we get pregnant it's a much higher cost to us and any kids that may result vs the consequences for a man. Casual sex for men is much more enjoyable and less risky than it is for women even now with access to good birth control. Women value security over casual sex because of the potential risk of pregnancy. Casual sex also breaks down a woman's ability to pair bond, which hurts you if u had many sexual partners and then at some point u decide to marry. It raises risk of divorce for women when we have lots of sexual partners. If too many women start to lower the standards for men to gain easy access sexually things actually get harder for men and women in society. Fewer men are willing to commit if they can get easy access to sex without the exchange of commitment and providing resources to the woman. It gradually breaks down society and fewer people can marry because the gender relations change. Only the very top percentage of attractive men get sexual access to the majority of women. Which is not good for society. Basically as a result of the sexual liberation of women, it destroys prosperity, more children grow up in poverty. It creates a lot of social ills.
I'm willing to bet the majority do not. Some do but it's so expensive and complicated to even file as an independent contractor. Many sex workers have mental health issues and dependent on some drugs to deal with the job which makes it difficult to be that organized. I'm sure some of them are higher functioning than others but I doubt the majority are that responsible lol! You should be happy they don't pay taxes. Taxation is theft anyway. A lot of your taxes do not go to your benefit, they go towards harming the citizenry. There's no transparency where that money goes and u have no choice about where it goes. Not paying taxes which I don't recommend but it does lessen the power of the state so in that respect it's positive.
I can certainly see many young women might choose sex work without knowing the true consequences. I come from a country that scores high on sexual liberation. I do think most of what you describe is true around most of the world but I havent observed this phenomena with woman with many sexual partners struggling to bond later in life. I dont know if you are from USA but I think this country is still placing a lot of subconscious sin on sex even in secular left wing circles because of remains from their religion and culture. Without sex workers I am afraid there will be some very negative consequences. I think it is very hard to judge the sex working industry and its ramification on the individuals and society based on an utillitarian model.
I'm sure there would be some sex workers who might choose this knowing all the consequences in a completely free society. I just don't think it would as common as it is now that the nuclear family has been broken down and feminist ideology got pushed on us. Many women do it now because they realize they can't make it on their low wage jobs, or they experience a lot of stress at a typical job. Men generally handle being in employment better than women because women less emotionally stable because of biology. Prostitution although can be dangerous, is lower stress, and more flexible than most jobs for women. This is probably the biggest reason women get into it. You get paid a liveable wage, no write up for a sick day, you can work the hours that work for you, no waiting on a paycheck, and you don't have to deal with office politics, evil female coworkers or bosses lol! The safest place for women has always been in a stable marriage. Once that got altered, it really messed things up. I'm not saying women not at fault for some of this stuff but it's also just not being educated properly about these things too. We are brainwashed to prioritize the wrong things while young to our detriment.
Yes :( this is what happened to me. I'd like to fix my life though.
Yet, there is nothing beyond anecdotal reports to support your claim. I'd appreciate some well published, repeated scientific studies that in any way support your claim. I have found none that are based in science, which from my perspective, is what I am willing to put my faith in here. History, is also not being accurately stated in your comment. Facts, data, would be helpful here, please. Thank you.
Here, you have put the egg before the chicken. And that is putting it mildly. I highly recommend you research the factual information as to why women earn less income, and therefore, pay less income tax. You may find you're lead to a different conclusion.
Oh, yes...all the ways to earn a living. Those who earn a living in an "illegal" or otherwise stigmatized manner, still pay a tax of sorts. We all do in one way or another. Everyone has to eat...
