Anyone thinking of ctb because of their own stupid decisions..

[Broken]

Guilt, shame and regret are some of the things that make us who we are and help us grow. It's better to feel those things and to learn from them rather than to not feel those things and not learn at all.

Having a positive state of mind is a good first step towards achieving what you want.

Yeah that's where I'm failing. Trying to see it from that point of view. Some would say look at it that you didn't live life to the fullest and then you had an amazing experience with someone, messed it up but atleast your eyes were opened to what you want in life. I can't get my brain to see it like that. It just sees it as a loss and regret instead of a lesson for the future.

 

[Broken]

Yeah that's where I'm failing. Trying to see it from that point of view. Some would say look at it that you didn't live life to the fullest and then you had an amazing experience with someone, messed it up but atleast your eyes were opened to what you want in life. I can't get my brain to see it like that. It just sees it as a loss and regret instead of a lesson for the future.

The other thing that's hard is I've learned from my mistakes but I have no oppurtunity to show that. That was the price I had to pays guess that in a slit second I realised how much I'd fucked up and it's to late to rectify and that I'd created my own misery and there's no quick way out of it

 

[bigj75]

Now that you mention genetic predisposition, is it weird that I don't believe in free will at all but I still feel guilty has hell, to the point where I want to ctb for it, for what I've done?

The thing about free will is that we don't have it but self awareness and intelligence is what we need to work towards. So many mistakes in my life could have been solved with simple logic and just a slight change in my daily routine. People make decisions based on emotions which is completely the opposite of what you should do.

 

[Partial-Elf]

My CTB recipe calls for roughly equal parts:

• Regret and embarrassment
• Self hatred for lost opportunities
• Loneliness and isolation
• Lack of excitement for for the future

Combine ingredients in slow cooker, apply heat, and let stew for eight years.

 

[Final Escape]

I am facing some jail time for some stupid decisions. Anyone else in this position?

I have been in trouble with the law but have not been to jail for more than like 2 days total. It might effect me when I try to get a job in the future probably. Do you know how long you are suppose to get?

 

[bigj75]

i gave my ex money. She used me.

 

[Kingkelly]

Yep made mistakes but biggest one was the last one that will be my demise. Your not alone.

 

[Tncfef]

About 4 years ago my life has literally turned to hell.getting worse every day

 

[Jewels]

Yes , totally my own fault I'm in the predicament I'm in

 

[Othermind]

The thing about free will is that we don't have it but self awareness and intelligence is what we need to work towards. So many mistakes in my life could have been solved with simple logic and just a slight change in my daily routine. People make decisions based on emotions which is completely the opposite of what you should do.

You can't do that.
You said it yourself, we don't have free will, so what you call "rational decision making" is just emoting, reacting to that emotion, and then rationalize.

 

[bigj75]

You can't do that.
You said it yourself, we don't have free will, so what you call "rational decision making" is just emoting, reacting to that emotion, and then rationalize.

I think what im trying to say is that despite not having free will we can still attempt/try to use that in self awareness. Instead of how we are raised to believe we have free will and all our decisions and choices are made up by ourselves and nothing else. A very cut and dry answer would be i have no free will so I'll just do the best that i can with that in mind instead of going about my day believing i have free will like most people believe.

 

[Xerxes]

Stupid decisions, or right decisions but wrong time wrong place. Also being born with a personality that is abhorrent to most people set me up for a lifetime of pain and guilt. I thought love would help support, but it made things worse in my mind because I'm unable to meet the expectations my SO believes I should make.

 

[Broken]

I think everyone just goes on autopilot until you make a bad decision that really affects you. I've made loads of bad decisions over 15 years. All my bad decision making stems from insecurities and shyness as a kid. I felt pressured to make friends. Got in with the wrong crowd started smoking weed. Been in trouble with the law but no bad desicion I made ever effected me emotionally. I'm messed up now because I hurt someone that I loved and cared about. I'm such a damaged person that I ended up making someone that was prepared to give me all the love and support I needed feel they couldn't be with me anymore. I let her down and smoked weed when I promised I wouldn't. The crappiest feeling is that I did it but I don't no why I did. I new I'd be in shit but it didn't register in my head at the time. I threw away a chance to be with someone that cared and wanted the best for me and us if that's what I wanted. It was what I wanted so why didn't I commit? Because I'm a stupid addict? It wasn't meant to be and that's why I did it? (Doesn't feel like this is part of the life plan) so as I said I have been messed up and still am messed up emotionally from one mistake that changed my life. Letting down people that love and care for you is the most painful thing I have ever experienced so If I'm ever lucky enough to be loved again I no I will make better rational desicions instead of acting on impulse/in the moment. I hope I get that oppurtunity again because it feels crap living this shitty existence at the mo.

 

[foreverbroken28]

My CTB recipe calls for roughly equal parts:

• Regret and embarrassment
• Self hatred for lost opportunities
• Loneliness and isolation
• Lack of excitement for for the future

Combine ingredients in slow cooker, apply heat, and let stew for eight years.

This.

 

[HGL91]

The worst decision has been made is by our parents, actually..... We're just fixing their mistake.

Haha! That's great!

 

[SelfHatingAspie]

There was one ill-informed decision which led to many stupid decisions, themselves leading to other stupid decisions.

Think along the lines of a turducken, only made entirely of stupid decisions nestled inside an ill-informed decision.

 

[HGL91]

I often wonder if every decision I make is a bad decision that will lead to infortunate consequences.