Discussion Anyone here told their family about their decision to CTB and they accepted your decision ?

[dwindlingfirst]

Do not hate yourself, it is not a fault or choice

I wish it was that easy

 

[stermc]

My parents know I am suicidal since I started to think about suicide, when I was 12. I didn't exactly tell them at the time, probably the doctors did. Suicide became something we talk about openly at my house. So this year, in January, I decided to tell them I had my method and that they needed to get ready. I know it sounds weird, but we have a lot of intimacy and we just built that kind of relationship. They always say they won't give me any kind of approval, but they say they understand and that they don't want me to suffer for the rest of my life. I am really glad they respect me as an individual (and that's how I keep 1kg of SN in my room without having to lock it), but at the same time it's really hard because they are constantly afraid I am doing it (if my sister screams my mom's name, my mom almost has a cardiac arrest every time thinking my sister found me dead and stuff like that) and they are also constantly trying to save me (getting me doctors, the best therapist, family time and all of that), even though I express to them that I don't wish to get better. It's confusing, honestly. Mainly because they couldn't be better parents and I am still potentially going to break their hearts.
But you know, I can't complain.

 

[unnormal9]

I'm sorry but I feel very strongly about this topic. In my view telling people is beyond evil, you will cause them immeasurable pain and suffering as they will feel they should have stopped it.
If you want a cry for help, tell a medical professional.
We have no right to burden loved ones.

You have no right of others.
If you want a cry of help, kill it outright; or so it would lick his wounds.

 

[Kyuumin]

when we talked about these things they said "no don't kill urself ur our only daughter!!!!!!" I mean, if that's the problem then just make another? Or adopt, idk? That's what I wanted to say at the time

 

[Mord.]

My father is the only person in my family that accepted the idea of me ctb, mainly because he is very open minded and told me "whatever your decision is accept it, just make sure thats what you want" but the rest of my family believes thats not what i need

 

[Tobacco]

Majority of people are irrational pro-lifers so I don't think they'll understand and you would be at risk of being taken to a psychiatric facility.

 

[RedHarlequin]

My parents know I am suicidal since I started to think about suicide, when I was 12. I didn't exactly tell them at the time, probably the doctors did. Suicide became something we talk about openly at my house. So this year, in January, I decided to tell them I had my method and that they needed to get ready. I know it sounds weird, but we have a lot of intimacy and we just built that kind of relationship. They always say they won't give me any kind of approval, but they say they understand and that they don't want me to suffer for the rest of my life. I am really glad they respect me as an individual (and that's how I keep 1kg of SN in my room without having to lock it), but at the same time it's really hard because they are constantly afraid I am doing it (if my sister screams my mom's name, my mom almost has a cardiac arrest every time thinking my sister found me dead and stuff like that) and they are also constantly trying to save me (getting me doctors, the best therapist, family time and all of that), even though I express to them that I don't wish to get better. It's confusing, honestly. Mainly because they couldn't be better parents and I am still potentially going to break their hearts.
But you know, I can't complain.

Your parents seem like a good bunch!
Maybe you can tell them you'll give them a (for example) week's notice or tell them a couple of days before you have decided on a concrete date? That way the're not stressed constantly.
I know it helped the ppl I told about this that they knew I'd announce a day. They agreed on being there for the thing itself, so it's a bit different, but you get it.

 

[stermc]

Your parents seem like a good bunch!
Maybe you can tell them you'll give them a (for example) week's notice or tell them a couple of days before you have decided on a concrete date? That way the're not stressed constantly.
I know it helped the ppl I told about this that they knew I'd announce a day. They agreed on being there for the thing itself, so it's a bit different, but you get it.

That's a good advice, but at the same time I think they would be even more alerted, you know? And even though they respect me, they believe I can get better so they would stop me if they could (they have told me they would call the ambulance if they saw me struggling and etc, which I totally understand).
The deal I made with my mom some time ago is that I wouldn't do it at our house, so she seems to be calmer now.
But I think she will know the time I decide to go… I couldn't do it without saying goodbye in some way.

 

[brokeandbroken]

As for context I've shared my story but I was the victim of crimes by the medical school overseas I was attending and lost everything. So I was staying with my parents while I was getting my life on track as best as possible. I have dealt with SI before it happened while there because of severe isolation... So I went to the hospital and told them I was feeling suicidal... Went to psych ward etc... While there my parents kicked me out so I'm now homeless. So like many here more or less say unless people are paid to care people don't.

 

[Lilythefenfen]

It was right after I got out a Louisiana Health institution after my abusive ex who SA'd me. I told my mom about wanting to CTB and she looked me straight in the eye and told me, "Sometimes I wish you actually would, you've been nothing but a heartache."

It's honestly stuck with me forever and it's one of many reasons why I'm planning it sometime this year.

 

[downndone2]

I only hear from my family under certain occasions. If I told yhem,they send me 2 psych 4 sure

 

[RedHarlequin]

As for context I've shared my story but I was the victim of crimes by the medical school overseas I was attending and lost everything. So I was staying with my parents while I was getting my life on track as best as possible. I have dealt with SI before it happened while there because of severe isolation... So I went to the hospital and told them I was feeling suicidal... Went to psych ward etc... While there my parents kicked me out so I'm now homeless. So like many here more or less say unless people are paid to care people don't.

Hey, may I ask you which country you attended med school in? You can also pm me. We had a LOT of oversees medical students coming to the school I attended, that's why I'm asking. Out of curiosity.

 

[thereisthemist]

mist parents have not yet accepted mist suicide so mist had to wait a bit

huggies

 

[RedHarlequin]

It was right after I got out a Louisiana Health institution after my abusive ex who SA'd me. I told my mom about wanting to CTB and she looked me straight in the eye and told me, "Sometimes I wish you actually would, you've been nothing but a heartache."

It's honestly stuck with me forever and it's one of many reasons why I'm planning it sometime this year.

I'm so damn sorry that your mother said that. But I think I might have found the root cause of your suicidality.
Any way you can go no contact with her and get therapy, then find a new chosen "family" aka good group of friends before you try ctb? This might turn your life around.
The relationship we've had with our parents is often the relationship we find ourselves in with our partners. Had that too in my life. That's why therapy..

I'm so damn sorry that your mother said that. But I think I might have found the root cause of your suicidality.
Any way you can go no contact with her and get therapy, then find a new chosen "family" aka good group of friends before you try ctb? This might turn your life around.
The relationship we've had with our parents is often the relationship we find ourselves in with our partners. Had that too in my life. That's why therapy..

Anyway, it's just the first impression I got and it might be that Im oversimplifying to a magnificent extent, while giving you advice you're not even looking for. It that case, I'm sorry!

 

[Sunny_flower]

I didn't tell my parents, they found out through a classmate of mine in middle school.

They essentially laughed it off and refused to believe that I was suffering, and often used my suicidal ideation and self-harm to mock me when I got upset over things. I remember one specific incident when my mom straight up handed me a kitchen knife and said "why don't you go up to your room and slice yourself open for a bit if you're so sad? Aren't you gonna do it, huh?"

This is just my take, but I don't advise telling your parents. That being said, best of luck in whatever you choose to do

I'm so sorry you had to grow up with such horrible parents bro

 

[Catastrofe]

I wish it was that easy

I know, it is not easy for me too ... we can still try :)