I simply do not agree with parents who ctb while their kids are still reliant on them. How exactly are the kids "living the same situation"??? Don't make sense to me.
Do not bring a child in the world if you struggle with mental health, it's as simple as that. The child did not choose to live, the mom made that choice for them. leaving your child alone to suffer in this world, is disgusting and selfish. Parents that ctb can cause their young children to have mental health issues, which will eventually lead to depression.
How can you ctb knowing that the child you forced in this world will likely experience the same thing, because you couldn't wait until they were adults.
What I am saying is that in the newspapers, from time to time, there are infanticides by mothers who have not been able to withstand the pressure of the life they lead and who at the same time also commit suicide.
It is not possible to know how a person driven to the extreme is going to react in a very deteriorated personal situation. We are not talking about personal decisions, we are literally talking about enduring until literally exploding, precisely that which we always criticize of those who want to force others to live, no matter who, until the end of their days.
Right now she does not see herself capable of giving the attention she needs to her children, exposing herself and others to an unforeseeable situation. No one can be forced to live in such a desperate situation in which the only way out is to end her life.
You have to help her and this means understanding that there are no good solutions, but there are less bad ones. And what do I mean when I say that her children are already suffering? I mean that they will surely remember everything that she is going through and the discomfort that this abnormal situation is causing them? you can't avoid, right now, that it will affect them for the rest of their lives in one way or another.
The least bad solution is for you to stay away from your children until you can pull yourself together and take charge with assurance. Continuing right now is nonsense, it only directs her to a forced CTB and the loss of enjoying her children in the future.
That the children may never understand this decision, well it is normal, the forum is full of reproaches of users towards their parents making them responsible for all their ills, that we will do ... they will grow up I say (this does not mean that there are stories of parents who have been very raw disdainful of the appreciation for their children or have abused them).
Have you read his signature? it is clear that he has suffered more than necessary and has struggled to have a better life that he did not know how to manage. Sometimes it seems that on the forum some people forget that parents are people too, with their weaknesses and with their own mistakes loaded on top.
It is not time to reproach her for anything, it is time to help her as has been done with so many people on this forum, supporting her, giving her love and if someone knows how, directing her to follow a path that makes her feel better and allows her to lay a stronger foundation to build a new life, not excluding those she loves (including herself), with which to move forward.
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Jo el que dic, es que al diaris, de tant en tant, surten infanticidis per part de mares que no han sabut soportar la pressió per la vida que porten i que alhora també es suiciden.
No es possible saber com reaccionarà una persona portada a l'extrem en una situació personal molt deteriorada. No estem parlant de decisions personals, estem parlant literalment d'aguantar fins explotar literalment, precisament allò que sempre critiquem dels que volen forçar a viure als altres, peti qui peti, fins la fi del seus dies.
Ara mateix ella no es veu capaç de donar l'atenció que necessita als seus fills, exposant-se a si mateixa i als altres a una situació imprevisible. No es pot obligar a ningú a viure en aquesta situació tan desesperada on l'única sortida que troba es posar fi a la seva vida.
Cal ajudar-la i això passa per entendre que no hi ha solucions bones, però si menys dolentes. I que vull quan dic que els seus fills ja ho estàn patint? vull dir que segurament recordaràn tot el que està passant ella i el malestar que els hi causa a ells aquesta situació anòmala... no pots evitar, ara mateix, que els hi afecti la resta de la vida d'una manera o un altre.
La solució menys dolenta es que s'allunyi dels seus fills fins que pugui refer-se i fer-se'n càrrec amb garanties. Continuar ara mateix és un disbarat, només l'aboca al CTB forçat i la pérdua de gaudir dels seus fills en un futur.
Que els fills no comprendràn potser mai aquesta decissió, doncs és normal, el fòrum n'es ple de retrets d'usuaris cap al seus pares fent-los responsables de tots els seus mals, que hi farem.. ja creixeràn que dic jo (això no treu que hi hagin històries ben crues de pares que s'han desdit de l'estima cap als seus fills o han abusat d'ells).
Has llegit la seva signatura? es evident que ha patit mes del que calía i ha lluitat per tenir una vida millor que no ha sabut gestionar. De vegades sembla que en el fòrum alguns s'obliden que els pares també són persones, amb les seves febleses i amb els seus propis errors carregats muntanya amunt.
No es hora de retreure-li rés, és hora d'ajudar-la com amb tantes i tantes persones s'ha fet en aquest fòrum, donant-li suport, escalf i si algú sap com, adreçant-la a seguir un camí que la faci sentir millor i li permeti posar uns fonaments més forts per construïr una nova vida, sense excloure aquells que estima (inclòs a si mateixa), amb la que seguir endavant.
