Discussion Would you date someone suicidal/depressed?

[GoodPersonEffed]

Yes, if that person and I fell in love, I woud definitely date him.

But I think a monkey has a better chance of writing a Shakespearean play than I do finding love.

I sense from this that you're limiting yourself.

It takes a room full of monkeys. Of course one isn't going to do it.

 

[Lost in a Dream]

I won't ever date anyone, PERIOD. The reason is that I don't want to bring some new person into my life who will be affected by my inevitable suicide. If they are depressed like me, maybe we could understand each other better than most, but we would still bring each other down with our own negativity. If either one of us died before the other, than whoever is left behind would be worse off for it.

It's not worth the risk, imo. I'm better off being alone.

 

[Epsilon0]

I sense from this that you're limiting yourself.

It takes a room full of monkeys. Of course one isn't going to do it.

And just like that I got a taste of SN (salty tears as my lips burst in a little smile).

 

[Lucifer'sRight]

yes, we could kill ourselves together. Together forever ♡

 

[casctb]

yes, we could kill ourselves together. Together forever ♡

Yeah same. I would only date someone suicidal because they're the only ones who can understand me and we can go together

 

[DeadAimz]

I started dating somebody before I knew they were suicidal and had other mental illnesses. Since finding out, he talks about it a lot and goes through moments of intense depression and tenancies. I don't want to sound selfish, but it does make things really hard for me and has made me feel more suicidal because not only do I have to deal with my own depression and suicidal tenancies, but also another. When he is depressed it makes me feel like shit. I would not leave him because of this because I am in love, but it is a struggle.

 

[dundyfundy]

I would. Battling depression/suicide would allow me to better understand her. I don't mind listening or talking through things, and I don't generally unload on people, so wouldn't weight down my partner. I would hope we could help each other and get better, survive.

I think if she would just be there for me that would be enough, hold and hug on the tougher days. I could help her by her not having to work if that's causing issues with recovery for her, could travel abroad often if wanted, or stay in - great at planning outdoor and staying-in activities. Also introduce her to some of my friends if she needed a new friends circle. Help her doing any day to day chores, if she is struggling with shopping, or going out, or going to a therapist if it's something she would like. Or just talking through and listening for hours.

Despite being depressed and having suicide on my mind, I am very upbeat and people say happy day to day, so I don't think I would wear down my partner with my thoughts, and other than that have my shit in life together. Being of the similar mind would allow us to connect and understand each other fully, knowing that sometimes there is no right thing to say but just listen, I think it would be very helpful for both.

 

[VIBRITANNIA]

as much as i'd love to feel love again, i would decline. i don't want to hurt another person.

 

[win32]

If out of nowhere a person appears, being interested in you/being with you, would go for it?
and what would you think in that kind of scenario?

for a time i dated someone who was MUCH more depressed than me, and moderately suicidal. we were both happy for awhile (with the relationship, not in general), and eventually broke up for entirely unrelated reasons.

 

[TimeToBiteTheDust]

I think I would chose not to date, because right now I just want to kill myself.

Same. I am not interested in being in a relationship anymore. The less people around me the better.

 

[TheSomebody]

no but I say no only because my long term relationship broke down a few months ago so I'm depressed.
they do say you can only truly love someone once you love yourself first

This is definitely not true. You can learn to love yourself after loving someone else.

 

[muffin222]

Sure. At least they'd understand me better than the average person

 

[TheSomebody]

The real question is whether she would date me. lol
im a freak.

 

[AynoTnTime]

If out of nowhere a person appears, being interested in you/being with you, would go for it?
and what would you think in that kind of scenario?

Sure, if we made each other's lives better,and other qualifications.

 

[Vannillahh]

I've dated somebody depressed and suicidal, it didn't go very well as I have always been a very draining person, negative and ignorant. It did hurt to see how they felt the same way as me, however, I couldn't really help them as I couldn't help myself either. It wasn't a very balanced relationship and it was deemed to end. It would be useless to date somebody as helpless and lost as you. But it is a nice feeling to care and worry for someone, not as good when you can't help them though. Hope they have a happy life.

 

[Ghost2211]

Sure, why not. It would be a bit silly of me to not want someone just for being depressed and suicidal since I am as well.

 

[Meditation guide]

I've always been very self sacrificing if I like someone so yeh I probably would.

 

[262653]

First I'd ask her what are her intentions, why me and what she's expecting, and maybe do the same myself. Generally, yeah. I don't see it being any more dangerous than a regular date of non-suicidals, aside from possible legal consequences... maybe we shouldn't say anything about our plans and encouragement, in a way that can be used against us. You know, keep the job and the personal life separate.

 

[Futile]

I would even date a mannequin at this point

 

[Meditation guide]

I would even date a mannequin at this point

 

[Futile]

That's really unsettling ngl. Maybe I'll just stick with hentai for now

 

[Brick In The Wall]

I did for like 6 months and she was even a member here at one point. She went on to recover and we parted ways, I wish her the best, we're still friends.