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TryingToUnderstand
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- Jul 20, 2020
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Hi everyone, new here so please bare with me! I may be posting in the wrong area and don't want to cause any offence, rather understanding to a personal situation.
A couple of years ago my grandfather committed suicide by partial hanging, at his family home which he shared with my grandmother. There had been no indication of his intentions to end his life.. always had anxiety but seemed to unfortunately hide this well, however my grandmother asked him to seek help which he refused. He played his anxiety down but was a worrier none the less.
Leading up to his death he seemed his usual quirky self, and even prepared his morning medication and vitamins for the day after.
I've since been told he had a horrendous sleeping pattern where he would sleep for only a couple of hours a night, for many years, which he didn't seek help for.
Goodness, I am sorry for going on.. however my main struggle is how he didn't leave a suicide note, and I have come here to ask if anyone with personal experience could give me some insight into why he didn't choose to leave one? What are your personal thoughts on leaving one? I know its not possible to get answers online from strangers about my grandads situation, and of course i know leaving one wouldn't change the outcome, however I feel it would have helped give me answers rather than spend my life wondering how he felt. I dont mean that to sound selfish, how I feel doesn't amount to my grandads pain.
I have nothing but respect for my grandfather he had a (very well hidden) battle with dark thoughts, I just wish he sought help. As a mother of two sons, and with a father who suffers with anxiety and depression - as do I - i feel my grandfathers death has taught me some valuable lessons.
Sorry for the lengthy post, as I say I'm new here I would just love some opinions regarding suicide notes and no indications of an impending suicide.
Thank you so much
Just to add - my partner has just blown my mind with a 'Theory' that my grandfather may have often partially suspended himself in order to alleviate his insomnia, and it went horribly wrong. Goodness, is this a thing that would be possible, in order to make himself drowsy ? Or is my partner speculating far too much?!
A couple of years ago my grandfather committed suicide by partial hanging, at his family home which he shared with my grandmother. There had been no indication of his intentions to end his life.. always had anxiety but seemed to unfortunately hide this well, however my grandmother asked him to seek help which he refused. He played his anxiety down but was a worrier none the less.
Leading up to his death he seemed his usual quirky self, and even prepared his morning medication and vitamins for the day after.
I've since been told he had a horrendous sleeping pattern where he would sleep for only a couple of hours a night, for many years, which he didn't seek help for.
Goodness, I am sorry for going on.. however my main struggle is how he didn't leave a suicide note, and I have come here to ask if anyone with personal experience could give me some insight into why he didn't choose to leave one? What are your personal thoughts on leaving one? I know its not possible to get answers online from strangers about my grandads situation, and of course i know leaving one wouldn't change the outcome, however I feel it would have helped give me answers rather than spend my life wondering how he felt. I dont mean that to sound selfish, how I feel doesn't amount to my grandads pain.
I have nothing but respect for my grandfather he had a (very well hidden) battle with dark thoughts, I just wish he sought help. As a mother of two sons, and with a father who suffers with anxiety and depression - as do I - i feel my grandfathers death has taught me some valuable lessons.
Sorry for the lengthy post, as I say I'm new here I would just love some opinions regarding suicide notes and no indications of an impending suicide.
Thank you so much
Just to add - my partner has just blown my mind with a 'Theory' that my grandfather may have often partially suspended himself in order to alleviate his insomnia, and it went horribly wrong. Goodness, is this a thing that would be possible, in order to make himself drowsy ? Or is my partner speculating far too much?!
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