Help Will a career bring me satisfaction?

[SweetSpot086]

I live with my parents, which is culturally appropriate in my country. I am financially dependent on my father. I am doing okay. I could do better, if I want to, but there are certain aspects of my personality that make me unfit for working. So, is it worth it? I ask, because my family members keep pushing me to do something, not for the money, so that they can tell others, that I am not totally useless (thats what I think)

Some people love their work, but at the end of the day, I dont think they would be loving it, if they didnt get paid.

Sure, some people volunteer, but that brings them joy in some other sense...I haven't really figured out, what I really wanna do and I am almost 30.

 

[Somber]

It's dependent on your reasons for being here. If not having a job or debt is a reason to contemplate suicide, I guess a job can be very satisfactory. A job can certainly keep your mind occupied on other things than your own problems and you might get some satisfaction from helping others. But unless your motivations to contemplate suicide are one of the above it's only a temporary distraction until you deal with (or fix if possible) the underlying issues with CTB being a last resort option.

 

[uselesswaste]

Career satisfaction, it depends on you and the job. Today most jobs are stressful or companies make it stressful, and these days companies consider age, marital status, pregnancy, etc.(which is disgusting)

In my opinion, you can give it a try instead of regretting it or if you have any hobbies, record it or blog it on internet.

You can also start your own small business too.

(Consider others' opinion more than mine)

 

[Sherri]

If it's a career that has been your dream or that you admire and feel curious than yes. You gotta love what you do work wise otherwise you will feel like that work is a burden. But as recovery a job can also help you to get distracted maybe have nice colleagues and a wage. Personally I never worked for the highest wage, I work at what I love and always have been my dream. Wish you luck, give it a try if you feel you up to that challenge.

 

[SweetSpot086]

If it's a career that has been your dream or that you admire and feel curious than yes. You gotta love what you do work wise otherwise you will feel like that work is a burden. But as recovery a job can also help you to get distracted maybe have nice colleagues and a wage. Personally I never worked for the highest wage, I work at what I love and always have been my dream. Wish you luck, give it a try if you feel you up to that challenge.

Is the wage the motivation? If, for example, you get an equal amount to what you are making right now magically appear in your bank account every month..would you

1) Keep Working, make extra money
2) Consider Working for free
3) Quit Working

 

[Sherri]

Keep working, make extra money, but thats me.

 

[motel rooms]

there are certain aspects of my personality that make me unfit for working. So, is it worth it?

Unfit? If you're incapable of working, how could a career bring you satisfaction?

 

[SweetSpot086]

Unfit? If you're incapable of working, how could a career bring you satisfaction?

I was just wondering, if extra money would make a difference or if it pleases others or maybe if it pleases me, if i get a sense of achievement, now when I think about it, I guess I dont care about any of the above.

I say, I am unfit, because sometimes I think I can be fit, hence, I wonder stuff like this..but, other times I think I cant be fit because I am unfit and thats the all unfitness.

Like eg. I have traits of perfectionism, so I would never go for an interview, unless everything is perfect, but, everything wont be perfect, because I will convince myself otherwise...also, the goals I set, I dont have the patience to see them through, I keep daydreaming about the outcomes, I never have the patience to see it through...I want to skip to the end outcome (whatever that is, keeps changing)...so, deep down somewhere I know, I wont be able to do it, but, there are some fears, like loss of some current luxuries eg. When my dad dies...

 

[Midgardsorm]

It depends on what you will be doing.

Our will to live is very attached to things we have or do. If you choose a career that you like, maybe researching, helping people, building things or anything that you like to do, than your will to live increases because now you have a motive to keep on living.

Well, maybe think about the things you like, or maybe try to do some things, even things that you have never done before.

Now, careful with office jobs. Most will drain your body and soul and if it's not something that you really like or that you will do for a limited time until you find something better, than it can be very depressing.

Be careful.

I wish you the best.

 

[t-rex]

Now, careful with office jobs. Most will drain your body and soul and if it's not something that you really like or that you will do for a limited time until you find something better, than it can be very depressing.

I second this. My IT career was very depressing. I kept trying to go back to it with the parameters of each job changed slightly, but it didn't work. I'm still trying to figure out what to do next.

Try and find something where you are physically active or at least doing something with your hands/body. It doesn't have to be creative (maybe you cannot tap into creativity right now), for instance I have been looking into entry-level jobs in the hospital transporting patients around. Find something where you can be around people and interacting, if you're comfortable with that.

Find something you can be proud of. That doesn't mean it has to be high paying or highly technical. It can just be helping people.

But maybe I'm now projecting my own path into you. ;) it could be that you *would* find more satisfaction in a highly technical/skilled job. Start at the entry level and upgrade your skills over time, and make a career.

To answer your question: will making a career bring your satisfaction? For me, it hasn't. But maybe I just haven't found the right career yet. Choose something in alignment with your values, if you're in a place where you can connect to your values.

Whatever choice you make, know that it is not permanent. It sounds like you're in a stable life situation right now with your Dad, so you can jump around to different kinds of jobs to find what clicks.

Good luck!

 

[SweetSpot086]

I second this. My IT career was very depressing. I kept trying to go back to it with the parameters of each job changed slightly, but it didn't work. I'm still trying to figure out what to do next.

Try and find something where you are physically active or at least doing something with your hands/body. It doesn't have to be creative (maybe you cannot tap into creativity right now), for instance I have been looking into entry-level jobs in the hospital transporting patients around. Find something where you can be around people and interacting, if you're comfortable with that.

Find something you can be proud of. That doesn't mean it has to be high paying or highly technical. It can just be helping people.

But maybe I'm now projecting my own path into you. ;) it could be that you *would* find more satisfaction in a highly technical/skilled job. Start at the entry level and upgrade your skills over time, and make a career.

To answer your question: will making a career bring your satisfaction? For me, it hasn't. But maybe I just haven't found the right career yet. Choose something in alignment with your values, if you're in a place where you can connect to your values.

Whatever choice you make, know that it is not permanent. It sounds like you're in a stable life situation right now with your Dad, so you can jump around to different kinds of jobs to find what clicks.

Good luck!

Hi, thanks for the reply

I am in IT too, I have a bachelors in CS...I never worked in IT, so I dont know whats it like...but, I do enjoy programming...but, I dont know, how will I operate under pressure, stress, criticism and meet deadlines..

 

[t-rex]

No worries, happy to weigh in. :)

I don't want to persuade you not to try working in IT, but I can tell you my impression. I liked programming too, back in school. But once I was doing it for a paycheck, it wasn't the same. You don't have the time to do things right a lot of the time, due to, as you mentioned, deadlines. It pained me to take shortcuts and do things the less-than-optimal way. It sounds like you may be similar, since you mentioned being a perfectionist. Unlike school projects, you're no longer programming in a vacuum. You have to write code that is compatible with other things, sometimes ugly things.

If you'd like to read a humorous and cynical take on programming for a living, read this:

Programming Sucks

www.stilldrinking.org

Again, I don't want to make you cynical before you've even tried working in IT. Just giving you one perspective. There are many, many other perspectives.

The only way to find out if you'd like it is to try it. It's what you're trained in, so why not give it a go? As an entry level programmer, most companies won't pile a ton of pressure on you. You'll get small tasks to start, bugfixes, minor tweaks, etc. You're not going to start out leading projects or deploying major new features. At least if you're at a larger company.

Try and overcome that confidence gap and put in a few job applications. Easier said than done, I know!

 

[lostautist]

If you haven't really given it a try and are not sure, give it a chance. It may bring you distraction or satisfaction. Hard work is satisfaction for me and without it I am lost.

I am not working due to injury and my return does not seem likely and I may lose everything, which is why I am actually here. If I am brought to where my anxiety points, I'll have my inert gas ready. I am too tired and broken and have no support to have to deal with being homeless and I won't do anything that will incarcerate me. So I've only got that one option.