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onmyway1513

Member
Mar 29, 2023
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I too feel like a burden to people. May times when I've asked people to hang out or meet up, I think to myself: Why do I ask? They have a life, they have friends, friends they like better than me, friends funnier than me, cooler ect. Then I realize that if I were them, I wouldn't be with me ether, because I know too much about myself amd how I really feel.
That may just be me being insecure and don't like myself, but still those thoughts take control of me.
 
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downndone2

Living in misery
Jan 23, 2022
1,270
Absolutely, my anguish is a burden on many people I know.
 
thecolourgold

thecolourgold

night night coming soon. ❤️
Apr 22, 2023
100
I'm a firm believer that most problems can be solved, most people will be in a tiny depression once and then bounce back and live happy, they'll *feel* like a burden, but they aren't one. But it's me, people like me, people like us actually, that genuinely do have unsolveable problems, telling my problems to other people just hurts us both because, for example, I'm really good at helping people, I'm very empathetic and can tell people the right words to make them not sad, but my depression is so deep-rooted that I can't tell myself anything to make it better, and other people, as much as they'd like to try, cannot ever help me because my problems are way beyond anything else, I genuinely *am* a burd
I know I am. I feel it all the time. People around me feel like I'm not but I am. I won't be for long though.
 
Lost Magic

Lost Magic

Illuminated
May 5, 2020
3,159
I do feel like a burden on myself, however, society has contributed a great deal of pain in addition to these feelings. None of us asked to be here in the first place, but here we are. I'm sorry that you feel this way.
 
roseleaf

roseleaf

freedom is a dream that is just out of reach
Apr 25, 2023
233
For sure, though I wonder whether or not the people I'm talking with will even remember my name in a year.
 
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Rogue Proxy

Rogue Proxy

Enlightened
Sep 12, 2021
1,316
In the grand scheme of things, every organism is a burden to another. It doesn't matter if it's intentional or unintentional, direct or indirect, or towards members of their own species or different species. Every organism exploits others for their own survival, thrival, and reproduction. These actions include consuming other organisms, gaining nourishment from others, living on or inside of them, thermoregulation, gases for respiration, protection, reducing or eliminating competition, expediting locomotion, and passing on their gametes. Taking advantage of abiotic elements of their environment (e.g. water, temperature, sunlight, minerals, gases for respiration, ect.) also burdens other organisms who depend on those resources.

Humans are one of the most high maintenance animal species. In addition to biological requirements, they will utilize other humans and organisms to satisfy their psychological and social needs and desires. These include efficiency, safety, entertainment, self-worth, egotism, identity, social status, social connections, financial resources, materialism, information, experiences, power, and control.

Despite exploitation being inevitable and integral to existence, humans will often conceal the concept of being burdensome. The main purposes are maintaining social cohesion, cooperation, and the egos of others and themselves. When someone is perceived as a liability, social connections with that individual will erode or severe. Oftentimes, cutting ties results in losing particular benefits gained from relationships and interactions.

Portraying humans as burdens serves as form of control, manipulation, domination, and - surprise, surprise - exploitation. The tactics involve shaming, guilt-tripping, silencing, invalidating, ignoring, gaslighting, isolating, berating, ridiculing, and/or threatening the subject. These punishments could influence the individual's perception, behavior, emotions, and actions. Likewise, it impacts how others view, judge, and treat the so-called "burden." This method can also elevate oneself while diminishing their "lowly" opponent or asset.
 
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chloramine

Mage
Apr 18, 2022
505
Yes. I feel like I don't have the capacity to be otherwise unless I live my life purely to be useful which is what I'm currently doing. If I'm not real and am more a tool than a person then it's easier to function day to day.
 
Little_Suzy

Little_Suzy

Amphibious
May 1, 2023
941
I don't consider myself a burden since I have my own money and my husband and I share traditional values. We don't have children, so we can simply be grownups! I'm concerned that if I ctb, I'll become a psychological and emotional burden to my husband. I'll have to speak to him about it one day since I don't want to catch him off guard.

Depression is That B!tch, and I empathize with everyone struggling with this awful illness. :heart:
 
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niawscm

Member
May 6, 2023
28
I have studied WWII history a bit and I keep going back to this term "life unworthy of life" - the Nazis used it for disabled people they wanted to murder - obviously I am in no way agreeing with the Nazis or what they did, but the term just sticks in my head because I can't help but think that this is the perfect description for me.
 
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Per Ardua Ad Astra

Malpractice: NeuroDystrophy-Paralysis-Meds-Injured
Sep 27, 2022
3,640
Yes I am 99% physically disabled and dependent on untrained spouse/ carer / gatekeeper - with no Doctor/ Social services support

I feel to be 110% burden which I loathe with all my heart

I have studied WWII history a bit and I keep going back to this term "life unworthy of life" - the Nazis used it for disabled people they wanted to murder - obviously I am in no way agreeing with the Nazis or what they did, but the term just sticks in my head because I can't help but think that this is the perfect description for me.
I understand what you mean and also think of this often — it's horrifying— but I feel likewise about myself

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brokeandbroken

Enlightened
Apr 18, 2023
1,047
Absolutely. I have no friends my family disowned me... Now the only help I have is from the state because I don't have anyone. So naturally I really kind of am. I got a new job so hopefully that alleviates it some. I feel bad but it's my only option for survival. I try to explain that it's not my fault. But honestly I don't think people care. I'm also likely autistic and spent a significant amount of time isolated so a lot of social interactions and some language in general (that I used to be really really good at) is really challenging now. I feel like a shell of myself honestly.
 

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