Discussion At what age do you become mature?

[SUlClDE]

16, 18, 20, 25?
What are your thoughts?

 

[itsgone2]

Great question. I mean it's a process but parents should push for 18 imo.

This is one of, if not my largest, regrets. I didn't push. I wasn't pushed and repeated that mistake.

 

[Seneca65AD]

You may have to define "mature" because at 60 I still do somethings that make my wife think I never really grew up. I am "more" mature than I was at 18 but I look at the maturation process as never ending....

 

[goinghome11:11]

I'm not sure exactly when we all mature, I think it's different for everyone based on life experiences. I'm in my mid 40s now, but I have to say I was the happiest, most stable and most mentally mature (looking back) in my life when I turned 30.

 

[KawasakiNinjaZXRR]

Erik Erikson said that we never stop evolving. That the challenges we face at 20 are completely different from the ones we deal with at 50. We're always "maturing" because life keeps throwing new types of complexity at us.
You could say that since we finish developing our brain's at 25 that's the age when we become mature, but throughout your life your wisdom, your perspective and how you actually handle life are constantly evolving.
There is no final mature version, we're just always in development.

 

[aufrechtm7]

There is none, maturity isn't binary

 

[Campanella]

I think it'll be different for everyone, and of course even after the fact everyone continues to learn or change. But even now that I'm in my twenties I would say I think I reached "adult maturity" at about 14. I've changed plenty since then but I could have managed passing the final exams of school and enlisting into a job by the time I was 13-14. I think things would have changed for the better if I were given more freedom, to do that and meet more people instead of wasting such important years sitting around in a prisonlike school then going straight home unsocialised and powerless. Years spent "learning" things I could have learnt in a matter of a few months or already did understand. One of the things I regret most was how I was held back for such vital time then only unleashed and expected to be adult living on my own at 18. Some would say the solution is to hold teenagers back even more, if they're not (and I was no longer) ready to be self-sustainable even then, but I think it's being held back so much that prevented the growth in the first place. Changing it to 20, 22, 25, would make no difference, with a healthy development you'll have what matters figured out before then. People did a lot better and eased into adulthood 50+ years back when children could go out on their own, and teenagers could pace their own lives more often after all... It's less safe physically, there were and always will be horrible tragedies, but I think the neurological damage inflicted on every child with this system is worse.

 

[U. A.]

There is none, maturity isn't binary

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[Bootleg Astolfo]

69 years old

 

[Tenir bon]

I feel like there isn't an age you can really point to. In my country you can drink at 21 and have other legal freedoms at 18. Plenty of people say that 25 is the number but the study that gave that data ended when the participants hit 25 so odds are the brain never stops developing. Plus it depends on your definition of maturity and people's life experiences, a 30 year old who's never had to (or had the chance to) provide for themselves will be less mature than a 20 year old who is self reliant. I guess I'd say by age 30 the majority of people are capable of providing for themselves or getting along well enough with others to be provided for.

 

[CookedRamen]

I think becoming mature/an adult is one of the biggest lies we are sold as kids. As if there's sometime where you will magically start wanting to do the dishes and take the trash out. Or you'll just suddenly understand how filing taxes works or how to know when to get your car serviced. I'm 24 and I can say so far it's all a lie. Whenever something new happens I'm scared shitless and feel like a 12 year old living an adults life. I have no idea what I'm doing. I don't feel like I was designed to live in this world.

When I was a kid I thought when I become an adult I would stop enjoying video games and dressing up. But here I am still doing those things.