A bad realization

[ggetout33]

Even if I did get exactly what I wanted in a romantic partner, I would still fuck it all up because of my autism. Many NT people who date ASD individuals complain about how they feel unwanted and unloved because their partner doesn't communicate love and affection in a way that they can feel/understand. I would absolutely be no exception, even on a good day. It hurts cause I want it more than I let on.

Such a curse being born with Aspergers. How much better my life could've been if I wasn't so goddamn cursed. If God were to exist, he'd have wanted me to die since when I was born the umbilical chord got around my neck and choked me. "Luckily" I survived.

So every day I live and breathe, it's a crime against him. Or her.

 

[Charlie-Bravo]

Yea, also Aspie here. I have shitty, you could say sadistic social skills. Like I know how to talk to people and make acquaintances, but can not turn these to friendships. I feel like a fucking ghost, although makes ctb more easy, because there are lesser people caring about me. Thought I finally made a real friend(with whom I could talk about everything) with a beautiful and kind person(met her 1 year ago), but fucked it up, did not realize that I dragged her down or how toxic I sometimes was to her on accident.

 

[Forever Sleep]

What would it be like to be with someone else who has aspergers/ autism? Genuinely curious? Do you notice when you don't receive affection yourself? Would they? I don't know- just feels like you may be able to understand one another better if you both have similar issues.

 

[FuneralCry]

I also have Aspergers and I agree that it's a curse as the way that I see it autistic people aren't meant to exist in this horrible world. But it isn't like I could personally ever wish to exist here anyway, I despise existing and I could never see it as being appealing. But it must be awful for those who actually want to delay their inevitable fate.

 

[am1485]

I also have autism and of course it makes it harder to carry on relationships and communication is that much more difficult. I think the trick is to find someone with similar issues so you be able to bridge the gap. My ex wasn't that expressive at all and didn't communicate well but it worked for me because we shared similar problems and I was able to understand how she communicated.

I honestly think people like us can be happy if we stick with people who are similar to us. But I understand how frustrating it can be. It's the worst feeling in the world when autism and other issues hold us back.

 

[Charlie-Bravo]

What would it be like to be with someone else who has aspergers/ autism? Genuinely curious? Do you notice when you don't receive affection yourself? Would they? I don't know- just feels like you may be able to understand one another better if you both have similar issues.

Autism is a Spectrum, meaning while we all have similar issues, they are never the same. Like we all have social issues, but for example one could have trouble with classmates(because he always snitched to teachers), while the other could have problems with the teachers(because he talks to them like to his friends).

In my therapy sessions(we were in Groups), the Therapist told us that he tried to establish a autism dorm(all inhabitants were Aspies) but it failed miserably because there were always arguing and fighting with each over.

I also have autism and of course it makes it harder to carry on relationships and communication is that much more difficult. I think the trick is to find someone with similar issues so you be able to bridge the gap. My ex wasn't that expressive at all and didn't communicate well but it worked for me because we shared similar problems and I was able to understand how she communicated.

I honestly think people like us can be happy if we stick with people who are similar to us. But I understand how frustrating it can be. It's the worst feeling in the world when autism and other issues hold us back.

I also think that it is very important to tell them that we don't do it on purpose and that we have these issues. Then your partner doesn't even need to be that similar but only empathetic.