Anyone else suffer from an attachment disorder?

[Weebster]

“Attachment hunger” is hell. I latch onto people but it just pushes them away. It’s like a waking death.

 

[western_heart]

I used to, but at some point I changed and I have no desire to become attached to anyone anymore. Am still in a relationship but often want out.

 

[Life_and_Death]

Not exactly the same but borderline personality disorder comes with abandonment issues.
If I don't get a message back in an "appropriate amount of time" (like 2 mins) I go into "they hate me mode" "I said something wrong. I fucked up. They don't love me. They don't care about me. I shouldnt have done that, how could I have been so stupid. I'm better off just kms" just so that they can message 4mins later like everything is cool.

So not an attachment disorder as that strikes me as a before hand thing, while for me it's if I'm already attached im worried about them leaving.

Borderline personality disorder is emotionally exhausting.

 

[houseofleaves]

“Attachment hunger” is hell. I latch onto people but it just pushes them away. It’s like a waking death.

yes… one of my reasons to ctb is — my favourite person doesn’t love as much as she used to(( (and it’s real, i didn’t make this up, it’s no delusion of mine, so this is painful as hell)

 

[JinZhin]

Not officially diagnosed but I was told I most likely have anxious-avoidant or ambivalent attachment style. It basically comes down to either being desperately lonely but too afraid to get close to people, thus remaining that way or clinging to people for a while than becoming cold and detached, running away from them because you don't even really know what you feel anymore.

 

[Weebster]

Not exactly the same but borderline personality disorder comes with abandonment issues.
If I don't get a message back in an "appropriate amount of time" (like 2 mins) I go into "they hate me mode" "I said something wrong. I fucked up. They don't love me. They don't care about me. I shouldnt have done that, how could I have been so stupid. I'm better off just kms" just so that they can message 4mins later like everything is cool.

So not an attachment disorder as that strikes me as a before hand thing, while for me it's if I'm already attached im worried about them leaving.

Borderline personality disorder is emotionally exhausting.

My texting habit is similar

 

[Pluto]

Definitely relate to all of the above. It can spiral into a total disaster when the sense of neediness and the dearth of companionship fuel each other into a tornado of woe.

 

[UnwantedUnlovable85]

No, I generally can’t stand people unless they are right on my level. Sadly I can’t stand my girlfriend, she’s been with me 5 years too long and we have zero in common other than morbid humor and bad movies. Other than that she irritates the shit out of me. But no if I had my choice I’d be alone, I miss being single. Just had affairs, read all day, had my own place and my own rules I was free as the wind. Take my advice: relationships stink

 

[onlyanimalsaregood]

Yes, I get attached to people very easily and then I'm all the time afraid of when they will get sick of me. It's not even if, it's when, and because it happened several times in a row it is already a trauma. I have abandonment issues from childhood so I always feel like people are abandoning me. I also have a great feeling of loneliness. It is really hard from me to trust people so I isolated myself. I am not like most people who are with one person today and with another tomorrow. I had enough.

 

[Weebster]

No, I generally can’t stand people unless they are right on my level. Sadly I can’t stand my girlfriend, she’s been with me 5 years too long and we have zero in common other than morbid humor and bad movies. Other than that she irritates the shit out of me. But no if I had my choice I’d be alone, I miss being single. Just had affairs, read all day, had my own place and my own rules I was free as the wind. Take my advice: relationships stink

How many relationships have you had?

 

[UnwantedUnlovable85]

2 serious/ 1 rebound and several lovers that’s last for a month and we’d just part ways.

 

[come to dust]

I get attached to people, especially people online.

I don't have a specific diagnosis. But I'm certainly a lonely, undesirable person, so it's somewhat naturally going to happen

 

[Weebster]

I get attached to people, especially people online.

I don't have a specific diagnosis. But I'm certainly a lonely, undesirable person, so it's somewhat naturally going to happen

I don’t understand getting attached to people online. People online are just words on a screen.

 

[come to dust]

I don’t understand getting attached to people online. People online are just words on a screen.

The kind of frank, honest, genuine, truthful and non judgemental conversations you can have online to connect with people are simply not possible in real life. I can't go round parading that I'm suicidal in real life or I'll get detained.

In fact, I care much less about real life connections for this reason. Online ones are much more valuable.

 

[Weebster]

The kind of frank, honest, genuine, truthful and non judgemental conversations you can have online to connect with people are simply not possible in real life. I can't go round parading that I'm suicidal in real life or I'll get detained.

In fact, I care much less about real life connections for this reason. Online ones are much more valuable.

I talk to people in person the same way I do online.

 

[lili]

I guess borderline is technically a kind of attachment disorder?

I know for sure I suffer from eternal loneliness, and it is unbearable to feel this way. I tend to then feel connected with people in very fast ways, so in this case I have this attachment. But this interest eventually fades away, so maybe it isn't an attachment disorder since none of these bonds are permanent.

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

Probably, but I don’t want to look into it further or I’m going to make a big deal out of it and over exaggerate it.

 

[sourokraandfish]

Not officially diagnosed but I was told I most likely have anxious-avoidant or ambivalent attachment style. It basically comes down to either being desperately lonely but too afraid to get close to people, thus remaining that way or clinging to people for a while than becoming cold and detached, running away from them because you don't even really know what you feel anymore.

same :/

The relationship would be going ok, good actually, then suddenly out of nowhere I would find the other person and their affection repulsive. So I slowly become detached and withdraw away.

Receiving genuine affection arouses anxiety in me that often translates to hostility so sometimes I would even lash out and hurt the other person.

 

[Dot]

I guess borderline is technically a kind of attachment disorder?

I know for sure I suffer from eternal loneliness, and it is unbearable to feel this way. I tend to then feel connected with people in very fast ways, so in this case I have this attachment. But this interest eventually fades away, so maybe it isn't an attachment disorder since none of these bonds are permanent.

Apprntly b.p.d = effctvly a devlpmntl attchmnt - basd disrdr

 

[ifeelthelight]

Yeah I think I’m dismissive-avoidant (even with my friends, oops). I blame not successfully bonding with my mother as the problem. I don’t think I actually connected/bonded with her enough to result in a healthy attachment style. I’m aroace tho so I’m not sure if attachment styles even apply in my case….