Would putting a pillowcase over my head reduce trauma for the one who finds me?

[Scribble Fan]

In my head I keep replaying the moment where someone finds me hung and it's disturbing. I hope one of my parents finds me, not my younger brother. Does anyone think that a pillowcase over my head would slightly mitigate the traumatic shock or could it make things worse? I have two possibilities in mind:

1. The shock would be more spread out, so.. I wouldn't call it "easier" to digest, but it wouldn't be all at once.

2. The shock would hit twice. Once for when they see my body, the second time when they take the pillowcase off my face.

It's hard to decide what would be more damaging. Plus I'm not sure I'd want a pillowcase blocking everything out before I pass.

Thoughts please?

 

[1234dave]

I say go with the pillow case. Is there no way to do it out of the house?

 

[Faraway1990]

If I went this route I'd put a note somewhere clear asking your family/whoever found me to phone the EMTs and not remove the pillow case or whatever. Hope you find the peace you need friend

 

[SinisterKid]

I have lived my life trying to please others and putting their needs before my own, I am damned if I am going to do the same in death. I dont honestly think that we can protect anyone we leave behind, so why bother? If they dont understand our pain in life, I doubt the manner of our death will make one bit of difference to them. So dont sweat the small stuff when it comes to ctb.

 

[1234dave]

Are you doing it when no one is home?

 

[Scribble Fan]

I say go with the pillow case. Is there no way to do it out of the house?

Are you doing it when no one is home?

Unfortunately I'm a NEET without mode of transportation, otherwise I'd ctb somewhere nobody could find me. Maybe deep in a forest somewhere.

I'm going to hang when nobody is around. I think they're going to see some old family friends soon so I should have a few hours then.

I have lived my life trying to please others and putting their needs before my own, I am damned if I am going to do the same in death. I dont honestly think that we can protect anyone we leave behind, so why bother? If they dont understand our pain in life, I doubt the manner of our death will make one bit of difference to them. So dont sweat the small stuff when it comes to ctb.

I understand, I'm exhausted of existing for the sake of other's needs, but my brother is too important to me.

Honestly, it's for me as well. It'd make departing easier knowing I at least tried to protect him, even if it didn't make much difference.

 

[whyidon'tknow]

Hmm that's really hard to say. I think both would be pretty traumatizing. But at least if you attempt to hide your face your family might be more appreciative in the long run.

 

[LMFAO FOCKERS]

I dont know what type of family you come from but they might not believe it's you hanging even with a warning note on the pillowcase. We used to play a lot of practical jokes on each other as youngsters so I would somehow think my family member were playing a joke if I saw a pillowcase on a hanging body. I could imagine pulling the pillowcase off thinking it was a joke only to be doubly surprised and tramautized that the joke is on me for thinking it was a joke. That's even worse.

Pillowcase doesnt do crap but maybe make it worse.

 

[Scribble Fan]

I dont know what type of family you come from but they might not believe it's you hanging even with a warning note on the pillowcase. We used to play a lot of practical jokes on each other as youngsters so I would somehow think my family member were playing a joke if I saw a pillowcase on a hanging body. I could imagine pulling the pillowcase off thinking it was a joke only to be doubly surprised and tramautized that the joke is on me for thinking it was a joke. That's even worse.

Pillowcase doesnt do crap but maybe make it worse.

Hmm, that would be horrible. I think they know I'm doing poorly though and would probably jump to the conclusion that I'm hung. Luckily my family isn't the type for practical jokes like that.

Still, thanks for pointing that out!

 

[Bulletwbttrflywings]

In my head I keep replaying the moment where someone finds me hung and it's disturbing. I hope one of my parents finds me, not my younger brother. Does anyone think that a pillowcase over my head would slightly mitigate the traumatic shock or could it make things worse? I have two possibilities in mind:

1. The shock would be more spread out, so.. I wouldn't call it "easier" to digest, but it wouldn't be all at once.

2. The shock would hit twice. Once for when they see my body, the second time when they take the pillowcase off my face.

It's hard to decide what would be more damaging. Plus I'm not sure I'd want a pillowcase blocking everything out before I pass.

Thoughts please?

This is a very thoughtful gesture, you are kind to whomever finds your body. I agree with the suggestion above with writing a note or even doing it away from home. It's traumatic for family... I've seen it first hand with my uncle who found his son.

Perhaps doing it outside or somewhere else would be more peaceful for your mind and soul?

Hugs... I wish CTB wasn't so difficult and complex, but it is. There really is no good answer.

 

[Scribble Fan]

This is a very thoughtful gesture, you are kind to whomever finds your body. I agree with the suggestion above with writing a note or even doing it away from home. It's traumatic for family... I've seen it first hand with my uncle who found his son.

Perhaps doing it outside or somewhere else would be more peaceful for your mind and soul?

Hugs... I wish CTB wasn't so difficult and complex, but it is. There really is no good answer.

I've developed a mild agoraphobia from the years of isolation, I think my room would be the most peaceful place for me. Outside would be nice, especially for my family, but I at least want to pass somewhere I feel comfortable.

I definitely agree with writing a note, just to forewarn anyone that finds me so they have time to brace. That combined with a pillowcase should hopefully soften the blow of my discovery. I mean, as much as it can be softened..

 

[Cleopatra123]

I have lived my life trying to please others and putting their needs before my own, I am damned if I am going to do the same in death. I dont honestly think that we can protect anyone we leave behind, so why bother? If they dont understand our pain in life, I doubt the manner of our death will make one bit of difference to them. So dont sweat the small stuff when it comes to ctb.

This is some interesting advice, I wonder how many here have put other's needs before their own, and find themselves depleted and isolated. But, I can't help reflecting, if there is love in us that cares about others, that's a good thing, isn't it? Why become totally self-centered like others. Even though, they'll have something to complain about anyway, but they own that, we own a caring nature, hopefully though there may never be rewards.

 

[blanketyblk]

This is some interesting advice, I wonder how many here have put other's needs before their own, and find themselves depleted and isolated. But, I can't help reflecting, if there is love in us that cares about others, that's a good thing, isn't it? Why become totally self-centered like others. Even though, they'll have something to complain about anyway, but they own that, we own a caring nature, hopefully though there may never be rewards.

I would love to know the answer to that too. i spent my life help other people, never putting my needs first now look at me. 43 years old and everyone has gone. i wish i could of been more selfish. gah. what could of been i suppose.

 

[SinisterKid]

This is some interesting advice, I wonder how many here have put other's needs before their own, and find themselves depleted and isolated. But, I can't help reflecting, if there is love in us that cares about others, that's a good thing, isn't it? Why become totally self-centered like others. Even though, they'll have something to complain about anyway, but they own that, we own a caring nature, hopefully though there may never be rewards.

It is, without doubt a good thing, but where do we draw the line? If we truly wish to consider the needs of others when we are no longer here, then not one of us would catch our bus because we know the sorrow and pain that could leave behind. So at some point, we have to say, enough is enough, this is about me, for once, its about me. In that respect, yes its selfish, yes its self centred, but there really is no suitable alternative other than to continue to live our lives for other people. We can be as considerate as we want, but it wont change anything, we will still be dead.