why is it so easy to see value in other ppls lives but not in ours?

[TheLakesKrueguer]

Recently I knew that a friend also had suicidal thoughts (my friend doesn't know abt my will to ctb). I knew that he cut himself, made him puke etc… It was easy for me to see that his life had value, and after talking for an hour or so he felt better (even if that obviously isn't solving anything in the long term…). The thing is: why is it so easy to see how someone else's life is important but at the same time we consider ourselves shit? I still want to ctb and I think that my friends and family's life would be better without me, but that idea popped into my head a couple of weeks ago.

 

[Misfit72]

It's the outsider's perspective.

I find the account of this woman's death - https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/ar...lems-turned-drink-telling-GP-ruined-life.html - particularly upsetting, given how much she had to live for, not only in her professional life but also in her personal one, with three young children.

The only people placed to judge whether or not she was a good mother were those children, and it's easier to make a good mother out of a bad one than it is to make a good mother out of a dead one. That's what I would have told her - let it be me, not you!

And yet she still went ahead and jumped into a train!

But me? I have no career, and no family of my own. Yes, I have two young nieces, but I am a more peripheral person than either of their parents.

If you want something to love, buy a puppy. Quite frankly, if there is junk food, there is junk love, and people can keep that.