Venting Anyone else simply gave up on therapy/ghosted their therapists and psychiatrists cause your life genuinely sucks and no meds or talking fixes it

[Misanthrope0000]

I'm asking this question to anyone that realized therapy isn't gonna save them for their bad life, to people that realized their issues weren't just mental, but affected by things such as poverty, homelessness, horrible environments, abuse etc etc.

To share my story, I happen to be a loser that was born into an Islamic low income country, I also happen to be someone that has hobbies that are simply unaccessible here, I happen to be an atheist, I happen to be a person that loves walking down clean nature and cities, but all the ugly unfinished buildings and garbage on streets make me regret taking a walk everytime. I happen to be a free person, I want freedom, I wanna express myself through fashion, music, being open about my hobbies, beliefs to find people like me, but society punishes you for daring to be different, bullying, harassment, sometimes even physical violence (luckily I haven't been physically assaulted YET).
I'm so a highschool drop out because I kept getting death threats in school and almost became a bully victim, but I dipped for my own safety.

Everyone around me is basically hateful, people always glare and gossip, everyone is angry and yelling, even when you try to get some legal work done such as getting an ID or finding a job, no one is reliable, no one takes their job seriously, they all scam you or give you wrong information.

The government only cares about the richer class, but the poorer class like myself live in dirty neighbors full of garbage on the streets everywhere, the poor neighbors also happen to be more conservative and get judged more for my life choices, the men there are taught even a knee length skirt is revealing and catcall non stop. It's genuine suffering.

I'm a soul that is meant to be fashionable, going to music concerts from time to time, taking walks in beautiful clean mature and cities, being surrounded by an accepting and loving society that doesn't torment or harass anyone that they feel as "different", someone that is meant to actually live life and not waste most of my life in my room due to poverty and my country having no fun activities that fit my hobbies, someone that doesn't want to be forced to follow rules of a religion that doesn't belong to them, someone that don't want religion to be forced on them because they happen to be a specific race and ethnicity, someone that, simply, wants to live life without poverty and a bad environment.

No amount of therapy can fix it, mine either gave me a bunch of meds with horrible side effects or, long story short trying to make me convinced of this shitty life I have.

That's when I gave up on therapy and accepted that moving out is my only escape and happiness, and as long as I remain here, my mental health will just keep getting worse and worse until I either die to get locked up in a mental hospital.

 

[Passenger4224]

I stopped therapy years ago. It's a load of BS. Total scam unless you can be brainwashed into being happy.

It does seem like in your case, imo, therapy will not solve your issues as it is not a problem with you but rather the problem with people in your country. It sounds so horrible and I'm really sorry about your struggles.

 

[Winry]

This sounds so awful. It also seems that if perhaps you were able to move to another country, you would not be so suicidal? This does not sound like a "you" issue, as in, it sounds as if your brain is not what makes you miserable, rather your environment. No amount of medication or talk therapy will fix that.

I wish there was some way you could move somewhere else where you can be free to express yourself and live the way you want. It feels like that would help a lot with your mental health, waaay more than therapy or meds.

I hope peace and comfort for you one day, however you find it.

 

[Misanthrope0000]

This sounds so awful. It also seems that if perhaps you were able to move to another country, you would not be so suicidal? This does not sound like a "you" issue, as in, it sounds as if your brain is not what makes you miserable, rather your environment. No amount of medication or talk therapy will fix that.

I wish there was some way you could move somewhere else where you can be free to express yourself and live the way you want. It feels like that would help a lot with your mental health, waaay more than therapy or meds.

I hope peace and comfort for you one day, however you find it.

Yep, I think about it all the time, I believe there's nothing wrong with my mind, and that my mind is simply reacting to a horrible environment that limits me from living a normal life, I felt like therapists just tell me that I'm "mentally ill" no matter the situation, even if my life genuinely sucks and have every single right to be "depressed" and suicidal, I truly believe if I somehow made it out I won't be suicidal or depressed anymore..


Thank you so much

I stopped therapy years ago. It's a load of BS. Total scam unless you can be brainwashed into being happy.

It does seem like in your case, imo, therapy will not solve your issues as it is not a problem with you but rather the problem with people in your country. It sounds so horrible and I'm really sorry about your struggles.

Yep, instead of brainwashing us to settle for a horrible life, I wish governments all over the world fix the things that make people depressed in the first place

 

[Kai64]

I'm asking this question to anyone that realized therapy isn't gonna save them for their bad life, to people that realized their issues weren't just mental, but affected by things such as poverty, homelessness, horrible environments, abuse etc etc.

To share my story, I happen to be a loser that was born into an Islamic low income country, I also happen to be someone that has hobbies that are simply unaccessible here, I happen to be an atheist, I happen to be a person that loves walking down clean nature and cities, but all the ugly unfinished buildings and garbage on streets make me regret taking a walk everytime. I happen to be a free person, I want freedom, I wanna express myself through fashion, music, being open about my hobbies, beliefs to find people like me, but society punishes you for daring to be different, bullying, harassment, sometimes even physical violence (luckily I haven't been physically assaulted YET).
I'm so a highschool drop out because I kept getting death threats in school and almost became a bully victim, but I dipped for my own safety.

Everyone around me is basically hateful, people always glare and gossip, everyone is angry and yelling, even when you try to get some legal work done such as getting an ID or finding a job, no one is reliable, no one takes their job seriously, they all scam you or give you wrong information.

The government only cares about the richer class, but the poorer class like myself live in dirty neighbors full of garbage on the streets everywhere, the poor neighbors also happen to be more conservative and get judged more for my life choices, the men there are taught even a knee length skirt is revealing and catcall non stop. It's genuine suffering.

I'm a soul that is meant to be fashionable, going to music concerts from time to time, taking walks in beautiful clean mature and cities, being surrounded by an accepting and loving society that doesn't torment or harass anyone that they feel as "different", someone that is meant to actually live life and not waste most of my life in my room due to poverty and my country having no fun activities that fit my hobbies, someone that doesn't want to be forced to follow rules of a religion that doesn't belong to them, someone that don't want religion to be forced on them because they happen to be a specific race and ethnicity, someone that, simply, wants to live life without poverty and a bad environment.

No amount of therapy can fix it, mine either gave me a bunch of meds with horrible side effects or, long story short trying to make me convinced of this shitty life I have.

That's when I gave up on therapy and accepted that moving out is my only escape and happiness, and as long as I remain here, my mental health will just keep getting worse and worse until I either die to get locked up in a mental hospital.

not that i exactly ghosted my therapist, she's someone who's so gentle and helps a lot of people, but her help is unfortunately useless to me now.

she's someone who's very sweet and was the reason why i didn't ctb many times in the past, but after so long, i see that she couldn't truly help me nor kick this desire of mine

 

[Mirrors]

I think my therapist really tried, but they didn't tell me anything I didn't already know. I was simply unable to apply their advice. It took a long time to find the meds that worked for me, but I also feel like they're becoming less effective over time. I hope you find some relief.

 

[Topaz111]

I tried multiple different therapists for years, some of the biggest waste of time and money holy shit. They actually made me worse, told me it was my fault for feeling bad because I wasn't "being positive" or "trying hard enough" and such. They also missed my autism for like a decade until I eventually figured it out myself. I don't go to therapy anymore and I wish I quit far far sooner though I didn't have a choice back then :/
Therapy won't fix my chronic pain and chronic physical health issues. I can't gaslight myself out of my suffering sadly.

 

[Asya]

I have been doing therapy for 9 years and it's done nothing for me. I only continue to do it because I feel like it's what I'm supposed to do as a mentally ill girl. It lets me tell myself I'm trying, even if it's useless. Maybe it works for people who aren't really all that bad off but there's no amount of talking that can magically make you have money or get you out of a miserable life. Mental health support is not meant for our kind. It's a poor band-aid to addressing the systemic issues of civilization and capitalism that leads people into such harrowing misery. It's so society can feel good about themselves for supposedly caring without having to do any of the hard work or think. It's nonsense. I take medication that dulls the pain a bit but it does nothing to address the root of the issues. I feel bad for artificially removing my pain which is an appropriate response to my life... but god knows I need it.

 

[Cloud Busting]

I'm going tomorrow and it fills me with disgust.

It's fucking GROSS. So you're telling me that empathy and basic human connection should be clinical and provided by an institution rather than by the community at large?

It's a reflection of a sad, broken, isolated society that no longer cares for one another like we were evolved to. Humans are not made to live in a post-industrial society. We don't have time to foster community anymore. We need therapists to do what we used to do for one another.

Essentially, needing a therapist means your pain is too much for another person, and so you need someone who has the time to help you because they get paid for it. It is their job. Their other job isn't restricting their free time. It's so gross. It's just disgusting.

I'm going tomorrow and it's so sad and depressing to be so broken and defective the system needs to handle me. It makes me want to kill my self.

I resent therapy. I'm angry I need it. I'm angry the world failed me to the point of needing it. But if i can become healthy, maybe i can provide the actual real mutual aid and community outreach people need to heal than this over individualized nonsense that brings people farther apart and creates codependency on the therapist rather than mutual aid and self reliance.

And I love a boy. But god does it hurt that I need a therapist or else he'll break up with me cuz I'm too much for him.

It hurts so much

"You shouldn't have to go through this alone!" But I do otherwise I wouldn't be paying your fucking ass.

I hate therapy so much

 

[Pluto]

 

[NR12345]

I truly hope you can escape this feeling of entrapment. It must be horrible to feel this way, with no way of getting away from it. I feel therapy is just a tick of the box chore. It has done nothing for me. My psychiatrist tells me to get a job. I can't even get up in the morning to start my day. The only reason I'm sticking with my psychiatrist is that I need to go to get paid. It's a condition of my insurance from my previous employer. I am longing for peace that will never arrive. I am on meds that don't work. Nothing has worked. I stay on them to appease my family. I hope good fortune comes your way.

 

[itsgone2]

I just stopped going.
Both the therapist and psychiatrist know I'm very actively suicidal.
Neither office reached out to me.
Whatever. I don't deserve saving.

 

[Matchaaa]

I am so sorry you're going through this, I might have the same way.

I believe that in most cases, this is a problem stemming from the environment and the country's social conditions. I've often thought that if you could live in a better environment, the results would be far better than those achieved through medication or certain forms of psychotherapy, because this isn't your fault.
I live in an East Asian country that is extremely high-pressure and lacking in freedom. The streets lack aesthetic appeal, housing is mediocre, and the wealth gap is vast. Many people there are told to take medication even though their issues clearly stem from their environment. I hope that one day you can find freedom and peace, sending a big hug
In some cases, the problem truly lies with the environment as a whole and has nothing to do with the individual. If people are only prescribed medication for issues clearly caused by their environment, this is actually a sign of administrative laziness—because society is either unable or unwilling to address these problems.

 

[Cloud Busting]

I am so sorry you're going through this, I might have the same way.

I believe that in most cases, this is a problem stemming from the environment and the country's social conditions. I've often thought that if you could live in a better environment, the results would be far better than those achieved through medication or certain forms of psychotherapy, because this isn't your fault.
I live in an East Asian country that is extremely high-pressure and lacking in freedom. The streets lack aesthetic appeal, housing is mediocre, and the wealth gap is vast. Many people there are told to take medication even though their issues clearly stem from their environment. I hope that one day you can find freedom and peace, sending a big hug
In some cases, the problem truly lies with the environment as a whole and has nothing to do with the individual. If people are only prescribed medication for issues clearly caused by their environment, this is actually a sign of administrative laziness—because society is either unable or unwilling to address these problems.

I completely agree, though I can only speak for America and western values. I am sure the issues are starkly different in east Asia.

There is something called the rat park study you may find interesting, showing that rats in a stimulating and enriching environment are less vulnerable to addiction. I always thought it was nonsensical we treat addicts by criminalizing them and making their situation that more shitty and thus liable to reinforcing the addiction to escape reality.

Environment is a huge factor, and medicating because it's easier is also an issue (not that medication never has a place. It does.)

I have been fortunate enough to find a therapist who agrees that community and systemic issues play a large role in mental health, and that needlessly pathologizing is a detriment. She is strength based. It took a lot of vetting to find her. The push for evidence based practice and the discrediting of psycho analysis has really fucked shit up I think.

Also it's wild to see what I've written nearly a month ago and disagree with it now. I recant all I said. I'm undergoing a radical shift and I love my therapist. I hope everyone gets touched with my luck.

 

[BrokenByTheSystem]

I'm considering that, every time I go there and I'm in the waiting room I just think "fuck man what I'm even doing here? I don't even think I want to get better, maybe I'm just wasting her time (the terapist time)".

Tried dozens of different medicines none of them worked.

I feel like I'm giving up I just want to stay on my bedroom for the rest of my life or just til I find the courage to end it.

 

[Matchaaa]

I completely agree, though I can only speak for America and western values. I am sure the issues are starkly different in east Asia.

There is something called the rat park study you may find interesting, showing that rats in a stimulating and enriching environment are less vulnerable to addiction. I always thought it was nonsensical we treat addicts by criminalizing them and making their situation that more shitty and thus liable to reinforcing the addiction to escape reality.

Environment is a huge factor, and medicating because it's easier is also an issue (not that medication never has a place. It does.)

I have been fortunate enough to find a therapist who agrees that community and systemic issues play a large role in mental health, and that needlessly pathologizing is a detriment. She is strength based. It took a lot of vetting to find her. The push for evidence based practice and the discrediting of psycho analysis has really fucked shit up I think.

Also it's wild to see what I've written nearly a month ago and disagree with it now. I recant all I said. I'm undergoing a radical shift and I love my therapist. I hope everyone gets touched with my luck.

I'm really glad you found a good therapist. Thanks for sharing your perspective — it really resonated with me. I agree that it's not helpful to pathologize everything, since everyone's situation is different. I hope you keep healing and find happiness.