Crushed dreams. Who has had them and what where they?

[TheAntidote87]

What's the one thing out always wanted to do but just couldn't or were hindered from because of some unfortunate event?

For me, it was being a lawyer. I got into a great law school and everything, too. Then my accident happened 3 months before orientation and never got to go. I think that's what broke me mentally. Not the accident itself. But that it took my dreams from me.

How about you guys?

 

[Anthagonos]

What's the one thing out always wanted to do but just couldn't or were hindered from because of some unfortunate event?

For me, it was being a lawyer. I got into a great law school and everything, too. Then my accident happened 3 months before orientation and never got to go. I think that's what broke me mentally. Not the accident itself. But that it took my dreams from me.

How about you guys?

Lots of different things...
For example I was great student but when my mother wanted to change me of school no one accepted me. Finally I ended in one of the worst educational level schools and I lost interest in studying.

About having a girlfriend.. lots of unfortunate events that causes not have a gf never.

About work.. was working very near home but tried ctb due to depression and I lost it. Now my work is far from home.

 

[Sinai Silence]

My dream to open a scuba diving center was cut short due to sinusitis. Its so painful under pressure changes and the last time I went diving I fell unconscious underwater. I had blood all over my face from my mouth and nose when I woke up.

I wanted to move to Queensland so I could be by the Great Barrier Reef and to escape my life, reading about it's bleaching always makes me cry.

 

[Wayfaerer]

I was on the path beginning at age 25 to have my own career that I loved, and a life of my very own. To have a life is something that I have never had before and I wanted to experience it for myself. career, hobbies, relationship, friends, freedom and independence. Things that I'd never had before unless you count media consumption as a "hobby" (I don't.) All that came crashing down at the beginning of 26 and since then it has been a tragic and brutal downward spiral into inevitable CTB. It all happened so fast... I'll never get to live, and I may as well have died in the womb.

 

[Tabbyql]

I wanted to be a vet. My anxiety and depression got so bad I could no longer go out to college course.

 

[waterbottleman]

1. Be a likable person
2. Have a decent dating life

HA!

 

[braketimez]

Start a business. I tried for 7 years, and got a few wins in the process. But this year I finally accepted I'm not cut out for it.

 

[Wisdom3_1-9]

Personal: I wanted to grow my family. I wanted a child, maybe even two. I wanted to nurture life and share my love with new beings. I wanted my mother to have grandchildren to hug and spoil.

Professional: I wanted a tenure-track position. I wanted to be known as one of the best in my field. In the early years of my career, I was always the really talented young star. I wanted to mature into the experienced guru. I wanted to share my gifts with as many people as possible all over the world.

I've always dreamed and I've always worked really hard towards achieving them. Now, my only dream is ctb.

 

[curiouskitty]

Dunno, I never really had dreams. I just wanted life to end from the moment I had the conscious decision to end it. /i swear i am not an edgy teenager/

 

[KiraLittleOwl]

Being cute, good looking, feminine. I had plastic surgery and it was botched.
Now I feel ugly, inferior and worthless.

 

[Lupgevif]

I used to dream about having children. Then I realized putting people in this vile world is cruel, especially if you don't know how to give them a proper upbringing (like my parents did to me). Now I still think about this dream of mine, but I know I must do my part to not pass this suffering forward.

 

[Isadeth]

Being a funeral director. I always settled for other career options when that is my true calling. So many things have kept me from it, specifically the bias against women in the field not to mention the difficulty in being hired if you weren't born into the industry.

I've settled and I hate myself for it. If I manage to survive my current problems, I hope to achieve my dream, but I'm not counting on it.

 

[TheAntidote87]

My dream to open a scuba diving center was cut short due to sinusitis. Its so painful under pressure changes and the last time I went diving I fell unconscious underwater. I had blood all over my face from my mouth and nose when I woke up.

I wanted to move to Queensland so I could be by the Great Barrier Reef and to escape my life, reading about it's bleaching always makes me cry.

That sounds amazing! Can you still find another job near the reef that isn't diving?

Personal: I wanted to grow my family. I wanted a child, maybe even two. I wanted to nurture life and share my love with new beings. I wanted my mother to have grandchildren to hug and spoil.

Professional: I wanted a tenure-track position. I wanted to be known as one of the best in my field. In the early years of my career, I was always the really talented young star. I wanted to mature into the experienced guru. I wanted to share my gifts with as many people as possible all over the world.

I've always dreamed and I've always worked really hard towards achieving them. Now, my only dream is ctb.

Although you are very ambitious, it is admirable that you want to use that ambition to benefit and include others. I hope something works out for you.

 

[TheAntidote87]

Being cute, good looking, feminine. I had plastic surgery and it was botched.
Now I feel ugly, inferior and worthless.

Sorry to hear that! I also had a botched surgery. Wishing the best for you going forward.

Being a funeral director. I always settled for other career options when that is my true calling. So many things have kept me from it, specifically the bias against women in the field not to mention the difficulty in being hired if you weren't born into the industry.

I've settled and I hate myself for it. If I manage to survive my current problems, I hope to achieve my dream, but I'm not counting on it.

That's a very unique and noble goal. I hope you achieve it!

 

[rt1989526]

Just to be a normal functioning human. Mental illness and now physical issues have taken that away

 

[TheAntidote87]

Just to be a normal functioning human. Mental illness and now physical issues have taken that away

The double whammy is no joke!! I am in the same boat. Wishing for a miracle .

 

[BPD Barbie]

I had dreams of having a family, continuing with my career, getting a house etc. Shame its all gone to shit

 

[GoneGoneGone]

Being a young mom, I mean before turning 30. Don't think it will ever happen now

 

[Ghost2211]

All I wanted out of life was a family. What I got was a cheater, and a ticket to being a single mom.

 

[Worthless_nobody]

Too many to list but one that is especially hard for me is loosing my home and now not able to get another one. I lost my home thanks to my lying abusive ex and it's been my dream to own a home again but covid crushed that dream right when I got the help to do it.

Another hard one is At one point I wanted a family but that dream was ripped and taken from me so cruel I'm still suicidal over the loss of my child and I doubt I'll ever recover.

 

[clocktower]

leaving the house (fighting agoraphobia) and living a relatively normal life. the moment i was motivated enough and gave it a really good shot i got OCD. the intrusive thoughts are ruining me. worst mental pain imaginable. now i can't even imagine living another day, never mind living a full average life.

 

[Sweet Release]

I dreamed about being a professional artist.
I threw everything I had into it body and soul!
When I got into art university I studied day and night when other students were often out partying.
I also had a part time job and worked as hard as I could.

Initially things went well.
I got good feed back, won several awards and had friends.
However towards the end of my second year I suffered a severe psychotic episode and ended up in long term hospital and then halfway homes.
Like that BOOM! the dream was over.
I was forgotten about by former friends and when I tried to study again on heavy medication I was treated like a joke.
These days I still make artwork but my confidence has been totally destroyed.

Too many to list but one that is especially hard for me is loosing my home and now not able to get another one. I lost my home thanks to my lying abusive ex and it's been my dream to own a home again but covid crushed that dream right when I got the help to do it.

Another hard one is At one point I wanted a family but that dream was ripped and taken from me so cruel I'm still suicidal over the loss of my child and I doubt I'll ever recover.

How terrible!
I can't imagine what it must be like to lose a child.

My dream to open a scuba diving center was cut short due to sinusitis. Its so painful under pressure changes and the last time I went diving I fell unconscious underwater. I had blood all over my face from my mouth and nose when I woke up.

I wanted to move to Queensland so I could be by the Great Barrier Reef and to escape my life, reading about it's bleaching always makes me cry.

Thats so sad.
I loved scuba diving when I used to do it and it sounds like you were good at it.
Serious illness like that just changes everything.

 

[moonangel18]

What's the one thing out always wanted to do but just couldn't or were hindered from because of some unfortunate event?

For me, it was being a lawyer. I got into a great law school and everything, too. Then my accident happened 3 months before orientation and never got to go. I think that's what broke me mentally. Not the accident itself. But that it took my dreams from me.

How about you guys?

Mine is to get married and travel. Too much responsibility hinders me to live my dreams. Maybe I'll be too old to enjoy when the time comes that I'll be free of the responsibility.