Discussion Anyone ever try to develop a friendship w/ someone beyond this site? You know, have you talked on the phone or met up with other users? How'd it go?

[Why Me?]

If so, what has your experience been like? If not, is it because you don't want to befriend other people that are suicidal in real life? Or you don't trust people on the Internet. I'm new to this website, and might be here a while, so I'm curious.

 

[Al Cappella]

No, not yet. Meaning it hasn't come up. I haven't been here all that long, that might be a reason, as might any number of others. Sometimes I think I might be putting people off, or they just don't like space rats. I also don't really actively go looking for it. But down the road, who knows.

That said, presumably folks aren't here for the long term. That being the case, you can see that getting close to someone, losing them a short while after, on repeat, might get old.

 

[Why Me?]

No, not yet. Meaning it hasn't come up. I haven't been here all that long, that might be a reason, as might any number of others. Sometimes I think I might be putting people off, or they just don't like space rats. I also don't really actively go looking for it. But down the road, who knows.

That said, presumably folks aren't here for the long term. That being the case, you can see that getting close to someone, losing them a short while after, on repeat, might get old.

You made me laugh when you said "or they just don't like space rats," LOL. Yeah, I totally get what your saying...

 

[Niko66]

I would like it if I could connect with someone through the forum, being suicidal in terms of getting along with me is probably a plus, but tbh I am very asocial and picky, insecure, anxious and slow to trust others, I don't see it happening, forums don't exactly bring the best out of me, but I am not closed to the thought either, I've had dreams of meeting online friends in the past.

 

[Why Me?]

I would like it if I could connect with someone through the forum, being suicidal in terms of getting along with me is probably a plus, but tbh I am very asocial and picky, insecure, anxious and slow to trust others, I don't see it happening, forums don't exactly bring the best out of me, but I am not closed to the thought either, I've had dreams of meeting online friends in the past.

Thanks for being so honest. It makes absolute sense that you would feel this way, I can relate to what your saying. It would be great to be able to maximize this forum since there seems to be so much deep connection, but humans are still humans, so it would still probably be rare for a connection to work into a friendship in real life unless there's some real transparency upfront so you can be picky when taking a chance.

 

[Lullaby]

I had made a group of friends when I was originally here 2 years ago, and it transitioned off the website. We would all VC a lot, and I even became romantically close to one. Now, I know a few of them have CTB, recovered, or just disappeared.

Like you said, we're humans and it happens. I would say it was more easier on Discord, but I have no idea what the new ones are or how they're like now. Everyone had their own mini servers and it just went from there.

 

[Life_and_Death]

We never met up but he did become a good friend of mine..... Of course like basically everyone else we don't talk anymore. I know he won't read this (and if he does he'll probably know I'm talking about him lol) but I miss him..

I did make a friend on another suicide site. She's just like me and we talk often.... Ish. She's gotten busy with her stuff so I try to not bother her as much as I can, but we do check in with each other every now and again. I plan on meeting her some day.

 

[Why Me?]

I had made a group of friends when I was originally here 2 years ago, and it transitioned off the website. We would all VC a lot, and I even became romantically close to one. Now, I know a few of them have CTB, recovered, or just disappeared.

Like you said, we're humans and it happens. I would say it was more easier on Discord, but I have no idea what the new ones are or how they're like now. Everyone had their own mini servers and it just went from there.

Wow, "a group of friends." So you really had an intense experience, and I guess you saying, "a few of them have CTB, or just disappeared" is predictable, even though it's sad, but it's good that you made real life friends from this site during that time, especially if you don't regret it.

We never met up but he did become a good friend of mine..... Of course like basically everyone else we don't talk anymore. I know he won't read this (and if he does he'll probably know I'm talking about him lol) but I miss him..

I did make a friend on another suicide site. She's just like me and we talk often.... Ish. She's gotten busy with her stuff so I try to not bother her as much as I can, but we do check in with each other every now and again. I plan on meeting her some day.

That's cool to know that you made good real life friends from this site. It's not something a psychiatrist or therapist can give you, and they probably would not recommend this website.

 

[Lullaby]

Wow, "a group of friends." So you really had an intense experience, and I guess you saying, "a few of them have CTB, or just disappeared" is predictable, even though it's sad, but it's good that you made real life friends from this site during that time, especially if you don't regret it.

Yeah I definitely don't. SS has a revolving door; people are always leaving for different reasons or some come back, but it's okay because regardless of what happens, you really appreciate the people you meet and the times you shared.

We're all sharing a lot of deep personal stuff every day which each other and you're just bound to bond at some point due to all the support.

 

[that_guy2611]

I haven't, because I'm not a likeable guy and i doubt normal people would be willing to spend their free time interacting with me

 

[deleted]

I made some friends with people I met on this forum we created a group but I don't know if it's still active, the people I used to talk to often are no longer with us.
It's nice to talk to someone who understands you mainly from your country I feel very distant when I see people from a rich country talking about their lives, I'm a little happy that they left this hell and sad that they suffered so much

 

[Why Me?]

I haven't, because I'm not a likeable guy and i doubt normal people would be willing to spend their free time interacting with me

I kinda feel this way about myself too... It's rare that I really click with someone, and I'm not myself when I'm depressed, and I'm really depressed right now, but the right person, could motivate me, and make me feel more normal.

I made some friends with people I met on this forum we created a group but I don't know if it's still active, the people I used to talk to often are no longer with us.
It's nice to talk to someone who understands you mainly from your country I feel very distant when I see people from a rich country talking about their lives, I'm a little happy that they left this hell and sad that they suffered so much

Damn, it seems like if you make friends from this site, you have to accept the fact that they might end up CBTing regardless...

 

[Message In A Bottle]

I mean it would be nice to spark a few friendships here. Meeting up though...I'm not so sure. I would have to form a tight trust with someone before ever considering that - An even then it's risky. Atm, I'm just lucky to even form a connection with someone.

 

[Why Me?]

I mean it would be nice to spark a few friendships here. Meeting up though...I'm not so sure. I would have to form a tight trust with someone before ever considering that - An even then it's risky. Atm, I'm just lucky to even form a connection with someone.

Yeah, I feel the same way. Meeting up with someone is not an option for me, especially because of my conition.

 

[Marktheghost]

I've tried to make friends on here. It's never gone any further than a few pms though; then people stop writing, and I never know why.

 

[Why Me?]

I've tried to make friends on here. It's never gone any further than a few pms though; then people stop writing, and I never know why.

I would think the majority of people here don't want real friends from this site, because they want to be anonymous, or they just don't want to for whatever reason, so that would mean that you would probably have to make an effort with a lot of people here to increase your chances maybe? There maybe a social art to it also, I'm "on the spectrum" so I don't know if that would work for me, I may come off awkward or desperate without realizing it. I'm cool when I miraculously click with someone, but other than that my social skills can be disasterous.

 

[befree]

No. It´s too risky.

 

[Why Me?]

No. It´s too risky.

What do you mean by 'too risky?" please elaborate. I know there are creepy people out there, and you got to be careful, but what do you mean?

 

[TEJESHWI]

If so, what has your experience been like? If not, is it because you don't want to befriend other people that are suicidal in real life? Or you don't trust people on the Internet. I'm new to this website, and might be here a while, so I'm curious.

All of us are having heart of feelings.due to some reasons of life.most of us want to end.by spendy time with those in last hours of life.commit SUCIDE with them .it is better because we are humans.leaving parents, friends and memories of happiness.in death we can also find companion

 

[katara]

What do you mean by 'too risky?" please elaborate. I know there are creepy people out there, and you got to be careful, but what do you mean?

I think some people on here are just super paranoid about giving out any personal information because they think someone will call the cops or maybe even kill them. Meanwhile I've literally given out my number to people who I thought were suicidal like me haha. Turned out the people I talked to were just trolling and weren't actually suicidal :/ I think it says more about me then them though, because I was so desperate for a friend.

 

[Why Me?]

I think some people on here are just super paranoid about giving out any personal information because they think someone will call the cops or maybe even kill them. Meanwhile I've literally given out my number to people who I thought were suicidal like me haha. Turned out the people I talked to were just trolling and weren't actually suicidal :/ I think it says more about me then them though, because I was so desperate for a friend.

Wow, what type of person would troll on a website like this? That's crazy, thanks for sharing your experience.

 

[sandalphon]

This forum is full of beautiful souls but I would never EVER form a friendship with anyone here outside. For my own mental health.

 

[Why Me?]

This forum is full of beautiful souls but I would never EVER form a friendship with anyone here outside. For my own mental health.

I understand.

 

[onlyanimalsaregood]

This is a tricky question and I understand both parts. I think our safety must come first. And don't forget that this site is public.

 

[Catloaf]

Yes, I've made some friends/good acquaintances here along the way. I'm quite surprised, because I've never intended to do so as I'm a very closed off person and too focused on my health issues. It just happened by itself and I'm glad that it did, tbh.

We didn't do video calls (if showing my pets once is considered a video call, then yes). But I think if I or some of them hanged around for long enough, we would VC at some point.

It's always an emotional and painful moment when you part ways, either cause of their ctb or other reason. Even then I wouldn't change anything if given a chance.

My advice is to remember the nature of this site. You will probably have to separate in the future. When they want to leave, let them go.

 

[Fadeawaaaay]

Yes I've met some interesting folks here, people who can understand what I'm going through and vice versa.

 

[Insomniac]

almost got into a relationship with someone.

 

[Why Me?]

almost got into a relationship with someone.

Really? Interesting... So you guys were hanging out in person?

 

[befree]

What do you mean by 'too risky?" please elaborate. I know there are creepy people out there, and you got to be careful, but what do you mean?

Do you think there are only people that want to commit suicide in this forum ? Also authorities, customs and police read here and can register as a user. So imagine you give someone your contact details and that person puts you in psychiatric hospital. And since we're talking about buying banned substances here, the police might also be interested in who you are. How can I trust someone on the internet if I don't even know the person.

Regardless of this, the question is whether new friendships make sense if you want to die anyway.

But I must admit that sometimes it would be good to talk to someone instead of just writing.

 

[Why Me?]

Do you think there are only people that want to commit suicide in this forum ? Also authorities and police read here and can register as a user. So imagine you give someone your contact details and that person puts you in psychiatric hospital. And since we're talking about buying banned substances here, the police might also be interested in who you are. How can I trust someone on the internet if I don't even know the person.

Oh wow, didn't think about that...