This is the way the site works. Large influx of people due to one reason or another causing people to seek out places like this that last for a while and then quiet down. A lot of new members post for a bit but a lot more either find the information they need and leave or, like most people, simply don't feel like engaging in conversations here much anymore. It's very difficult and exhausting to have to get to know new people in general and there is a shit ton of rejection in the process. Even here. So seeing as how people are already on edge here, doesn't take them much to end their lives or clam up and not speak here. Despite all the supposed love here, people do get ignored quite a lot here. That can be devastating for most people here, but it can't be helped. Most of us here are selfish anyways. You can see it in the way people talk and the limited number of people they will even respond to. This is life.
Totally agree, when I joined this website, I was thinking that here, everybody would share love and support to each other in both sections (Recovery, Suicide).
In fact, very often, there's no response to messages (talking about personal stories, pain) and it's easy to feel lonely.
Of course, everybody is suffering, doesn't have the strengh to entertain potential friendship, but the results are sadly how world work.
I know that I'm also doing that but I don't feel like putting any energy in that will have any effect and I also don't want to feel rejection after.
I guess that a forum based on mutual support, help with warmth sharing would be very cool.
I feel like here, it's more like instructions, on how to do it in a reliable way, but we mostly talk about methods
I guess that because of considering this
@avoid_slow_death, you prefer to stay cautious and to not invest yourself too much sometimes ?
No one comes here willingly. Think about that. We all reach a point of frustration and sadness and see no way out of our misery and then we begin browsing this site.
Those who want to CTB, quickly find information resources and complete the act.
Those who don't want to CTB, find this site less and less appealing every time.
I myself use this site only to vent out my sadness and frustration at life. I usually do not want to deal with the sadness of others unless I am feeling particularly empathetic at the moment. Because I am not a trained psychologist or even a reliable friend, hence I can literally be of no help to anyone who is suffering except offering a few words of comfort or kindness.
You know, sometimes just a simple "Love", "I understand, you're not alone" can do the job !
Even if you think that you don't know how to help, I'm sure that these little you say are enough to make someone day !
In my case, just seeing a "❤" ot a "I understand" make me feel better
Anyway, don't blame yourself, sometimes here, people can't do the things they would've love to do to help others and I'm sure that you are kind and that you do it well ❤
Love ❤
