Discussion brain cancer

[Rqvn67]

Hello everyone, I'm here to share my story. I'm 31 years old, a man from France. I've had a successful career. I have a wonderful family, a happy adolescence, an amazing girlfriend, many friends, pets, and a beautiful apartment. In short, everything was perfect.

But then, in June 2025, after an epileptic seizure, I was diagnosed with stage 3/4 brain cancer. The news was devastating. I underwent surgery while awake — they removed the entire tumor, but I was told it would most likely come back. My world stopped. My life changed completely.

I no longer feel like buying a house with my girlfriend, or having children. I told her she could leave me and that I wouldn't blame her. She didn't want to.

I don't feel like working anymore; I don't see the point in spending my time on something so futile. But here's why I'm writing this: I don't want to have a horrible end of life (with neurological problems). I want to prepare for that moment — to know how to handle it. Some of my friends don't understand how I see things. What do you think? I'm also very religious, and God has clearly sent me signs that I can tell you about later.

 

[EmptyBottle]

Note that with early and regular checkups, even if the cancer returns, the treatment can be faster and more effective... and newer cancer treatments are regularly being created.

Asking how one prepares for death is an excellent question. I wonder if short term "today I'll focus on X" style thoughts can be helpful (and/or the "living each day as if it is one's last" concept).

Ask one's doctor about treatment, pain management, palliative care, advanced directives, etc, and note down the options (hopefully this will make treatment easier). If you feel you need it, feel free to seek psychologists and counsellors.

I've not begun in the workforce, tho am doing uni study. If given limited time to live, I might only opt for the tasks I prefer... tho as a precaution, will also be doing the other tasks, since my 2021/2022 thoughts of "maybe I won't wake up tomorrow" never panned out.

BTW, it is ok to not want children, I don't want to take the risk of procreation either.

Feel free to share the signs that God sent, maybe my failed CTB was a sign from God too, to continue existence until God calls be back one day.

 

[TBONTB]

Hello everyone, I'm here to share my story. I'm 31 years old, a man from France. I've had a successful career. I have a wonderful family, a happy adolescence, an amazing girlfriend, many friends, pets, and a beautiful apartment. In short, everything was perfect.

But then, in June 2025, after an epileptic seizure, I was diagnosed with stage 3/4 brain cancer. The news was devastating. I underwent surgery while awake — they removed the entire tumor, but I was told it would most likely come back. My world stopped. My life changed completely.

I no longer feel like buying a house with my girlfriend, or having children. I told her she could leave me and that I wouldn't blame her. She didn't want to.

I don't feel like working anymore; I don't see the point in spending my time on something so futile. But here's why I'm writing this: I don't want to have a horrible end of life (with neurological problems). I want to prepare for that moment — to know how to handle it. Some of my friends don't understand how I see things. What do you think? I'm also very religious, and God has clearly sent me signs that I can tell you about later.

What do your doctors say when you say "I don't want to have a horrible end of life?"

I watched my mother die of cancer in 2024. She had a lot of morphine to help her when she started to feel pain and I don't think she had a horrible end of life. So what would you doctors do at end of life - have they been able to talk about that?

Where I am there is also medical aid in dying. I don't know what France is like in this regard. If available would you apply for and receive this assistance based on your diagnosis?

Religion..obviously that's a conversation between you and God. Peace and comfort be with you.

 

[Rqvn67]

Thank you for your reply !!

Notez qu'avec des contrôles précoces et réguliers, même si le cancer réapère, le traitement peut être plus rapide et plus efficace... et de nouveaux traitements contre le cancer sont régulièrement créés.

No, actually, there is no long-term treatment available for what I have!

Demandez à son médecin le traitement, la gestion de la douleur, les soins palliatifs, les directives avancées, etc., et notez les options (j'espère que cela facilitera le traitement). Si vous sentez que vous en avez besoin, n'hésitez pas à chercher des psychologues et des conseillers.

I don't want to talk to a psychologist; it wouldn't help. I'm determined to leave the day I find out the cancer comes back.

N'hésitez pas à partager les signes que Dieu a envoyés, peut-être que mon CTB raté était aussi un signe de Dieu, pour continuer à exister jusqu'à ce que Dieu appelle à revenir un jour.

I underwent 30 sessions of radiotherapy. Around the 15th session, I started having problems. While I was on the machine, my brain completely shut down — I couldn't think at all, I was in a terrible panic, and it felt like I couldn't process my thoughts properly. It was unbelievable.
I told myself it was a "normal" reaction. The next day, the exact same thing happened again. That's when I realized it was going to be tough. That evening, after the second time, I asked God for help. The following sessions went incredibly well.

What do your doctors say when you say "I don't want to have a horrible end of life?"

I watched my mother die of cancer in 2024. She had a lot of morphine to help her when she started to feel pain and I don't think she had a horrible end of life. So what would you doctors do at end of life - have they been able to talk about that?

Where I am there is also medical aid in dying. I don't know what France is like in this regard. If available would you apply for and receive this assistance based on your diagnosis?

Religion..obviously that's a conversation between you and God. Peace and comfort be with you.

Actually, the doctors don't know how the end of my life will unfold. They only told me "neurological problems." But that's very vague, and I think it varies from person to person.

I'm sorry about your mother.. <3

Where do you live? Unfortunately, that doesn't exist here in France..

 

[Sleeper System]

Men use to die between the ages of 30 and 40 years old before modern medicine.
You've lived a full life, by those standards. I myself am in that range and feel like it's fine if I die now.

A brain tumor is a tough hand to be dealt for someone who actually had a happy life with a promising future.
As someone on the opposite side of the life spectrum, i'm kind of jealous.

If you're "very religious" then suicide should not even be an option for you as it's a major sin.
If I were you I would just seek happiness and pleasure until my time comes.

 

[TBONTB]

Thank you for your reply !!

No, actually, there is no long-term treatment available for what I have!

I don't want to talk to a psychologist; it wouldn't help. I'm determined to leave the day I find out the cancer comes back.

I underwent 30 sessions of radiotherapy. Around the 15th session, I started having problems. While I was on the machine, my brain completely shut down — I couldn't think at all, I was in a terrible panic, and it felt like I couldn't process my thoughts properly. It was unbelievable.
I told myself it was a "normal" reaction. The next day, the exact same thing happened again. That's when I realized it was going to be tough. That evening, after the second time, I asked God for help. The following sessions went incredibly well.

Actually, the doctors don't know how the end of my life will unfold. They only told me "neurological problems." But that's very vague, and I think it varies from person to person.

I'm sorry about your mother.. <3

Where do you live? Unfortunately, that doesn't exist here in France..

I live in the US, i believe 11 states allow for MAID. I think it's a good thing for situations like yours.

I do hope you'll be offered good pain relief. I'm not sure if you are looking for something for active...the methods are all kind of hard in some way.

 

[Rqvn67]

If you're "very religious" then suicide should not even be an option for you as it's a major sin.

I know, butI hope he'll understand, I think he will.

If I were you I would just seek happiness and pleasure until my time comes.

That's how I see it too! 'That day' will come when I realize my cancer is going to kill me, and I'll be dealing with serious neurological problems. But right now, I have no desire to die at all. I'm feeling great! It's just that I'm preparing for what might come.

 

[madameviolette]

Pourquoi ne pas choisir le suicide assisté en Belgique ou en Suisse ? Tu serais facilement accepté avec ton pronostique. Bon courage et profite

 

[Rqvn67]

Pourquoi ne pas choisir le suicide assisté en Belgique ou en Suisse ? Tu serais facilement accepté avec ton pronostique. Bon courage et profite

Les prix .. Je veux laisser mon argent à ma famille et ma copine. Je pense que dépenser autant serait égoïste !