I suppose anyone who's struggled with something looks around at others who apparently seem to breeze through. Do you suppose that's accurate for one? Do some people genuinely breeze through life? Never struggle socially, never get stressed at work? Never struggle physically?
I definitely think we tend to struggle to various levels and with various things. I also think our ability to cope in the situation we are in varies. Even if we are struggling- some will still just about push through while for others, they may become catatonic.
But, do you ever wonder what 'should' feel acceptable or, normal? I've known relatively 'normal' and even seemingly confident people say they cried every morning before work. Some had to run into the toilets for a cry at work- because it all became too much. Myself and colleagues have picked up effectively lifelong ailments from working. My question is- when is it ok for someone to say they can't work?
Should it be down to the individual? If they truly feel they can't cope with it? Or, should it be decided upon by medical professionals?
I always wonder though. I read posts by people saying no one could cope with being them. They may well be right of course. But, how can any of us really know? Maybe the people we think are ok- maybe because they are working- actually aren't at all.
Of course, it would be great if we all got the choice but ultimately- I doubt enough would choose to work in order to carry those that don't. Maybe AI will solve that.
Sometimes I wish it were clearer- so it could be fairer. Imagine if we were like characters in a game that had a score for all our attributes- physical and mental strength, social abilities, abilities to cope with stress. It's so much harder when we can only go on what we describe as our strengths and weaknesses.
I definitely think we tend to struggle to various levels and with various things. I also think our ability to cope in the situation we are in varies. Even if we are struggling- some will still just about push through while for others, they may become catatonic.
But, do you ever wonder what 'should' feel acceptable or, normal? I've known relatively 'normal' and even seemingly confident people say they cried every morning before work. Some had to run into the toilets for a cry at work- because it all became too much. Myself and colleagues have picked up effectively lifelong ailments from working. My question is- when is it ok for someone to say they can't work?
Should it be down to the individual? If they truly feel they can't cope with it? Or, should it be decided upon by medical professionals?
I always wonder though. I read posts by people saying no one could cope with being them. They may well be right of course. But, how can any of us really know? Maybe the people we think are ok- maybe because they are working- actually aren't at all.
Of course, it would be great if we all got the choice but ultimately- I doubt enough would choose to work in order to carry those that don't. Maybe AI will solve that.
Sometimes I wish it were clearer- so it could be fairer. Imagine if we were like characters in a game that had a score for all our attributes- physical and mental strength, social abilities, abilities to cope with stress. It's so much harder when we can only go on what we describe as our strengths and weaknesses.
