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Weebster

Weebster

Everyone is alone. Everyone is empty.
Mar 11, 2022
1,683
"Attachment hunger" is hell. I latch onto people but it just pushes them away. It's like a waking death.
 
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western_heart

western_heart

trying to save ourself
May 23, 2021
630
I used to, but at some point I changed and I have no desire to become attached to anyone anymore. Am still in a relationship but often want out.
 
Life_and_Death

Life_and_Death

Do what's best for you 🕯️
Jul 1, 2020
6,731
Not exactly the same but borderline personality disorder comes with abandonment issues.
If I don't get a message back in an "appropriate amount of time" (like 2 mins) I go into "they hate me mode" "I said something wrong. I fucked up. They don't love me. They don't care about me. I shouldnt have done that, how could I have been so stupid. I'm better off just kms" just so that they can message 4mins later like everything is cool. :meh:

So not an attachment disorder as that strikes me as a before hand thing, while for me it's if I'm already attached im worried about them leaving.

Borderline personality disorder is emotionally exhausting.
 
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houseofleaves

houseofleaves

and this with thee remains.
Jan 14, 2022
544
"Attachment hunger" is hell. I latch onto people but it just pushes them away. It's like a waking death.
yes… one of my reasons to ctb is — my favourite person doesn't love as much as she used to(( (and it's real, i didn't make this up, it's no delusion of mine, so this is painful as hell)
 
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JinZhin

JinZhin

Student
Nov 2, 2021
183
Not officially diagnosed but I was told I most likely have anxious-avoidant or ambivalent attachment style. It basically comes down to either being desperately lonely but too afraid to get close to people, thus remaining that way or clinging to people for a while than becoming cold and detached, running away from them because you don't even really know what you feel anymore.
 
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Weebster

Weebster

Everyone is alone. Everyone is empty.
Mar 11, 2022
1,683
Not exactly the same but borderline personality disorder comes with abandonment issues.
If I don't get a message back in an "appropriate amount of time" (like 2 mins) I go into "they hate me mode" "I said something wrong. I fucked up. They don't love me. They don't care about me. I shouldnt have done that, how could I have been so stupid. I'm better off just kms" just so that they can message 4mins later like everything is cool. :meh:

So not an attachment disorder as that strikes me as a before hand thing, while for me it's if I'm already attached im worried about them leaving.

Borderline personality disorder is emotionally exhausting.
My texting habit is similar
 
Pluto

Pluto

Meowing to go out
Dec 27, 2020
3,653
Definitely relate to all of the above. It can spiral into a total disaster when the sense of neediness and the dearth of companionship fuel each other into a tornado of woe.
 
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UnwantedUnlovable85

Member
Dec 2, 2021
27
No, I generally can't stand people unless they are right on my level. Sadly I can't stand my girlfriend, she's been with me 5 years too long and we have zero in common other than morbid humor and bad movies. Other than that she irritates the shit out of me. But no if I had my choice I'd be alone, I miss being single. Just had affairs, read all day, had my own place and my own rules I was free as the wind. Take my advice: relationships stink
 
onlyanimalsaregood

onlyanimalsaregood

Unlovable 💔 Rest in peace CommitSudoku 🤍
Mar 11, 2022
1,330
Yes, I get attached to people very easily and then I'm all the time afraid of when they will get sick of me. It's not even if, it's when, and because it happened several times in a row it is already a trauma. I have abandonment issues from childhood so I always feel like people are abandoning me. I also have a great feeling of loneliness. It is really hard from me to trust people so I isolated myself. I am not like most people who are with one person today and with another tomorrow. I had enough.
 
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Weebster

Weebster

Everyone is alone. Everyone is empty.
Mar 11, 2022
1,683
No, I generally can't stand people unless they are right on my level. Sadly I can't stand my girlfriend, she's been with me 5 years too long and we have zero in common other than morbid humor and bad movies. Other than that she irritates the shit out of me. But no if I had my choice I'd be alone, I miss being single. Just had affairs, read all day, had my own place and my own rules I was free as the wind. Take my advice: relationships stink
How many relationships have you had?
 
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UnwantedUnlovable85

Member
Dec 2, 2021
27
2 serious/ 1 rebound and several lovers that's last for a month and we'd just part ways.
 
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come to dust

Arcanist
Oct 28, 2019
454
I get attached to people, especially people online.

I don't have a specific diagnosis. But I'm certainly a lonely, undesirable person, so it's somewhat naturally going to happen
 
Weebster

Weebster

Everyone is alone. Everyone is empty.
Mar 11, 2022
1,683
I get attached to people, especially people online.

I don't have a specific diagnosis. But I'm certainly a lonely, undesirable person, so it's somewhat naturally going to happen
I don't understand getting attached to people online. People online are just words on a screen.
 
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come to dust

Arcanist
Oct 28, 2019
454
I don't understand getting attached to people online. People online are just words on a screen.
The kind of frank, honest, genuine, truthful and non judgemental conversations you can have online to connect with people are simply not possible in real life. I can't go round parading that I'm suicidal in real life or I'll get detained.

In fact, I care much less about real life connections for this reason. Online ones are much more valuable.
 
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Weebster

Weebster

Everyone is alone. Everyone is empty.
Mar 11, 2022
1,683
The kind of frank, honest, genuine, truthful and non judgemental conversations you can have online to connect with people are simply not possible in real life. I can't go round parading that I'm suicidal in real life or I'll get detained.

In fact, I care much less about real life connections for this reason. Online ones are much more valuable.
I talk to people in person the same way I do online.
 
lili

lili

Specialist
Feb 17, 2022
319
I guess borderline is technically a kind of attachment disorder?

I know for sure I suffer from eternal loneliness, and it is unbearable to feel this way. I tend to then feel connected with people in very fast ways, so in this case I have this attachment. But this interest eventually fades away, so maybe it isn't an attachment disorder since none of these bonds are permanent.
 
Dr Iron Arc

Dr Iron Arc

Into the Unknown
Feb 10, 2020
20,085
Probably, but I don't want to look into it further or I'm going to make a big deal out of it and over exaggerate it.
 
sourokraandfish

sourokraandfish

Member
Apr 3, 2022
37
Not officially diagnosed but I was told I most likely have anxious-avoidant or ambivalent attachment style. It basically comes down to either being desperately lonely but too afraid to get close to people, thus remaining that way or clinging to people for a while than becoming cold and detached, running away from them because you don't even really know what you feel anymore.

same :/

The relationship would be going ok, good actually, then suddenly out of nowhere I would find the other person and their affection repulsive. So I slowly become detached and withdraw away.

Receiving genuine affection arouses anxiety in me that often translates to hostility so sometimes I would even lash out and hurt the other person.
 
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Dot

Globl mod | Info abt typng styl on prfle.
Sep 26, 2021
2,641
I guess borderline is technically a kind of attachment disorder?

I know for sure I suffer from eternal loneliness, and it is unbearable to feel this way. I tend to then feel connected with people in very fast ways, so in this case I have this attachment. But this interest eventually fades away, so maybe it isn't an attachment disorder since none of these bonds are permanent.
Apprntly b.p.d = effctvly a devlpmntl attchmnt - basd disrdr
 
sserafim

sserafim

they say it’s darkest of all before the dawn
Sep 13, 2023
8,600
Yeah I think I'm dismissive-avoidant (even with my friends, oops). I blame not successfully bonding with my mother as the problem. I don't think I actually connected/bonded with her enough to result in a healthy attachment style. I'm aroace tho so I'm not sure if attachment styles even apply in my case….
 

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