Anyone feel like they don’t fit or belong in any group?

[Depressed_Kettle]

Sometimes I don't feel like I fit anywhere. I belong to certain social groups like this forum, music, other hobbies etc but I don't feel like I totally belong.

I feel like a shell of a person who has no real character. I used to feel alive but now I feel empty. People have passion about things and show a sense of belonging while I don't. Even topics I used to be involved in, I now feel distanced from. I have either forgot most of the info about a hobby I'm involved in or have no motivation to care about it anymore.

 

[Rustysoupcan]

Absolutely. It feels like anywhere I go I'm the odd one out. Work, school, family events, etc. I see everyone else talking and having fun, but I've never been able to connect with people like that. I just sit in a corner and keep to myself.

 

[Flippy]

I feel like this at times. I think it's depression coupled with anhedonia. You loose the ability to engage with things and you can feel some good old fashioned "imposter syndrome". It's like the motivation part of my brain is working but is disconnected.

So I look at things I usually enjoy and maybe feel a spark of enthusiasm but the spark goes nowhere. It makes me feel more depressed because the interest is kinda there, I just don't feel engaged with things.

It's like seeing your favourite food, but when you take a bite, it's got no taste or texture. The issue I have is that I've described this situation to "professionals" and they've twisted it. So if I say "I just don't feel interested in playing guitar anymore..." They say "So you are saying you hate playing guitar and it's a pathetic waste of time and you want to do something else, got it!"

When I got enjoyment out of things, I used to associate more with people that did the same things. But who wants to play music with someone that just sits there like they've never seen a guitar before?

The only thing that can kinda help I've found is the advice my last therapist gave me which, was to try to act on even the smallest glimmer of enthusiasm you feel and try to engage. Sometimes it can help to find you enjoy it more than you were expecting to. But yeah it has limited success :-( Also you can't always just do this if you are working for example :-(

I hope that you will find a way to get back to your hobbies. The good news is that most of what you've learned will likely come back once you can engage with them again.

 

[coal-light]

Me. It's one of the main reasons I am strongly considering CTB. I feel like I don't relate to anyone or anything. I have nothing to offer to this world and have no desire to continue existing or pretending I enjoy being with people. At the same time, I loathe being alone. Nothing is ever good enough, but I somehow know it could always be worse. I'm in this in-between stage but I feel content about the life I've led so far. No point dragging it out.

 

[Fadeawaaaay]

Yes I am totally isolated at this point. The only place I feel at home is on my couch all day long. I am so far down a hole there's no way out.

 

[LonelyBrazilian]

yes, but I've already given up trying to fit into a group.

 

[FuneralCry]

I feel like I do not belong anywhere. I am not meant for this world. There is nothing here for me in this life. I do not want anything to do with living at all, I just want to be at peace and free from suffering. No matter what I know I would feel empty. In a way it is like I have already died.

 

[NormaJeane]

I do not fit into my family, my relatives, but it is not my fault - my mother has had children in two generations and if you move to another city, this can lead to loneliness because it is difficult to meet new people.