Will it take me years just to recover?

[Circles]

Hey again y'all. Anyway I'm having a mental block thinking how much time recovery in general lasts and I'm afraid that I'll never really fully recover by the time I want to. I know it's a process and there's no guarantee's, I know there's no timeline or endpoint, I'm just lost on what to believe in anymore. I have been depressed and suicidal for well over half my life. I'm 27 years old and I can't fathom this taking years or hell over a decade and by then I'll be in my 40s and I feel like it's just going to be pointless. I don't know what I'm trying to convey but I'm wondering how am I going to keep with recovery especially if it lasts for years?

 

[natali4]

I wish I had an answer for you. I don't know how long it takes people to recover, I think people feel better over time when they find out what works for them, but I think it's a lifelong struggle and work. I don't know anyone who has said that they have recovered. So I guess finding out what makes you feel better and what you can do about it can be helpful. I know now all of us have the luxury of having what we need to feel better, but I hope you feel better!

 

[Lullaby]

I think it's hard to say, and stuff like this is different for everyone. I'm the same age as you and I've been struggling for years, but the last two have been incredibly difficult for me.

Around Dec, I was asking myself the same thing. I turn 28 this summer, and I'm nowhere near where I want to be. All I could think about was how I exhausted I was to keep going…but I told myself I really don't want to die, I really don't, I just hate how my life is. So I've been taking some uncomfortable and hard steps, and progress is already happening.

I'm still going through it, some days are beyond hard and I feel like ending it all but I'm fighting through it. I believe you can too.

If you haven't, I would try to think about some things you really want in your life and go from there. Therapy has also been helping a lot, I don't think I'd be making any progress without it. I don't have a big support system, but my therapist and my father are always cheering me on and it helps a lot.

 

[Circles]

I wish I had an answer for you. I don't know how long it takes people to recover, I think people feel better over time when they find out what works for them, but I think it's a lifelong struggle and work. I don't know anyone who has said that they have recovered. So I guess finding out what makes you feel better and what you can do about it can be helpful. I know now all of us have the luxury of having what we need to feel better, but I hope you feel better!

I think it's hard to say, and stuff like this is different for everyone. I'm the same age as you and I've been struggling for years, but the last two have been incredibly difficult for me.

Around Dec, I was asking myself the same thing. I turn 28 this summer, and I'm nowhere near where I want to be. All I could think about was how I exhausted I was to keep going…but I told myself I really don't want to die, I really don't, I just hate how my life is. So I've been taking some uncomfortable and hard steps, and progress is already happening.

I'm still going through it, some days are beyond hard and I feel like ending it all but I'm fighting through it. I believe you can too.

If you haven't, I would try to think about some things you really want in your life and go from there. Therapy has also been helping a lot, I don't think I'd be making any progress without it. I don't have a big support system, but my therapist and my father are always cheering me on and it helps a lot.

Thank you both for sharing I really needed this today.

 

[lili]

Hey.

I had around 3 years were I was feeling better. It felt like a miracle.

It required a drastic life change. But doing things little by little, giving a chance to step by step removing things that were worsening my situation.

I think it depends what your situations are. I have borderline and bipolar plus dealing with past traumas.

I think it's possible it just requires a major major life change and gaining control of your life. Loss of control is for me what I think made my emotions out of control too. It's really difficult though, and I don't expect to ever live a completely normal life, since medications don't work well for me, have tried so many in the last ten years.

I can speak more about what I did those three years if you want via message. But it's really personal and it's case by case basis.

Of course for me I've lost total control of my life because of circumstances that require a lot of out me and I've resorted to the same habits again. But for me, it's a matter of instead of adjust to how society functions, adjusting my society to how I función. And make everything work according to how I can make it work.

This is really hard to do, I'm figuring out how to do this again. But it's really challenging to do and might still take a lifetime.

 

[Crazy4u]

I think it is easier to approach it as "one step at a time" rather than aim for full recovery at once. Small improvements can make you happier without taking so much time to achieve.

I'm 33 years old and full recovery at 40 doesn't seem bad at all. 40 is my expected ctb age based on my dog's age. If I recover at 40, I might have 5-7 years to live a happy life before physical conditions get worse.

 

[Glowarm]

I think for every person it is different. Some people recover quite quickly. I've found myself at times saying "holy crap, it's been a while since I really wanted to, I think I'm 'officially' recovered". But then weeks or months later I was in a very bad place again.
Every person is different and their recovery is for different reasons, their life styles are different.
Just keep going forward, being mindful and striving for small improvements. Also, accepting that a relapse doesn't equal failure and to keep moving. Those are things that looking back have been very helpful for me. But again, unfortunately, I can't give a timeline because I think it'll be different for every person. But if you really want to, then try and keep trying and eventually at some point you'll realize that it has and is getting better (in my opinion). I wish you the best of luck.

 

[Myforevercharlie]

It depends...it took me years, and a full recovery isn't possible,and even not what I want. I just want to be content and somewhat stable.

But my housemate went from suicidal barley 2 years ago, to much much better. He's working again ( totally different branch then what he used to do) interacting with people again (as long as it's not hordes of them) and living life again.

He went into serious therapy for 1.5 years, and really, I'm amazed by the way he is now.

 

[SuicidallyCurious]

You never recover.

Humans die and it will all end. The only difference is how you choose to fart around until death claims ya.

Many ppl will fart around on this forum. Some people like trump and his father will fart around accumulating wealth until god almighty absolutely kicks their asses and sends them straight and directly to hell (no detour in limbo).

Some people will fart around by genociding inoccent Iraqis so that they could have a bigger SUV when they come back to the US

 

[stellabelle]

Hey again y'all. Anyway I'm having a mental block thinking how much time recovery in general lasts and I'm afraid that I'll never really fully recover by the time I want to. I know it's a process and there's no guarantee's, I know there's no timeline or endpoint, I'm just lost on what to believe in anymore. I have been depressed and suicidal for well over half my life. I'm 27 years old and I can't fathom this taking years or hell over a decade and by then I'll be in my 40s and I feel like it's just going to be pointless. I don't know what I'm trying to convey but I'm wondering how am I going to keep with recovery especially if it lasts for years?

As long as you want to, I guess.

I am so sorry life is fucked up and struggling with depression and suicidal ideation has consumed you in a similar way that it has to me.

People push "recovery" but I don't think there is any "full recovery" from most of these things… people repeat cycles, people repeat behavior, people repeatedly harm people, making it more and more difficult to "bounce back" or "thrive."

We start to even harm ourselves. Others around us.

This is such a fucking stupid thing to struggle with when things could be so simple that it's not even funny!

The pointlessness. God this post just makes me think of my cycles of anxiety and episodes of PTSD.

(Pointless, pointless, this was so pointless, this is so POINTLESS.)

(God, why?)

(Resentment, resentment, and more resentment)

(Mental illness. Resent mental illness. Present mental illness. Mental illness. Resent mental illness.)

(Stupid, stupidity, stupid, how fuckin stupid! Stupidity!)

(Not fun. Not FUNNY. NOT FUNNY.)

(STOP, STOP. STOP. NO. STOP, I said NO! STOP! Leave me alone!)

Jesus fuckin Christ…. 24/7. From the moment you wake up the moment you go to sleep, aggression, anger, resentment…

 

[goofy]

No if you have the solution to recovery it's going to be pretty drastic and immediate. Not totally immediate but like six months tops. and you'll know within the first like 2 days

 

[ColorlessTrees]

I think it's partly a daily "choice", rather chore, to do little things that might lead you towards better days. What those things are depend on the person and their goals. Then you might not be "recovered", but you can have more decent or less bad times.

Sometimes that can even just be 8 hours of sleep+food+hygiene+exercise, which are difficult when you lack the energy to do much. It's also something you kind of have to build on, but recovery isn't linear, and relapses happen all the time. It really matters if it's worth it for you, something you want bad enough to push for. The time frame wildly varies; I think it's dependent on a lot of factors, but even if it took 20 years, you'd still have time to "enjoy" it, providing you're otherwise healthy.
I wish I could be more helpful, but I'm exhausted with this as well.

 

[whatevs]

Oh for sure, yes. Years. But if you're improving, you won't mind a relatively slow progress. This isn't a problem at all, the problem most have here is that they are not recovering at all, full stop, not that it is some slow process or whatever. Being 27 is OK, I'm 30 and still searching for a place in the world or a way out that makes sense. Imagine that it took three years to recover and you'd have my age when you aren't suicidal, would that be such a tragedy?