Discussion Your relationship with 'change'.

[Forever Sleep]

How would you say you deal with change in life? I think a lot of people don't like change or, are afraid of it. Me included. I'm not entirely sure why though, not all change in my life has been bad. I suppose a fair amount of it has included loss though.

Do your feelings about change marry up to your overall experiences with it?

Do you think you adapt to new things well? I'm not sure that I do. I try to outwardly but inside, I'm usually shitting bricks.

 

[Mirrory Me]

I think change keeps things stimulating- like changing the order of the room, getting new ornament, trying different food, etc. Thinking and planning about the future gives a lot of space to think and wonder about.

 

[NoFancyNames]

I am definitely finding change tricky, depending what kind of change it is but I am surprisingly adaptable to it. And although I might have some fears, a bit of anxiety and whatever discomfort related to change, I think I thrive in it. I think I'm well predisposed to it and I have the opposite problem which is routine and stability, it feels wrong. I do not know how to cope in "normal life" but I do cope really well when shit is falling apart, cause I'm really good at crisis situations and problem solving, and my brain feels at peace when all I have to focus on is to figure out how to learn to be in new circumstances. Also new things are exciting, stagnancy is boring.

Yeah, I'm probably a weirdo. If my house burned down today and I survived, I would probably cope with life better than I am currently, when everything goes "perfectly well" and stable.

 

[dontwakemeup]

I'm so dissociated with life and people, change doesn't bother me. I live in my own bubble, stay to myself and only deal with life if I have to. I live a robotic life, nothing really changes in my life.

 

[InversedShadow]

How I deal is based on if the change is positive or negative, if it's negative I try to cope and look on the positives or eventually I just mourn myself how bad it is, but if it's positive then I praise it even if it's smallest of things, even a small thing can change a day and while the bigger things are overhwhelming it's always nicer to have something to be happy with.
Most of the time, I don't like changes because of how unknown future is, I dont feel in control of that at all, it doesnt feel like what Im used to and opening to something new can be a difficult experience unless I feel somewhat motivated, adapting is difficult and certainly takes time..
Let's have an example; whenever I see a drastic change in my room, like my furniture being taken away I feel a shock, no matter if I saw it coming or not, like a part of my reality is being torn, I just sit there with the thought and have to be convinced to help or do anything, I dont make a big deal out of it, would be funny to make a tragedy of a smallest of things but yeah.. Im pretty used to things that lasted with me for a longer time, losing them feels like an actual big deal.
I think it's more of a fear rather than a rational thought what I think, an instinct tells me to be wary of everything, even thought not all of the changes were bad in my life.

 

[Electra]

I used to be very scared of change, but now...still am. And I think it's okay to be scared of change, why wouldn't you be? It also depends on the nature of change, some are easier to adapt to, and some are much much harder. Overall, I really try not to burden myself and let life flow like a river.

 

[NoPoint2Life]

I'm horrible with change. Hate it. I give you guys who are good at it a lot of credit.

 

[Namelesa]

Depends on the change, I can like it or hate it. I will more hate it if comes out of nowhere and I wasn't able to mentally prepare for it (probably to due with my autism.) This is why I didn't like going somewhere else for summer holidays as a child as I just wanted a break from school by being home but going on holiday caused more stress on me.

However I can really like it especially if it something that I have wanted for a long time (hrt, no more education) or if its something that gets me to experience new unique positive experiences (a new innovative game, interacting with this site, maybe make a new friend if the abandon anxiety doesn't kick in?) as it can lessen my feelings of emptiness.

 

[TheHolySword]

I'm autistic and change is something that is very hard for me to understand and comprehend sometimes. I struggle to accept change, I don't really know how to live with it all the time. Small things, big things, positive or negative. Change can send me into panic, confusion, breakdowns. I'll always accept it eventually because I rarely have a choice in change but it's not really easy for me.

 

[Raven2]

I find change difficult to adapt to. Whether positive or negative. I'm set in my ways and like routine otherwise it makes me nervous.

Ive worked the same job for years now and theres whispers the company is in financial difficulty. I'm really hoping it's not true because I dont know how and earth I will manage to get through job interviews looking for a new job or how I would settle into working in a team again ( I work by myself). Considering you spend so much of your week working it's important to be in the right environment. I have anxiety in new situations. I think i would majorly struggle to adapt.

 

[FinalVoid25]

Regardless of how much changes I experience, everything seems to only get worse...but I also have no preference for how I would want life to be, I never was truly happy or satisfied with anything. There is ultimately no solution for me besides death