I have 3 very close friends. Two of them fully know my plans on suicide. One of them has a patient decree of mine where I clarify to respect the autonomy of my decision. I am kind of scared my dad could sue him for that. Lol. In case I ended up in a hospital in a coma where my friend has the legal right to end my life and my family wants to keep me going as a vegetable. I was more scared about that when I had my prior method choice in mind.
But this is not the question in the title. I won't make a goodbye thread in this forum when my time comes. (though when it actually happens is unclear for now). I am scared of the subtle and subconscious pressure that a goodbye thread can invoke. Moreover the moments are too private for me. Though I could imagine to give my two closest friends updates in my last hours.
When I thought about it I had some concerns. I think it could alleviate my pain being able to say goodbye to them. However could there be legal issues for them? I have mental illness so they will probably claim I never had the mental capacity to make this choice. In my patient degree I explained that my suicidality persists since many years and that the reason for my suicide is no acute crisis. I think this could give my friends some legal leeway. I am not sure who would actually sue them? The authorities or my family? I could imagine my friends could easily blame my parents for my suicide which certainly is the case. So maybe the guilt of their actions could lead to the fact that they blame themselves for it (?) and not my friends.
Maybe I could also delete all the messages soon before I die to decrease the likelihood people will go against them. As I said I think talking to them could help me a lot in my darkest hours. By the way I fully trust them that they would not interfere in it. So this is no reason for me not to do it.
What do you think?
But this is not the question in the title. I won't make a goodbye thread in this forum when my time comes. (though when it actually happens is unclear for now). I am scared of the subtle and subconscious pressure that a goodbye thread can invoke. Moreover the moments are too private for me. Though I could imagine to give my two closest friends updates in my last hours.
When I thought about it I had some concerns. I think it could alleviate my pain being able to say goodbye to them. However could there be legal issues for them? I have mental illness so they will probably claim I never had the mental capacity to make this choice. In my patient degree I explained that my suicidality persists since many years and that the reason for my suicide is no acute crisis. I think this could give my friends some legal leeway. I am not sure who would actually sue them? The authorities or my family? I could imagine my friends could easily blame my parents for my suicide which certainly is the case. So maybe the guilt of their actions could lead to the fact that they blame themselves for it (?) and not my friends.
Maybe I could also delete all the messages soon before I die to decrease the likelihood people will go against them. As I said I think talking to them could help me a lot in my darkest hours. By the way I fully trust them that they would not interfere in it. So this is no reason for me not to do it.
What do you think?
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