already an adult and im still scared when my mom is not at home

[moya117]

it started when i was a kid, i always get told by my grandma that my mom will disappear and start a new life when she's just buying groceries, i believe it since she herself once or twice said that when i misbehave and she does have a shitty marriage, everyday my grandma say trhat stuff to me and i fell for it everytime. my grandpa always warned her to not do it but he's powerless and she continued to do it over and over again. i think there is some other reason but i dont remember it. one time i snapped and throw things around and she threaten me that she will stuff my throat with a bamboo and all that.
lately my mom will be out for days and i cried alone because i dont want my little sister to worry. i feel like she will slip in any given chance. im ashamed to feel like this but at the same time it makes sense. my mom is very overprotective, she will limit when i play outside to not cross over the three house ahead of us. she will insist i sleep with her even though im already in middle school back then and already have a room for myself. she takes me everywhere with her, and i mean everywhere, my mom isn't like that with my little sister. i need her and she needs me.

 

[StupidCat]

Even now my grandma says my dad is a piece of shit and I somewhat get influenced by it despite me not holding much grudge against him.
Elders have a strong influence and sometimes they don't use it that well.

 

[bankai]

There's a funny meme about dads going for milk or cigarettes and then never coming back home.But this just seems like your grandmother trying to keep you in line with some scary stories.

 

[moya117]

Even now my grandma says my dad is a piece of shit and I somewhat get influenced by it despite me not holding much grudge against him.
Elders have a strong influence and sometimes they don't use it that well.

true, an adult, a teenager or even a child can be a victim of it

There's a funny meme about dads going for milk or cigarettes and then never coming back home.But this just seems like your grandmother trying to keep you in line with some scary stories.

lolol, i kind of see it but i can't picture an example for some reason?

 

[The Actual Devil]

It sounds like your mother is extremely codependent on you, which is toxic in any relationship, but it is especially difficult when it's a parent. I hope you can get into a safe place soon. Nobody deserves that from a parent.
You didn't ask any questions or mark this with the help tag, so if it was just a vent, I hope you feel a little better getting it all out.
But if you would like some kind of advice, just let us know. My DMs are open and I've delt with shitty parents personally.
I don't know your situation, though, and if you're disabled or similar and physically dependent on her, then I'm not sure what all I could do other than listen.
Best wishes, friend.