any neets here over 30 years old

[NothingElseMatters]

i'm losing my mind about my situation, i'm actualy working right now but will be fired soon.

 

[Painless_end]

Yes me. Long story.

Basically I wound up taking a wrong path career-wise. But even that was because of what I basically am, which is a complete idiot who wants to get everything without doing anything.

Now I suffer every single day. It's horrible.

 

[Marine]

Me thanks to the plandemic ruining all of my efforts. I haven't given up though.

 

[MicropBaldCurrycel]

34 and been neet most of my life as i am completely dependent on my father, suffer extreme social anxiety and low confidence and im useless with my hands so cant even do simple tasks and cant do many jobs that normal people do easy.

 

[soon06132022]

I am.

 

[wereqryan]

34 and been neet most of my life as i am completely dependent on my father, suffer extreme social anxiety and low confidence and im useless with my hands so cant even do simple tasks and cant do many jobs that normal people do easy.

Wow you're like me! I'm 31 and in the exact same situation. Message me for chat.

 

[NothingElseMatters]

34 and been neet most of my life as i am completely dependent on my father, suffer extreme social anxiety and low confidence and im useless with my hands so cant even do simple tasks and cant do many jobs that normal people do easy.

we should talk

 

[breadlexington]

NEET because of domestic violence.

One of the statistics that most people don't know about abusive relationships is this: most of the time, the abuser controls the money. In some cases the abuser stops the victim from working. In my case my abuser stood over me as I called to resign from my job in tears. He said he would kill himself unless I quit my job.

I used to have a good career once. I tried to look for another job but three years of psychological torture have turned me into something less than human.

 

[AllByMyself]

Good greif! Can't you get away from this screwball!?

 

[Journeytoletgo]

Me. Never knew what I wanted career wise. I'm stuck. I don't even know who I am anymore

 

[breadlexington]

Good greif! Can't you get away from this screwball!?

I tried. I conducted a whole job search in secret. I used doctor's offices to take job interviews. I even interviewed in an empty room at the women's shelter saying that the Wi-Fi in my apartment was out.

But at the last minute I failed. I got so close to a new job but then I simply could not get out of bed.

My will to fight is gone. I fought so long. I am tired now.

 

[BluesRunTheGame]

Yes, for three years. I had some nice quiet times in the beginning but it gets to be pretty brutal.

 

[veryhappyhuman]

Soon to be 38 NEET here. As a bonus I've never had a relationship in life either.

It's funny, before the sad turn in my life last year I'd worked for 15+ years without a break, in some very (financially) good jobs. My first break turned out to be my last and permanent one. Now I'm back with parents, depending on them for food n shelter again.

 

[Nicksy]

I had to look up what it meant, but me.

I'm 35 and worked until eight years ago when all the mental shit became too much after my mum died.
I've struggled with my mental health since I was a kid; depression, anxiety, BPD, on and off agoraphobia etc. but everything just spiralled then and I've been housebound (besides when my husband was in hospital) ever since.

I've had the great love. He was there when everything was going wrong, and held me together afterwards, but now he's gone too and I don't have a reason to carry on anymore.

 

[Fadeawaaaay]

Yes that's me

 

[wait.what]

I guess I technically qualify, but at nearly 50 I prefer to think of myself as someone who retired early. I think I probably have 20 years of work quarters back there somewhere . . . the first 5 would have been crap kiddie jobs, and then I spent about 15 years working with other disabled people in one capacity or another. I actually have a Masters of Education in reading curriculum and instruction, not that I was really able to use it.

I didn't take very good care of myself, not gonna lie, and by my early 40's I was in rough shape. I still am. A lot of people on my mom's side are absolutely riddled with autoimmune diseases. It's like we all have about 5, lol. A lot of them fall into a couple of groupings that kind of make sense, and then there are the "Because fuck you. That's why," category of familial illnesses. I'm on disability now and I expect I always will be.

I don't love that this is my life. I'm not actually ashamed of it either, though. Just because you're not earning money at a job does not mean you aren't contributing, right? I'm not trying to tell anyone how to feel about themselves, or to gatekeep what identities they can embrace. If you're a NEET, you're a NEET. I just want to put it out there that stupid, busywork labor is not the price of admission to the human race. Exactly what about "Clean up in Aisle 5" confers the seeds of human dignity? Nothing, that's what, no matter what your local "Welfare to Work" politician has to say about it.

Nobody likes feeling dependent. If you can find work that you can do and that you can support yourself on, then that is fantastic. School and/or training can be worthwhile as well. But if you can't do that stuff right now, or can't do it ever, that does not make you a worse person. I mean . . . you'll be broke and anxious af whenever you get the mail ("Oh God, that looks like a bill. And that one. And this other one. Did I even buy anything from this company? WTH is this?"). However, there is nothing inherantly wrong with being a NEET.

I understand that literally NO ONE asked. I just hate the idea that you have to stand at a register and get screamed at by Karens for hours every day in order to be a worthwhile person.

In other news, "Durned kids! Get off my lawn!"