Anyone else's parents ruined their lives?

[S like Siren]

Yes,mine too.I hate them so much, they are the main reason for my depression ... if I could have chosen I would never have chosen them, or if I could change them I would not think for a second. I call them the "beasts" because they are unable to love .... after all Dante wrote in the divine comedy: "we are not made to live like beasts but to chase virtue and knowledge". If I grew up with all these problems it is because of how they raised me .... the family really matters a lot and how you are raised matters a lot to an individual's future I really envy those with a beautiful loving family where they feel loved

 

[Snake of Eden]

My parents are not perfect but they are great. It makes me feel so bad and unworthy how well they treat me. I hate them sometimes for being this nice

 

[bigfishlittlefish]

I would say that 75% of why I feel like shit all the time is because of how my mother treated me when I was a child. Basically she was physically and mentally abusive and also invasive but it would take hours to talk about the specifics.. Because of that I never learned how to stand up for myself and now i'm an insecure, anxious wreck with no energy to do anything. I am constantly on edge and feel like everyone and everything is out to get me.

Anyone else have a similar experience? It's sad how you can't control what kind of family you're born into.

Yep. My 'father' physically and emotionally abused my mother, including raping her, and emotionally abused me for all of my childhood. My brain is totally fucked up now in the way it thinks people act, or what they think about me, jeez, so many things.

 

[Westbrynn]

Yes.

 

[Broken Chimera]

Honestly, while mine did a lot of messed up stuff, I realized later that they were broken people. I'm angry about the things they said and did to this day, but I can't hate them. I just tried to minimize the damage they did and move on.

 

[aristotle is ok]

What a lovely comment!!!<3

I am still lerning how to reply to you directly, so sotty for the delay. Your response to what I wrote is beautiful. It gives me confidence. Thank you.

 

[WonderingSoul]

Yes, definitely for me. My parents are always verbally abusive and neglectful. I'd be a much healthier and smarter person if it wasn't for them. My mom literally doesn't know shit and decided to give birth to me. Whenever I ask her for help on anything in life, she just says "I don't know". Like, how the fuck did you make it this far in life if you don't know shit ?! My dad tries to take advantage of any situation as much as he can. He was very abusive to my step mom, and soon ended in a divorce. They're one of my primary reasons for me ctb.

 

[SimpleSimon]

I would say that 75% of why I feel like shit all the time is because of how my mother treated me when I was a child. Basically she was physically and mentally abusive and also invasive but it would take hours to talk about the specifics.. Because of that I never learned how to stand up for myself and now i'm an insecure, anxious wreck with no energy to do anything. I am constantly on edge and feel like everyone and everything is out to get me.

Anyone else have a similar experience? It's sad how you can't control what kind of family you're born into.

I don't know what my parents intended, but they both committed suicide, 3 months apart, when I was nine. The two years after sucked, as we were moved half way around the world, to live with people we'd never met before (aunt and uncle), who were actually going through separation/divorce. So whether depression is genetic or environmental I had claims to both. And I'm just so very tired of it all

 

[S like Siren]

I am still lerning how to reply to you directly, so sotty for the delay. Your response to what I wrote is beautiful. It gives me confidence. Thank you.

You are welcome!<3

 

[Misery99]

Yes my parents, specially my mother is one reason why my mind is fucked up now.My father was an alcoholic and my mother was committing adultery. I saw my mom having sex with a guy much younger than her. He was my brother's friend. He was like 25+ years younger than her. Just like a son to her. I was just 9 years old when I saw mom having sex with that guy.It made me feel disgusted about my mom. I still hate her.I can never forget that image of her having sex with him. That wasn't just one incident. She kept having sex with him for years and didn't give a fuck about how me; her little daughter was feeling. After her sexual affair ended with that guy, she found another man to have sex with her. He comes to home while dad isn't at home and and they go to a room with mom and have sex while me; a young woman in her 20s was staying in another room! How disgusting and vile that woman was. And she was a grandma in her 60s but she could not keep her legs close! I'm ashamed to even call her as my mom. The worst part is that she didn't let me have my own freedom too. She didn't let me go on a date with the man I wanted to kiss and have a sexual relationship with. My mom was apparently so worried about my virginity while she was screwing around men like a whore. When I ctb I will write a note exposing her adultery. I didn't even reveal my dad about that bitch committing adultery but that's how that bitch showed me gratitude.By stealing away my freedom.