Discussion Bullying Can Make Someone Want to CTB

[sui4]

Please be mindful how you talk to people hete as you could be responsible forvpushing soneone over the edge to ctb.

 

[tidalwxves]

Please be mindful how you talk to people hete as you could be responsible forvpushing soneone over the edge to ctb.

You literally told someone who has only ever been encouraging to you that they deserved their own misery. Take your own advice. Also, stop spamming.

 

[ocd is bad]

I think I've seen you mention this before, very sorry if someone said something mean to you. I've found that this site is usually very supportive but sometimes there's a few bad eggs.

 

[TheGoodGuy]

Which is why no one should ever forgive their bullies, I don´t care if when they are at age like 40 they regret bullying someone in their teenage years a big part of our personality is formed in our teenage years so if someone has been bullied severely they most likely have those mental scars for life.

 

[tidalwxves]

I've seen you mention this before, very sorry if someone said something mean to you. I've found that this site is usually very supportive but sometimes there's a few bad eggs.

Please stop giving this individual attention for "bullying" they have not been bullied in fact they have been very nasty to multiple people in their short time here. This self-victimization shouldn't be encouraged also they have been spamming the forum which is not only annoying but makes it harder to access the resources they need on this site

 

[VIBRITANNIA]

please keep this in mind when you respond to others as well.

 

[ocd is bad]

Please stop giving this individual attention for "bullying" they have not been bullied in fact they have been very nasty to multiple people in their short time here. This self-victimization shouldn't be encouraged also they have been spamming the forum which is not only annoying but makes it harder to access the resources they need on this site

Ah. I don't really know the history/situation here to be honest. I agree that people shouldn't be nasty to each other on here though.

 

[Nymph]

Yeah everyone should be respectful while responding to any posts, reread all of the things you write before you post them into the world and think about it

 

[tidalwxves]

Ah. I don't really know the history/situation here to be honest. I agree that people shouldn't be nasty to each other on here though.

I understand, the sentiment was good I just wanted to alert you to the contexts thanks for hearing me out

 

[Meditation guide]

Please be mindful how you talk to people hete as you could be responsible forvpushing soneone over the edge to ctb.

I like you sui4 and I hope you stick around. You liven things up around here.

 

[Life_and_Death]

Please be mindful how you talk to people hete as you could be responsible forvpushing soneone over the edge to ctb.

yeah. i know there are some people here that have made false accusations a few months ago and im still recovering from that. people should really watch what they say especially before accusing people of anything. they should make 100% sure they can back up what they say before saying it.

 

[Ghost2211]

Disagreeing is not bullying, asking for proof of claims is not bullying, and also seen on the forums lately people claiming light hearted not personal jokes as bullying which it's not. I understand people feel vulnerable and sensitive, but try to keep in mind people we talk to every day are unlikely to spontaneously become bullies, so perhaps the person who feels bullied should step back and consider misunderstandings and miscommunications happen. Tone is lost in text, and if people already feel bad about things they may misread the situation. If someone did something that is legit bullying report it, but really 9 times out 10 differences in this community could be resolved by talking out without labels like bully.

 

[Ghost2211]

Or perhaps when someone is brought to tears who almost never cries they should honor that feeling and know they were bullied. I know you are also one who has expressed some negative feelings too about me in the past. So why not pile on too now that you see I'm vulnerable I guess right?

I was addressing the main post. I didn't make it about you or quote you, but interesting you took it personally.

 

[tidalwxves]

Or perhaps when someone is brought to tears who almost never cries they should honor that feeling and know they were bullied. I know you are also one who has expressed some negative feelings too about me in the past. So why not pile on too now that you see I'm vulnerable I guess right?

Hey, first off let me say I'm sorry you are in so much pain and that the majority of the people on this forum not only sympathize but enjoy listening to you. The interactions I have seen you have with people have been positive (that's not me denying that you have had bad experiences, only saying I haven't seen them I don't think). What is going on that is causing this current upset? What does it have to do with this user and post? & how can I help?

 

[Life_and_Death]

Gaslighting too. Nice addition.

This is exactly what I was talking about in my post. The 2 of you should drop it. Rosey wasn't referring to you and if they did say something to you in the past it can't be taken back and anything could have caused them to say it and anyone can interpret it in anyway based on their life experiences. Also you aren't always the nicest person either so before calling others out you should look at yourself.

 

[Ghost2211]

Gaslighting too. Nice addition.

No, honestly. Not everything is about you. OP got mad at me for joking. Given that you've accused several members of bullying me included I suppose you could count yourself in my comment. You don't want to resolve things you just want to fight and accuse.

 

[tidalwxves]

Gaslighting too. Nice addition.

I understand you are in pain and hurt, but this escalation doesn't help you. If you and RoseyBird have an issue ok, but this particular interaction is not indicative of gaslighting. I don't say that to hurt, but to help you have perspective and realize not everyone here is trying to hurt you. Sui4 has been spamming the forum and was rude to rosey in another thread, that's why Rosey commented here. It doesn't have anything to do with you, so its not something you should spend energy on. Again, this forum appreciates you, we aren't here to judge and often enjoy hearing your perspective. I hope this context gives you some peace.

 

[Life_and_Death]

No, honestly. Not everything is about you. OP got mad at me for joking. Given that you've accused several members of bullying me included I suppose you could count yourself in my comment. You don't want to resolve things you just want to fight and accuse.

exactly. thats all they did to me too. i wasnt even talking to them and they took it completely wrong and then hated me for something i didnt even do.

 

[Rue89]

I think a lot of people are taking stuff too personally lately, me included, and I'm trying to work on that. I understand feeling insecure and worrying about what everybody thinks about you, which makes it easy to take things out of context. I've resolved that if I get a reply that I perceive to be critical or possibly bullying (I haven't experienced this so far), to take a step back, leave the thread if I have to, and come back to reread when I can think more logically.

 

[Rue89]

That's a good idea. I thought maybe I was wrong so kept engaging this morning trying to explain and give more information but it got worse and worse until I was crying and could no longer pretend it wasn't bullying. Of course it wasn't admitted as being that but I'm a tough person and don't easily cry and was crying for an hour after that.

One thing I'm not is dumb. It just takes me a while to catch on to stop trying to make things better by trying to explain myself when to most it would be obvious the point was to make me feel like shit. I didn't realize what was actually going on at the time.

I wasn't taking things too personally. I was being bullied. This morning.

I'm sorry that you were bullied. I didn't see the thread where it happened and have no clue what went on. Did you report them? I think the best way to deal with bullies is to report and ignore them.

 

[GoodPersonEffed]

From the Anti-Defamation League:

Definition of bullying
Bullying is defined as follows:

The repeated actions or threats of action directed toward a person by one or more people who have or are perceived to have more power or status than their target in order to cause fear, distress or harm. Bullying can be physical, verbal, psychological or any combination of these three.

Here's a definition to use for younger, elementary age children:

When a person or a group behaves in ways—on purpose and over and over—that make someone feel hurt, afraid or embarrassed.

It is important to distinguish bullying from other unkind, mean and harmful behavior. Calling someone a name or pushing someone once, being rude or having an argument with someone is not bullying. Of course, these behaviors should be addressed but may have different consequences and interventions, which is why the distinction is critical. To be defined as bullying, all three components must be present: (1) repeated actions or threats, (2) a power imbalance and (3) intention to cause harm. If bullying is identified correctly, there are various ways to address it.

Identity-based bullying
Many bullying incidents can be described as "identity-based," which is any form of bullying related to characteristics that are part of a person's identity or perceived identity group, such as race, religion, disability, immigration status, sexual orientation, gender identity, physical appearance, etc. Because identity-based bullying targets who the [member] is—a core part of their identity—it can be especially harmful. It impacts not only the individual student but everyone else around them who identifies in the same way and who worries that they may be the next target. In discussing identity-based bullying with [people], it's important to make the point that bullying happens because of an aggressor's bias, not because of the target's identity.

 

[Acopia]

I think that when discussing emotive topics - as we often will on here - an amount of debate and disagreement is inevitable.
We don't have to agree with each other on everything, but bottom line is we're all on the same team regardless.
We all came here for the same reasons after all.

 

[Meditation guide]

We all came here for the same reasons after all.

I thought so too.

 

[Acopia]

Disagreement and debate is normal and accepted. That is not bullying.

Maybe sometimes we need to accept when we're wrong?
I don't know, the thread you're referring to got locked so I haven't indulged myself any more in reading it. When I sense an argument, I'd prefer to not engage further through fear of causing more upset - I don't want to be the cause of someone else's distress.
Some battles, particularly on here, just aren't worth getting carried away with.
-A.

I thought so too.

Emotions can run high here I guess, that's the nature of the whole situation.
It's a shame, but it's only human.

 

[Life_and_Death]

I would apologize if I made someone cry.

you mean the thread where they were simply asking you to show where you got the information, something id expect anyone to ask?

 

[Acopia]

I would apologize if I made someone cry.

You have good morals.

I'm not really sure what happened, when a lot of people jump into a conversation I find it confusing to follow.

 

[Sherri]

Absolutely specially among teenagers.

 

[Ghost2211]

You have good morals.

I'm not really sure what happened, when a lot of people jump into a conversation I find it confusing to follow.

Yes, this tends to happen when posts get deleted and edited to suit the "victims" narrative. I would be hesitant to trust a persons accusations when they are made out of sight of the incident so no reference can be made, or evidence is deleted. Constant unfounded accusations, name calling and slander is bullying as well, and that is what this has become.

 

[Life_and_Death]

Yes, this tends to happen when posts get deleted and edited to suit the "victims" narrative. I would be hesitant to trust a persons accusations when they are made out of sight of the incident so no reference can be made, or evidence is deleted. Constant unfounded accusations, name calling and slander is bullying as well, and that is what this has become.

yeah. i went to go see what bullying they were talking about and i noticed a lot of quoted message but the original was gone.

 

[BPD Barbie]

I see the fallout from the Covid thread has made its way here. Please, that thread got locked and I'm sure parties involved understand why as it was getting out of hand. Let's not bring that drama to another thread.
People disagree, it's part of life, as humans if we all agreed on the same subjects it would be extremely boring. If something or someone upsets you, leave the conversation and walk away, don't keep responding and adding fuel to the fire.