A conversation today, light bulb moment?

[NeverGoodEnuff]

My brother, two years younger than I, lives close and once a week or so, one of us stops in to visit the other. Now and then, we talk about the bad times growing up. Today, I realized that we had some good times, too.

So I started to list them off. What about this? What about that? And the time we did such-and-such. I know nobody who has done those things, especially as a child with their family. Example: we were lower middle class, five kids, father self employed. All of us helped in the business. I, the eldest girl, wore my brothers' hand-me-down clothes. Yet, my father bought an airplane and one summer, we flew (in the mid1960's), to our little one-room cabin in the mountains for vacation. Aside: Daddy was a fighter pilot in WWII. Sounds like the rich folks, right? Nope.

Once we started this talk, it grew and grew. And now, I see things differently. This moment, this time. Thank you, Dad. Maybe you weren't so bad after all.

How about you?

 

[Red]

Always good to remember and be grateful for the good things

They don't always balance out the bad, but it's extremely helpful to shift focus to the positive from the negative, especially when you're trying to move forward!

I'm glad that you've found something good to reflect on

 

[NeverGoodEnuff]

I do not devalue the horrors some have lived through and cannot begin to know what that was like. Our paths are all different and what one person experiences cannot be compared to another's.

And like you said, there is a scale. I am just trying to balance mine here, as best I can, fumbling around in the dark.

 

[Red]

Counting our blessings is always a very useful tool in maintaining perspective - much respect to you for being able to consider that balance, despite feeling low

 

[NeverGoodEnuff]

Most days, that counting sounds like, "uh, wuh............." Trying to work on that.