Discussion anyone else have a fantasy abt being comforted?

[comeoutandhauntme]

i am someone who is very closed off and guarded when it comes to emotions and how i feel. as such, i rarely ever am vulnerable or cry in front of people. nobody irl knows i am suicidal.

does anyone else have this fantasy of finally breaking down and crying in front of someone and telling them everything, and just being held and comforted? i imagine it an embarrassing amount, way too often.

idk. i just can't ever get myself to talk abt this stuff irl, like the words get stuck, so ig its rlly comforting to create a fantasy in which someone is there and cares for me. curious to see if anyone else experiences this

 

[sanctionedusage]

its very common, dont be embarrassed


that'd be my worst fear though

 

[TwoSoulsLiveInMe]

Yeah. I miss being close to someone, I would take any actual true concern for my well-being. I'm a massive crybaby, any time I so much as think about my issues I bawl, so it's way too difficult to bring anything up casually. All I want is to be held tight, I'm so touch-starved, but there's no one in my life that would accept me in that way.

You are definitely not alone in wishing for and imagining this kind of care and love. My heart goes out to you <3

 

[thelostautistic]

I think about this all the time.I just want to feel cared for

 

[violetforever]

i didnt exactly break down but i did admit to someone that im suicidal/plan to hang myself. all they said was "i dont think youll do it, i just have a feeling" and then suggested overdosing on pills as a better method. theyve been ignoring my texts since then so i just stopped texting. the fantasy of comfort is long gone for me.

 

[comeoutandhauntme]

Yeah. I miss being close to someone, I would take any actual true concern for my well-being. I'm a massive crybaby, any time I so much as think about my issues I bawl, so it's way too difficult to bring anything up casually. All I want is to be held tight, I'm so touch-starved, but there's no one in my life that would accept me in that way.

You are definitely not alone in wishing for and imagining this kind of care and love. My heart goes out to you <3

i'm in the same boat with the touch starved thing. i don't feel as though i have anyone in my life that would do this for me either.

ty for the kind words

i didnt exactly break down but i did admit to someone that im suicidal/plan to hang myself. all they said was "i dont think youll do it, i just have a feeling" and then suggested overdosing on pills as a better method. theyve been ignoring my texts since then so i just stopped texting. the fantasy of comfort is long gone for me.

i'm so sorry the reacted in that way to you. u deserve someone who cares abt u and ur wellbeing and will acc be there for u and listen to u. i hope u find someone to give u the comfort u deserve

 

[Hellis]

My favorite daydream is the one where I survive the attempt and everyone realizes they don't want to live without me

 

[comeoutandhauntme]

My favorite daydream is the one where I survive the attempt and everyone realizes they don't want to live without me

me too!! i imagine it almost nightly, it's the most comforting daydream i have and honestly helps to sometimes calm me down/put me to sleep

 

[katara]

My favorite daydream is the one where I survive the attempt and everyone realizes they don't want to live without me

For me it's just at least 1 person

 

[Lost Impact]

I feel like that's a very normal want and need! I think I'm the odd one out here though lol. Aaaaaah... intimacy is frightening for me. I never understood the crave to be held. The times it felt like that was happening, it didn't feel right. My brain can't comprehend being held like that, I just want to run away. People can comfort me with words I guess but any closeness beyond that makes me flinch. I think I've grown to be more the type to do the comforting than receive it.

I don't cry often but the times I do, I think I just prefer being alone. I crave to be loved, but mostly emotionally. Not so much physically. Maybe that's weird. My brain chemistry is all outta whack.

I've survived attempts and literally nothing has changed. Sometimes my family mocks my own suicidal ideation. My own fantasy is just once they showed they cared and didn't joke about it afterward... by then it might be too late. I dunno.

 

[Deer_Dairy]

When I was at psych ward, I've met some really good people there. We had lot in common, we supported each other. It was the first time I started crying in front of someone without shame. And I was comforted. It really helped a lot. I am still in touch with some of ex-patients. One of my best friends, now.

 

[RiftbornVeil]

I feel like that's a very normal want and need! I think I'm the odd one out here though lol. Aaaaaah... intimacy is frightening for me. I never understood the crave to be held. The times it felt like that was happening, it didn't feel right. My brain can't comprehend being held like that, I just want to run away. People can comfort me with words I guess but any closeness beyond that makes me flinch. I think I've grown to be more the type to do the comforting than receive it.

I don't cry often but the times I do, I think I just prefer being alone. I crave to be loved, but mostly emotionally. Not so much physically. Maybe that's weird. My brain chemistry is all outta whack.

I've survived attempts and literally nothing has changed. Sometimes my family mocks my own suicidal ideation. My own fantasy is just once they showed they cared and didn't joke about it afterward... by then it might be too late. I dunno.

This is what I perceive pretty accurately. I used to want to be held and comforted, but the thought of it just makes me uncomfortable now. Even as I comfort/help someone, I don't really engage much physically.

What you describe isn't weird at all! We all respond to things differently, and it's quite an intriguing thing. Crying is such a vulnerable reaction, so to me, it seems rational to do so alone. Emotional love is still my greatest hope, next to CTB.

I'm sorry to hear about your family; everyone who feels this way should be treated with compassion, particularly those who are supposed to be so "close" to you. I've tried to tell my family about some aspects of my mental health, but it wasn't met too kindly either. I suppose some people will never understand the gravity of thoughts/feelings until it's too late.

 

[Pluto]

 

[abdullahucmak]

a long hug would put me in tears. so yeah

 

[lonewolf22]

I do..But only as Im dying while someone holds my hand.

 

[GodzillasBiggestFan]

sometimes yes

 

[notreallybored]

ב''ה, comfort is one of many things you can pay for until the money runs out.

Only G-d can decide if who you hire is any good at the job.

 

[Elleny]

It is just a fantasy, in my own experience. My own mother knows, I told her. She never talks about it.

 

[MidnightCrypt]

We all go through it, you're not alone

 

[d4isy]

yess i fantasize about this pretty much all the time

 

[Kamaainakupua]

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