anyone else here lonely and autistic?

[FadingDawn]

How are you guys doing? Wanna talk?

 

[sserafim]

I have Asperger's but I'm not lonely, as I never desired connection in the first place. I've also never wanted love, romance or intimacy. I have no need for relationships. I like being alone and in isolation

 

[iloverachel]

Not autistic but incredibly lonely and isolated

 

[Throwawayacc3]

Yes both. Had a partner and that's all I wanted not sloths of people everywhere. She's not here anymore so I can't talk to anyone now.

 

[FadingDawn]

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I have Asperger's but I'm not lonely, as I never desired connection in the first place. I've also never wanted love, romance or intimacy. I have no need for relationships. I like being alone and in isolation

Glad to hear you don't feel lonely. I'm also mostly asexual and aromantic. Sorry to hear you're also struggling tho

Yes both. Had a partner and that's all I wanted not sloths of people everywhere. She's not here anymore so I can't talk to anyone now.

That tragic to hear. Very sorry she's not around anymore

Not autistic but incredibly lonely and isolated

Sorry to hear you're lonely

 

[sserafim]

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Glad to hear you don't feel lonely. I'm also mostly asexual and aromantic. Sorry to hear you're also struggling tho

It's okay. I guess life itself is my struggle

 

[timetodie24]

Yes I'm autistic and quite lonely. Partly my own fault as I've pushed people away.

 

[FadingDawn]

It's okay. I guess life itself is my struggle

I've seen you a lot around here btw.

 

[4_science]

Yes I'm autistic and quite lonely. Partly my own fault as I've pushed people away.

Same. Not sure I actively push people away but it is either people finding it hard to deal with me or I find something in them that pushes me away because I don´t know how to deal with. I sometimes feel lonely, but on the other hand I am tired of trying to bend myself in each possible way with people I like, too. I want to be allowed to be weird and be myself. That only works when I am alone. I am also done asking people for advice to deal with things I don´t understand or try to make sense of. They don´t understand why I am struggling in the first place. "Why cant you just ..." "oh, that is no big deal just do this..." ending up telling me I should basically just be neurotypical and stop being autistic. This is the first place I have ever met people like me.

 

[Red Moon]

I'm autistic but didn't desire girls until later than normal, I'm ok with the loneliness and isolation but it does get lonely for me once in a while.

 

[TheEndTimes]

I am autistic. Four years ago, I deactivated my Facebook account and this week I finally deleted it. I never posted on Twitter or Instagram but I deleted those accounts too. I realize no one cares to understand me and I just don't want to try anymore. I've stopped talking to anyone I don't pay for their time (therapist, doctors, etc). I deleted my Reddit account yesterday. I got a dog hoping it would make me feel better but it wasn't a great move and I regret it. Truly just wish I was dead.

 

[lnlybnny]

not diagnosed but i relate to many autistic symptoms. i've always been lonely and i prefer it that way most of the times

 

[FadingDawn]

not diagnosed but i relate to many autistic symptoms. i've always been lonely and i prefer it that way most of the times

Sorry to hear it

 

[lnlybnny]

I am tired of trying to bend myself in each possible way with people I like, too. I want to be allowed to be weird and be myself.

this is so me

 

[Esokabat]

Same here. Autistic and very alone. I deleted Linkedin, I will soon delete FB. I don't have anyone, no friends, no family. I had a dog once, for me it was the best decision in my life, my dog died years ago but I still cry when I see a photo and my dog still regularly appear in my dreams but I still had much more energy then. Dogs require a lot of work, sacrifice, energy, if you don't have the energy (mental or physical) it might not be a good option. I could not get a dog now as I no longer have that kind of energy. But my dog was truly the biggest thing in my life, hands down, the most impactful, most memorable, most life changing. I was lucky as I ended up with an extremely intelligent dog, other people often commented on it. I believe I will see my dog again one day…

 

[Chr0nicAnhedonic]

Autistic here as well. Living in the interesting space where I'm incredibly lonely but also push everyone away and make everyone feel worse for being around me. I don't know how much of my toxicity is my autism or how much of it is just my nature. I've known plenty of autistic people who were very pleasant, so I don't really have an excuse.

I wish I could be like those other autistics who have friends that care about them and accomodate them. But those other autistics aren't as nasty as I am, so I'm giving up on that dream.

 

[Andro_USYD]

Yes I suffer & have been diagnosed with mild Autism along with ADHD and the usual (depression/anxiety) but loneliness isn't that much of an issue for me I have to say. I seem to (luckily) find some really decent friends and just stick with them. Some through uni (although everyone feels very artificial there with no problems). I wish I had some more friends from SS because the people across this site have very unique personalities so if anyone wants to talk, don't be afraid to give me a message as I'm very easy going and am a good listener.

 

[crystal_meth97]

I have Asperger's and it can get pretty lonely sometimes. I don't always desire company, but I still feel the need for human connection. I'd like to talk, sure.

 

[Meteora]

I m not diagnosed yet but its pretty clear that I have many autistic traits. I m still waiting for assessment.

 

[tbroken]

I have Asperger's but I'm not lonely, as I never desired connection in the first place. I've also never wanted love, romance or intimacy. I have no need for relationships. I like being alone and in isolation

But how can you call that life? Imagine, if all ppl decided to live like that, the world as we know it, would not ever exist. Not our rooms, not our computers, not even the bottles of water.
I would not live the way I'm living, if i didn't have some major problems in my life.

 

[sserafim]

But how can you call that life? Imagine, if all ppl decided to live like that, the world as we know it, would not ever exist. Not our rooms, not our computers, not even the bottles of water.
I would not live the way I'm living, if i didn't have some major problems in my life.

Why is there an obligation that I should live like others do? Okay, I don't completely live alone. I live with my mom and dog, but still. I don't like socializing or social interaction. I think I'm probably schizoid. Why should I have to do what other people do? I never even wanted to be alive anyways, so why is there an expectation that I must conform to the norm and be like everyone else?

Imagine, if all ppl decided to live like that, the world as we know it, would not ever exist. Not our rooms, not our computers, not even the bottles of water.

So what? It's not my concern if the world as we know it would never exist if everyone lived like I did. It's not my responsibility. Just because everyone else lives a certain way doesn't mean that I also have to

 

[ijustwishtodie]

I have autism but I'm starting to not feel lonely. I'm starting to break the brainwashing that society has inflicted upon me. I'm starting to liking being alone because I've been alone all my life but there still is a tiny part of me that at least wishes I had friends at university so that studying for me is significantly easier. But then again, I'm not sure if that would actually make studying easier as I never studied with anybody else in my life

 

[sammiechzxv]

Both

 

[Clowndollie]

I am both lonely and I have autism :(( honestly I'm just looking to talk to people

 

[SuicidalTiger]

I am autistic, but I think I am lucky that I have been forced socalised, if anyone wants to talk to an autstic, suicidal CS Ph.D Irish boy, then I am here.

 

[TuttiFrutti]

Autistic, very alone, but not lonely. Having friends gradually ended up being more distressing for me than just being on my own all the time.

 

[sserafim]

I am autistic, but I think I am lucky that I have been forced socalised, if anyone wants to talk to an autstic, suicidal CS Ph.D Irish boy, then I am here.

I was also forced socialized but I didn't enjoy it at all. I think I retreated into my natural state of isolation because I didn't have to be around people anymore, nor do I want to

 

[cymbaline23]

Yeah I think I'm autistic, I've felt extremely lonely, especially over the last couple of years. Past friendships never ended well, so I'm more scared to make friends now. I don't want people to see the real me and end up hating me and leaving. I'm also boring and don't really contribute anything to the world, so that makes it harder for me

 

[Meteora]

Maybe autistic and very lonely. I m not sure if I prefer company from being alone. Both is stressful.
A question that is maybe stupid, but still: how do you notice that you are lonely? What symptoms do you have?