Help Am I doing something wrong?

[culturalphilistinee]

I'd like to think of myself of a social butterfly. I am good at talking to others and public speaking in general. I am extroverted and friendly (shocking, seeing the forum im on rn lol) but I have consistently, through the course of my life; struggled to make friends. Ever since I was 6, I've invited every person I know to my birthday party. Ever since I was 6, nobody has shown up. When I ask people or plan hangouts, they either flake last minute or have some other inconvenience. I am a first choice to none and a second resort to few. Am I doing something wrong? I've never been told that I do things what would typically repel people from befriending me, it seems to naturally just…not be in my cards. I hope this doesn't come off as an incel "nobody likes me and it's not my fault!1!!!" Kind of rant, but I am curious to why I struggle so much with this.

it makes me think that nobody will truly miss me when I CTB

 

[l1ablemistakes]

From the sounds of it you're not doing anything wrong. People can be assholes but also people can have their own shit going on. For example I can be a bit of a flake but that's bc my mental health often gets in the way of me reaching out to people and replying to messages and hanging out. Just putting it out there, maybe that could be why?

Definitely keep trying! If you're ND like me it can be really hard to find people you click with, but there are people out there. The problem is not you. Good luck <3

 

[fishperson]

I mean u cant be friendly to everybody and expect them to hold a dear spot for u.
U have to treat people differently thats how friendships start.
Instead of wanting to have friends , try to find a person that actually interests you and try to befriend them. Just them. And if u are interesting from their own pov , well there u go.
But yeah disclaimer , the older we get the harder it is to make friends cause people alrdy have their own circles and those people usually wont be looking for more frens