Discussion Would you avoid a parent or close loved ones funeral to avoid someone?

[Forever Sleep]

Not that it's my main drive to want to CTB (although, they are the reason I first wanted to,) there is a person from my childhood, I feel like I'd do anything to avoid- including dying. So, while they're no longer the main motivation for me wanting to CTB- the thought of seeing them again could well be the trigger point.

I believe them to be a narcissist. They fit the description to a tee and while I know it's ridiculous for a middle aged woman to admit it, they still frighten me I suppose.

Do you have someone like that in your life? To what degrees would you go to avoid them? Would you avoid even a parents funeral or major family event to avoid them?

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

The guilt over avoiding my grandparents' funerals was literally the main reason I initially joined this site. They were my father's parents and even though they were incredibly nice to me I did not want to see my father at all there. He invited me to the funeral (they had the same funeral because they died within a week of each other) but I didn't want to go if I had to see him. I could have asked my cousin where they were buried so I could pay respects later but I think it's too late at this point.

The guilt over this does haunt me a little less these days. Just add it to the pile of more reasons I'm a piece of shit who couldn't face his fears and thus needs to die for it.

 

[Buh-bye!]

Not that it's my main drive to want to CTB (although, they are the reason I first wanted to,) there is a person from my childhood, I feel like I'd do anything to avoid- including dying. So, while they're no longer the main motivation for me wanting to CTB- the thought of seeing them again could well be the trigger point.

I believe them to be a narcissist. They fit the description to a tee and while I know it's ridiculous for a middle aged woman to admit it, they still frighten me I suppose.

Do you have someone like that in your life? To what degrees would you go to avoid them? Would you avoid even a parents funeral or major family event to avoid them?

i'd certainly put my interest above anyone else's. if it were that traumatising, i'd simply not go. although when i think of it hard, i actually would go. that's because i care about my own interests and i don't wanna be coerced into doing sumn i am not feeling like. if i have to attend the funeral, i will. i'll just take this as an opportunity to let myself know how nonchalant i am about other people or whatever.
i'd go.
( but keep your interest above anyone else's. you not going is also justified )

 

[4am]

i could easily not go to a funeral if i wanted to, i wouldn't feel guilty, but explaining the reason to parents would be the hardest part. also to avoid some groups of people from my past i straight up avoid some neighborhoods in my city lmao

 

[kilowatt]

I hate funerals. I always remained silent during the funerals of my close ones. If it was up to me I wouldn't go to anyone's funeral at all. I'm selfish when it comes to death. I envy the dead.

 

[Pluto]

An easy question for me. I want to avoid the entire family, so all funerals are out of the question.

 

[ijustwishtodie]

Personally, no. I have nobody who I want to intentionally avoid

 

[Forveleth]

I do not let anyone else control me. So, no, if it was a funeral I wanted to attend, I would go. F*ck whoever else is there.

If I saw them, I would be polite but also try to steer clear of them to avoid confrontation.