be wary of potential suicide 'partners' with an agenda

[eeah]

Kind of crazy how people will try to find a romantic partner on here of all places…

people in vulnerable positions are easier to manipulate, plus "broken bird syndrome", plus some ppl here have little to no self awareness, plus theres a bunch of incels here

 

[mango-meridian]

I was shocked to learn this site had a CTB partners megathread. Seems like a bad idea for a variety of reasons. One I haven't seen mentioned is that it seems like a very direct way to degrade the site's reputation or even get sued. "We provided a thread/platform where people can find CTB partners!"

On a related note, I have a much more positive view of the recovery partners megathread. I don't see as many incentives there to lie about who you are and what your intentions are. But willing to hear bad experiences and things to watch out for with that as well.

 

[EvisceratedJester]

I was shocked to learn this site had a CTB partners megathread. Seems like a bad idea for a variety of reasons. One I haven't seen mentioned is that it seems like a very direct way to degrade the site's reputation or even get sued. "We provided a thread/platform where people can find CTB partners!"

On a related note, I have a much more positive view of the recovery partners megathread. I don't see as many incentives there to lie about who you are and what your intentions are. But willing to hear bad experiences and things to watch out for with that as well.

There has already been a case where some dude used it to lure two women from here and then proceeded to rape them and attempted to murder them.

SS Member Arrested for Rape & Attempted Murder of 2 SS Members

A man in Glasgow has been charged, and being held without bail, for the rape and torture of two women he met on SS. His name is Craig McInally. TRUST NO ONE https://www.thescottishsun.co.uk/news/scottish-news/6965974/glasgow-court-trial-attempted-murder-assisted-suicide-website/

sanctioned-suicide.net

 

[Homulily]

There has already been a case where some dude used it to lure two women from here and then proceeded to rape them and attempted to murder them.

SS Member Arrested for Rape & Attempted Murder of 2 SS Members

A man in Glasgow has been charged, and being held without bail, for the rape and torture of two women he met on SS. His name is Craig McInally. TRUST NO ONE https://www.thescottishsun.co.uk/news/scottish-news/6965974/glasgow-court-trial-attempted-murder-assisted-suicide-website/

sanctioned-suicide.net

That's disgusting.
It sickens me to know that people like this exist.

 

[CatLvr]

I ask, for the bazillonth time today alone, WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH PEOPLE??

 

[mango-meridian]

There has already been a case where some dude used it to lure two women from here and then proceeded to rape them and attempted to murder them.

SS Member Arrested for Rape & Attempted Murder of 2 SS Members

A man in Glasgow has been charged, and being held without bail, for the rape and torture of two women he met on SS. His name is Craig McInally. TRUST NO ONE https://www.thescottishsun.co.uk/news/scottish-news/6965974/glasgow-court-trial-attempted-murder-assisted-suicide-website/

sanctioned-suicide.net

Yikes.

 

[Chinaski]

Wow, never took them for being a creep...

I was sent screenshots of some of their catfishy DMs and dubious limks they'd send as long ago as January 2022, bizarrely they went all out to have me banned around this time and, given they were a hell of a lot more popular around here than l ever was, l figured I'd keep it to myself until the mask inevitably slipped and was surprised it never appeared to.

 

[EvisceratedJester]

I was sent screenshots of some of their catfishy DMs and dubious limks they'd send as long ago as January 2022, bizarrely they went all out to have me banned around this time and, given they were a hell of a lot more popular around here than l ever was, l figured I'd keep it to myself until the mask inevitably slipped and was surprised it never appeared to.

Wtf? The more I learn about them, the more I dislike them...

 

[Dot]

Something similar happened on a few vent posts I've made where I've talked about my history of abuse, how it's led me to feeling like I need to be abused and how love without abuse scares me because its hard for me to understand love without me having to sacrifice something (my comfort, money, physical health, etc)
And some person messaged me and asked if I wanted to date them.


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I was sent screenshots of some of their catfishy DMs and dubious limks they'd send as long ago as January 2022, bizarrely they went all out to have me banned around this time and, given they were a hell of a lot more popular around here than l ever was, l figured I'd keep it to myself until the mask inevitably slipped and was surprised it never appeared to.

Nevr 2 l8 t/ snd thm 2 mods

 

[LaVieEnRose]

I'm quite disappointed to learn that about him. Still it is what it is.

 

[Emeralds]

I was shocked to learn this site had a CTB partners megathread. Seems like a bad idea for a variety of reasons. One I haven't seen mentioned is that it seems like a very direct way to degrade the site's reputation.

A site called Sanction Suicide is never going to have a good reputation with the average person.

 

[Chinaski]

Nevr 2 l8 t/ snd thm 2 mods

I won't do that for a number of reasons, principally because l was given this info from a person who got it from another person who etc etc, a very long time ago and l wouldn't want to embarrass others who were taken in and appear in tje screenshots. I did review a ten page DM l had about this user from December 2021 and as much content is in there many of the related threads / posts are now gone.

Anyway I've said this before and l don't doubt I'll be saying it again:

I agree with this, l was a member for about six months from 2018 and returned in November last year and did notice there had been a shift in the more dominant content. A lot of the output is, frankly, much less mature than it was previously imo. I won't specify further for *reasons*.

Having said that, there was always scammers, frauds, phoneys, bullshitters, fakes and so on. Back then it was a new N scam every week, a manipulative faked ctb, voyeuristic fetishists, etc etc. It doesn't surprise me that it's established, 'popular' members who have been unmasked lately, as this is often the case. The clamour for people on this forum to ban people who they don't personally like trumps the reality, which is that the people who cause the most damage are those who come with lovebombing empathy hugs, ingratiate themselves very quickly into a social circle, even get elevated to mod positions. It's always been the case that the worst, most harmful people in this community are often the most 'popular' - Emma Davis being another example - and it's always best to be mindful of this when people come here and immediately seem hugely enthusiastic to make connections.

A site called Sanction Suicide is never going to have a good reputation with the average person.

That's fine then, in that case maybe we should be happy with stuff that makes us look bad, maybe we should all post our dicks, maybe we should shit in the street like dogs,

Oh, the irony:
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Incidentally this bullshit was put there after her and a couple of identikit uwu hugs (alt?) accounts had outed some folk here for predatory conduct which they themselves were seemingly inciting.

There was a thread from someone that had fallen foul. I don't want to name them directly but it was recent. They were posting on this site, then stopped for a couple of months and then they started posting again to say their bf was guilty of exceptionally scummy behaviours. There were a few obvious red flags that were overlooked because of the relationship.

It's possible that they met their boyfriend on this site. There are a lot of vulnerable people still on this site and there always will be. It's an incredibly heartbreaking thread, some degree of security may be warranted. Not everyone is going to be a predator but I've been told by a member whos no longer on this site that there are potentially dangerous people here looking to hurt others for their own benefit.

 

[WhiteRabbit]

"Having said that, there was always scammers, frauds, phoneys, bullshitters, fakes and so on. Back then it was a new N scam every week, a manipulative faked ctb, voyeuristic fetishists, etc etc. It doesn't surprise me that it's established, 'popular' members who have been unmasked lately, as this is often the case. The clamour for people on this forum to ban people who they don't personally like trumps the reality, which is that the people who cause the most damage are those who come with lovebombing empathy hugs, ingratiate themselves very quickly into a social circle, even get elevated to mod positions. It's always been the case that the worst, most harmful people in this community are often the most 'popular' - Emma Davis being another example - and it's always best to be mindful of this when people come here and immediately seem hugely enthusiastic to make connections."

(I can't quote this for some reason)

This is so true. Remember the popular user "Sherri"? A 50 something year old man posing as a young woman. Then when he got exposed he went on an unhinged anti-trans rant.

 

[Chinaski]

(I can't quote this for some reason)

This is so true. Remember the popular user "Sherri"? A 50 something year old man posing as a young woman. Then when he got exposed he went on an unhinged anti-trans rant.

SBD was a more intelligent version imo, introduces as a 43 year old man in debut post, posts like a teenage girl thereafter.

 

[Homulily]

I ask, for the bazillonth time today alone, WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH PEOPLE??

A lot of things.
Despite that I do my best not to hate humanity
Idk why

 

[angelus]

i'm getting sick of the fake intentions these people have -- pretending they also want to die with you when they clearly have something else in mind.
be careful of people who responds to your suicide partner request as they may only be after one thing and that's not to die with you.

these are just a few things to watch out for. it may not be true all the time, but be cautious still. being a little paranoid is not a bad thing in this kind of environment.
- rapid increase in the number of posts when they've only joined within the day.
- their private messages consist of an attempt to 'save' you in a subtle or sometimes obvious way
- the conversation slowly leads to them asking you for an sn source, then stops talking to you after not providing any
- watch out for inconsistencies of information between their pm and public posts.
- if you're female, be prepared for men with an agenda. this forum is no different from any other social media sites

the partners megathread is mostly a joke. too many users with an agenda. i'm still hoping to find a partner, but it looks like i really will be leaving by myself.

Well, I'm honest and reliable. But I couldn't find someone determined enough to do it. Trust îs a big issues here.
The idea of the partners megathread is not bad at all. Maybe it needs some better regulation. Some people truly need the help of another human being's presence in order to be able doing it easier. Having someone to go with can really boost motivation, can really help with getting over fear and procrastination. And most importantly, not going alone makes a huge difference in the last moments.
I'm suicidal since 17 years ago and I'm a member on this forum for 3 years already.
I wasn't able to ctb yet, though my life have worsened considerably. I couldn't get over looking for reasons for procrastination even though my ctb decision is rational and a must.
I want to do it so badly and need help with that.
I couldn't find someone reliable yet, who believe my intention are honest, who is equally motivated to exit and willing to take the time and stick with that decision.
I still dream I'll find someone.
Suicide is a process and it's not always an easy one as I used to believe.
Some people are determined enough in this decision, but really need help with not being lonely in this.
I was always open to show my real ID and meet in public places. But when I proposed that, people instead of believing started objecting about their privacy being violated în such scenarios.
Really? Then what am I supposed to do in order to prove my allegiance?

 

[EvisceratedJester]

"Having said that, there was always scammers, frauds, phoneys, bullshitters, fakes and so on. Back then it was a new N scam every week, a manipulative faked ctb, voyeuristic fetishists, etc etc. It doesn't surprise me that it's established, 'popular' members who have been unmasked lately, as this is often the case. The clamour for people on this forum to ban people who they don't personally like trumps the reality, which is that the people who cause the most damage are those who come with lovebombing empathy hugs, ingratiate themselves very quickly into a social circle, even get elevated to mod positions. It's always been the case that the worst, most harmful people in this community are often the most 'popular' - Emma Davis being another example - and it's always best to be mindful of this when people come here and immediately seem hugely enthusiastic to make connections."

(I can't quote this for some reason)

This is so true. Remember the popular user "Sherri"? A 50 something year old man posing as a young woman. Then when he got exposed he went on an unhinged anti-trans rant.

Honestly, if he was trying to pretend to be a young woman then he failed miserably. That quote has 'old man' written all over it.

 

[WhiteRabbit]

Honestly, if he was trying to pretend to be a young woman then he failed miserably. That quote has 'old man' written all over it.

That's from chinaski, not sherri. The website wouldn't let me insert that part of his post. And I'm pretty sure chinaski is a fair bit younger than the man in his pfp, but that's always how I picture him.

 

[EvisceratedJester]

That's from chinaski, not sherri. The website wouldn't let me insert that part of his post. And I'm pretty sure chinaski is a fair bit younger than the man in his pfp, but that's always how I picture him.

Oh.

 

[ihateearth]

There has already been a case where some dude used it to lure two women from here and then proceeded to rape them and attempted to murder them.

SS Member Arrested for Rape & Attempted Murder of 2 SS Members

A man in Glasgow has been charged, and being held without bail, for the rape and torture of two women he met on SS. His name is Craig McInally. TRUST NO ONE https://www.thescottishsun.co.uk/news/scottish-news/6965974/glasgow-court-trial-attempted-murder-assisted-suicide-website/

sanctioned-suicide.net

He sounds like a serial killer. He likely committed sick crimes before escalating to rape and attempted murder. It's not safe to privately meet someone from here or online.

In 2001, a man met up with someone who agreed to kill him and the man ended up cannibalizing him. I think he was German and sentenced to life. You never know who's out here. The Japanese do group suicides right in my opinion. Some have a small party with food and a grill in a room until everyone goes bye. No rapists. The photos of this online look peaceful.

 

[Chinaski]

Oh.

Yeah I'm definitely old but nowhere near as old as the person with the big titty anime avi who posted this:

I'm already taken. If you have a crush on me you don't have a crush on me, just the person you think I am from my typing. If you don't, heart react this.
Awaits *visible confusion*

Who am I kidding, noone has a crush on me, but I am good at derailing and making spectacular train wrecks. F to pay respects
This wasn't meant to be ironically poignant or anything I'm just bored. Or in love. Probably the latter.
*steals all the eye-candy and uses it to make some kind of mecha*

Anyway, more good advice here folks. Always listen to your uncle chinaski imo.

Tbh l think his reference to the anime aesthetic was more about the fact that any asshole can easily adopt a cutesy uwu presentation as an easy way "in" and this has been seen on a few occasions, l don't have a problem with people using this as a form of genuine expression but it's not inaccurate to suggest that big anime avi, hugs emoji, phoned-in empathy is the quickest way to gain entry here.

 

[ijustwishtodie]

I agree. I personally believe that, when it comes to suicide, you're on your own and can never trust anybody. The thing about SS is that it's a community and any place with a bunch of humans in it will have some bad people due to how humans are... humans. It's better to not trust anybody in the first place as it'll most likely lead to your eventual downfall.

Something similar happened on a few vent posts I've made where I've talked about my history of abuse, how it's led me to feeling like I need to be abused and how love without abuse scares me because its hard for me to understand love without me having to sacrifice something (my comfort, money, physical health, etc)
And some person messaged me and asked if I wanted to date them.


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Oh wow, I'm kinda sad over how they were a creep. I thought that they were a good and kind user based on how they passionately defended FC when others were bullying her but apparently they were not a kind user. I guess this really emphasises my point on how nobody can be trusted. Sorry for what you had to go through

 

[sugarb]

There has already been a case where some dude used it to lure two women from here and then proceeded to rape them and attempted to murder them.

SS Member Arrested for Rape & Attempted Murder of 2 SS Members

A man in Glasgow has been charged, and being held without bail, for the rape and torture of two women he met on SS. His name is Craig McInally. TRUST NO ONE https://www.thescottishsun.co.uk/news/scottish-news/6965974/glasgow-court-trial-attempted-murder-assisted-suicide-website/

sanctioned-suicide.net

Jesus christ that's horrific
reasons not to meet people online ig

 

[kat6]

Not gonna lie… I really appreciate having this place where we can talk openly without judgement… BUT if I had seen that thread before joining, I would've stayed the heck away. That thread just irks me for so many reasons.

Aside from all the safety ones you mentioned, the legality of people trying to source, there's also the "peer pressure" side of it… ctb is a serious decision. If you can't do it alone, maybe youre not ready to do it at all. I think having a partner (who's also unstable) can push people into doing things impulsively that they wouldn't do alone(specially younger people).

Now, I'm totally for setups like that Switzerland pod where people don't have to die alone. But that's different, you would be accompanied by a chosen loved one (I think) or medical professionals, not potentially ill strangers you met online for that purpose only. Just my opinion. That thread should not exist.

 

[CTB Dream]

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[Pluto]

Hi all,

Malaria has asked me to pass on that harassment by the user in question (SBD) was the reason she left the site. I was quite shocked at the time. There were additional reported victims of similar treatment (one of whom contacted me personally but also later left), and there was another male member at the time who was also evidently harassing members in a similar manner.

Worse, there were allegations that the reports of harassment were being ignored despite ample evidence being provided of serial offenses. There were also claims of moderators resigning over frustration with this issue.

I was willing to speak out publicly even though it would probably get me banned from the site. I had planned to initiate contact with @Chinaski for advice, which with hindsight I would have. However, since the users engaging in this predatory behaviour left of their own accord, it didn't seem worth getting myself banned over a bygone issue.

The only comment that I can make is that it is 100% inevitable that there will be members here with impure intentions, but I hope we can agree that action should be taken once perpetrators have been established.

 

[MissingThyme]

I boggled at the partners thread when I saw it as well, because z bad actor finishing someone off is actually a better option than some things that could be going on.

People who are looking to end things usually have a plan for disengagement if they have loved ones or social ties, or they may be more isolated. That is perfect for someone looking to take a prisoner that people might not miss. Which is of course the extreme end of things, but still a worry.

 

[Chinaski]

Hi all,

Malaria has asked me to pass on that harassment by the user in question (SBD) was the reason she left the site. I was quite shocked at the time. There were additional reported victims of similar treatment (one of whom contacted me personally but also later left), and there was another male member at the time who was also evidently harassing members in a similar manner.

Worse, there were allegations that the reports of harassment were being ignored despite ample evidence being provided of serial offenses. There were also claims of moderators resigning over frustration with this issue.

I was willing to speak out publicly even though it would probably get me banned from the site. I had planned to initiate contact with @Chinaski for advice, which with hindsight I would have. However, since the users engaging in this predatory behaviour left of their own accord, it didn't seem worth getting myself banned over a bygone issue.

The only comment that I can make is that it is 100% inevitable that there will be members here with impure intentions, but I hope we can agree that action should be taken once perpetrators have been established.

Given most of my interactions on here recently have been through an alcoholic haze powerful enough to even annoy those who may have once actually liked me l dare say any advice l could offer would have been rubbish but SBD was a user who had raised the hackles for quite some time, the fact that they used the two-way block on me before they even made their first post suggests they've been here before. They'll probably return for another go.

As it was, this user reported me for "suicide encouragement" and started a (sadly now deleted) thread containing a dossier of reasons as to why l should be banned. The outcome was l was imstructed to not interact with this person at any point, apparently they were given the same instruction however they would occasionally mention me in an oblique, manipulative, uwu-pwease-dont-hurt-me way afterwards. I had been aware of their weird DM conduct since December 2021 but this principally involve sending unsolicited catfish DMs to male members.

Oh wow, I'm kinda sad over how they were a creep. I thought that they were a good and kind user based on how they passionately defended FC when others were bullying her

Can you stop referring to the "FuneralCry was bullied by lots of people" as if this is a statement of fact even though this literally did not happen, it makes even less sense to do so in light of the realisation that the drama surrounding this was confected by someone using it to further their own harmful and manipulative aims, the people who seek to do the most harm to users of this website are those who come with this agenda in mind and present themselves in almost identikit fashion, learn the lesson and stfu about FuneralCry being "bullied" when a very harmful user was actively trying to seek closer engagement from FC via very dubious and manipulative means.

The above white-knighting also ties into SBD constantly attempting to attain mod status, to which l referred in this post here at the time.

Fully agree with this, historically the most popular users of this forum have been the lovebombers, those who work the room, rack up one hell of a post count very quickly with an insatiable enthusiasm for empathy hugs, spend half their time in chat, an unstoppable juggernaut of cutesy goodwill which puts themselves front and centre at all times before finally being revealed as not all that met the eye several months down the line.

Please learn the fucking lesson here, people.

 

[Marco77]

Group suicides always give us states. Surely there are those who don't have good intentions, but we can't close everything down for 4 crazy people. The search for a suicidal partner is dictated by many noble reasons. Not everyone is able to face death alone, otherwise the world would not be full of religions, psychologists and supports of all kinds in the terminal phases of life and in the darkest moments of existence.

 

[howunfortunateforme]

This sounds bad but if you're trying to find someone to help ease the pain like that strawberry girl wouldn't that be good? That's what I wish someone to walk me through It.