Venting Conversational pattern

[grandmotherboxing]

Timeline: Person thinks I am a cool friend. We VC for the first time.
He talks, I wait my turn and then talk, then we go back and forth, it's fun, then awkward silence.
Then jokes about me being autistic when I like some things that are more cerebral or obscure (i hate that word so muuuuuch.) Then we go on, then awkward silence from a person again because i talked too much (idk what an overstep is in this regard, i just know a lot of things on a topic they brought up and have to say them or i'll lose my thought. It's sometimes important to me). Then i ask why the awkward silence enthusiastically and jokingly, and the joking response is that i talk too much and i just idk. Then I feel bad, I ask for straightforwardness and clarity as to why how what and i get back and forth jokes. Then I get pissy and leave the VC, the person tries to make amends... but it feels like everything I say makes it worse. Most likely: I'm either gonna be handicapped in their eyes, or I'm gonna lose them.

This is a pattern I've experienced countless times.

I hate neurotypicals so much it's unreal.

 

[timf]

This is actually pretty common for Aspergers. The enthusiasm for a particular subject (even one the other person brings up) is usually overwhelming. It can be more effective to limit you conversation to just asking the other person questions about his experiences, views, and opinions. If you share too much, the other person may see you as a show off.

It can help if you limit your verbal transmissions to short anecdotes with a humorous point. For example, "My voice is so bad I could use it to make money. If you don't pay me ten dollars, I will sing".

Here is a link to a free pdf booklet about Aspergers to see if you think it might apply;

https://christianpioneer.com/blogarchieve/an_intentional_life_2017.pdf