Discussion Would you guys tell your partner that you're suicidal?

[keroppi4406]

So this was really unexpected for me.. just at one of my lowest points in life when I feel so ugly and insecure about myself this guy at work asked me if we could hang out sometime. I genuinely don't understand why he would want to hang out with me. I don't know what to do I'm going out with a guy for the first time. I feel kinda undeserving like hes going to get bored of me once he gets to know me because my depression has made me a shell of how I used to be. I can't lie, I've always felt a little resentful or jealous for couples because I didn't think I could ever experience what thats like. My plan was to make it two more years because there are somethings I want to see first and I need to save enough money to move out and get a shotgun. I'm pretty certain I will go through with it. I feel like I'm being selfish for allowing a potential relationship in my life so I can feel less alone in the mean time before I ctb. I don't want to hurt more people he seems like a nice guy. I don't know if I should tell him or not. If he would tell on me, and I don't want to hear him pitty me or try to change my mind which I've up a long time ago. But I also wonder that what if he has the same thoughts as me. Would you guys tell your partner that you're suicidal? And if you have, how did it go telling them?

 

[shampoo sniffer]

If I had a partner, maybe I wouldn't be suicidal in the first place.

In answer to your question, probably yes.

 

[xXiloveyouXx]

Not at all. I don't trust anyone to not report me.

 

[keroppi4406]

If I had a partner, maybe I wouldn't be suicidal in the first place.

In answer to your question, probably yes.

I truly hope you can be happy and find a partner I understand how you feel

 

[Blueberry Panic]

Of course, I mame sure to tell anyone before we do date to let them know I'm chronically suicidal.

 

[Namelesa Graves]

Yes I would cus suicidalness its a major part of me. If they can't accept then they aren't a good partner I would say. Tho all my relationships I been in and the one I am currently in are of people who are also suicidal to some degree so literally no risk of hiding it with them at all.

 

[keroppi4406]

Thank you guys I really appreciate the advice I think I will tell him then when I get to know him a bit better if I sense that he would not tell. I have a feeling this might not go anywhere though. If he doesn't accept that, then I'll just try to find someone who I know feels the same way or I'll just ctb by myself. Even if he reports me there is nothing thats going to stop me from committing so I've got nothing to lose. But if anyone has different thoughts or experiences feel free to share!

 

[penguinl0v3s]

If suicide is something that you think about every day, then I'd argue that it's a significant part of your life. Avoiding disclosure about that would be exhausting and I wouldn't tolerate a relationship where I couldn't share my worries. I hope your talk goes well.

 

[torturedmind]

I'd recommend telling them about how you are depressed and insecure before just straight out telling them you're suicidal. Maybe then you can get an idea of their thoughts surrounding depression and mental illness in general before deciding on being open about the suicidal aspect of it all.

 

[keroppi4406]

I'd recommend telling them about how you are depressed and insecure before just straight out telling them you're suicidal. Maybe then you can get an idea of their thoughts surrounding depression and mental illness in general before deciding on being open about the suicidal aspect of it all.

Good idea, I won't tell him yet, I just hope that I can ease into feeling like its ok telling him about it and that when I first open up about my depression to him it won't lead him to ask if I'm suicidal because he'll know somethings up if I try to shy away from answering that straight away. I guess if it does lead to him asking that when I bring up my mental health, I'll have to be honest. And I'll have to at some point anyway to avoid giving him a false pretense of this being a long relationship and giving him the option to leave now if thats too much. I'll just have to hope then he's understanding

 

[bunnƴ]

no if i had one it would instantly go away probably

 

[littlecutecorpse]

not that i've directly told him (or maybe i have, but in the moment of rage), but he probably knows i'm actively suicidal anyways. it doesn't seem like he gives much a damn, yet shames me for such. all he keeps telling me is to have hope like i haven't fucking given up on this life already yet gets upset when i tell him otherwise....and somehow i'm still concerned with how he'll feel once i'm gone from this planet. i wish i wasn't so attatched to him :(

 

[noheart]

If my partner cannot determine when I am suicidal. Then what kind of partner are they?

 

[keroppi4406]

not that i've directly told him (or maybe i have, but in the moment of rage), but he probably knows i'm actively suicidal anyways. it doesn't seem like he gives much a damn, yet shames me for such. all he keeps telling me is to have hope like i haven't fucking given up on this life already yet gets upset when i tell him otherwise....and somehow i'm still concerned with how he'll feel once i'm gone from this planet. i wish i wasn't so attatched to him :(

That must be difficult, I wish people could be more compassionate and understanding instead of dismissive of how you feel always saying to just be happy and get over it when no one knows your feelings and your decisions more than you.

 

[TwistedNightmares]

My partner already knows, and still sticks by my side regardless.

 

[lonergirl_26]

My partner knows. I'm very open about it. Sometimes he has a hard time deciding wether or not I'm making a dark joke or being serious