AQUA
Ｈｅａｄｓｔｏｎｅ
- Dec 2, 2020
- 301
It's like everyone around me have no flaws or regrets. how should i go about these people?
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Sherri
Archangel
- Sep 28, 2020
- 13,796
Mainly in high school I felt it. It was horrible, some people would clearly be jealous of your cell phone , clothes and other non sense things. So glad it's over. And it's only a distant memory.
@KRaken 92 are you asking what to do about your own jealousy? Keep in mind, everyone has flaws, even if they are not outwardly visible. Everyone should have regrets, and probably does, but may not explicitly say so.
AQUA
Ｈｅａｄｓｔｏｎｅ
- Dec 2, 2020
- 301
Meditation guide
Always was, is, and always shall be.
- Jun 22, 2020
- 6,089
I look at it logically. Nothing I can do about it, and feeling this way only hurts me. It's a very negative emotion. There will always be those who have more than you do, it's just how life is.
AQUA
Ｈｅａｄｓｔｏｎｅ
- Dec 2, 2020
- 301
Also, look at what you have or do better than that person. Nobody is perfect. You will outshine them in some ways. Take pride in that.
yive
life is evil
- Nov 6, 2020
- 696
jealousy pushes me to CTB, and this will free me from suffering, so in this regard, i appreciate the effect of this feeling on myself.
but yes, this feeling torments me terribly, and there is nothing i can do about it
but yes, this feeling torments me terribly, and there is nothing i can do about it
AQUA
Ｈｅａｄｓｔｏｎｅ
- Dec 2, 2020
- 301
Meditation guide
Always was, is, and always shall be.
- Jun 22, 2020
- 6,089
It's best to only worry about things you may be able to improve and make better. Everything else is a big waste of time.
AQUA
Ｈｅａｄｓｔｏｎｅ
- Dec 2, 2020
- 301
Meditation guide
Always was, is, and always shall be.
- Jun 22, 2020
- 6,089
Taking care of your health, your diet and exercise, your education, your hobbies, your job or career, these are things you may be able to improve eventually enough so envy of others is less of a problem. It takes some work and determination over the long run.
AQUA
Ｈｅａｄｓｔｏｎｅ
- Dec 2, 2020
- 301
Mm80
Enlightened
- May 15, 2019
- 1,604
Accept it as an emotion that all humans feel. Share the feeling in a healthy way by telling someone if possible. Make sure you Dont act on it and it will pass and get easier each time it comes along.
Salvation_
"Please, finish my story."
- Nov 25, 2020
- 228
Life's not a competition, and even then, "winning" has nothing to do with your satisfaction with your life, existence, or your own happiness.
Things like accomplishments, achievements, etc... perhaps you may feel that these things may give another person's life more value than yours. I'm not here to agree nor deny this statement, because in the matter, it doesn't really matter, does it? In the end, it's still your life, and none of those things may ever "satisfy" you. No flaws, no regrets, perfectionism, it's all meaningless when it comes to our existence as people living on this planet.
These people will always exist, but ask yourself what you're living for in the first place. Nobody can force you to improve unless you want to, and not talking about just the first step, but being able to take the second step, third step, and so on so forth until you can become someone you're satisfied with. I feel advice about "long term" progress is useless unless you start to get the ball rolling, and it's always the hardest to gain momentum when it's so easy to trip and fall at any moment, especially over the despair of watching others have it easy.
Learning new things is always a nice trait to have! There's a lot of youtube tutorials out there that make learning new hobbies easy, especially when you have access to a computer. Maybe you can find something new you will unexpectedly enjoy. I hope you have a nice day.
Things like accomplishments, achievements, etc... perhaps you may feel that these things may give another person's life more value than yours. I'm not here to agree nor deny this statement, because in the matter, it doesn't really matter, does it? In the end, it's still your life, and none of those things may ever "satisfy" you. No flaws, no regrets, perfectionism, it's all meaningless when it comes to our existence as people living on this planet.
These people will always exist, but ask yourself what you're living for in the first place. Nobody can force you to improve unless you want to, and not talking about just the first step, but being able to take the second step, third step, and so on so forth until you can become someone you're satisfied with. I feel advice about "long term" progress is useless unless you start to get the ball rolling, and it's always the hardest to gain momentum when it's so easy to trip and fall at any moment, especially over the despair of watching others have it easy.
Learning new things is always a nice trait to have! There's a lot of youtube tutorials out there that make learning new hobbies easy, especially when you have access to a computer. Maybe you can find something new you will unexpectedly enjoy. I hope you have a nice day.
AQUA
Ｈｅａｄｓｔｏｎｅ
- Dec 2, 2020
- 301
Thank you for the words of wisdom and advice. You seem like one of the few people that actually gets it!
