why Girls fake being bi for attention?

[WitheringAway]

Wellll... all the girls I've talked to who claimed to be "bi" just stopped being interested...
I met a girl on tinder who said she was really serious about dating a woman.. she was being specific about being into me especially.. I'm really cautious about initiating romance with people so I keep my guards up until I know they're genuinely interested. Everything was going great until all of a sudden she left me for a guy. She just used me for insta pics to tell her followers she was dating me. We met twice and every time she was shoving her phone into my face taking pics of me when I'm not ready or comfortable yet. She posted it on insta and then 2 days later posted a pic of her holding hands w a guy she called "mi amor".. I asked who that guy was cus I was still giving her the benefit of the doubt (thought it was a relative) and she just laughed and said "I'm exploring my options" it was so cold and mean... felt like a slap to my face. Because we didn't agree to "explore" she gave me the impression that she was really serious about me.. the other girl I met after her said she had just broken up with her ex bf and was done with men.. I was really skeptical and I made it clear that I needed to know if she's seriously ready to date again.. she kept reassuring me she's completely ready and excited to start dating me... 3 weeks in and same thing happened with the pics and social media. she was all clingy and seems happy with me until she TEXTED me and said she was gonna give it a second shot with her ex.. I don't understand what I do wrong... I met them all through tinder.. so the attraction is mutual.. I even got to the point where I asked them if it was something I did??? Something wrong with me?? I don't think I'm doing anything wrong in fact, I made sure I treat them with love and respect just the way I want to be treated but still wasn't enough... I'm just tired of fake bitches tbh

 

[killedbypsychiatry]

People can do all sort of things for attention. As a lesbian, I think it's awful if girls just do it to get more attention from men. You know, some men find it sexy when women date woman... I have also noticed this trend tho... I guess some girls can truly be curious or confused but... using others to gain attention if disgusting. I'm sorry about your experience.

 

[GenesAndEnvironment]

I don't understand what I do wrong... I met them all through tinder..

 

[JustAMatterOfTime]

Read this as FBI was disappointed

 

[StringPuppet]

This answer might be a bit cynical (and hopefully not bigoted since this only applies to a small minority of women) but I think it's because they only tried being bi/lesbian after they got their hearts broken by men. This explains why they were so hung up on posting "proof" of their bisexuality and why they went right back to men after you. They're essentially trying to prove to those men that they don't need them because they can just get with a woman. It sucks that they'd use you just to divert some of the pain they were feeling but on the bright side you should have no reason to think you're the problem.

 

[NumbItAll]

Wellll... all the girls I've talked to who claimed to be "bi" just stopped being interested...
I met a girl on tinder who said she was really serious about dating a woman.. she was being specific about being into me especially.. I'm really cautious about initiating romance with people so I keep my guards up until I know they're genuinely interested. Everything was going great until all of a sudden she left me for a guy. She just used me for insta pics to tell her followers she was dating me. We met twice and every time she was shoving her phone into my face taking pics of me when I'm not ready or comfortable yet. She posted it on insta and then 2 days later posted a pic of her holding hands w a guy she called "mi amor".. I asked who that guy was cus I was still giving her the benefit of the doubt (thought it was a relative) and she just laughed and said "I'm exploring my options" it was so cold and mean... felt like a slap to my face. Because we didn't agree to "explore" she gave me the impression that she was really serious about me.. the other girl I met after her said she had just broken up with her ex bf and was done with men.. I was really skeptical and I made it clear that I needed to know if she's seriously ready to date again.. she kept reassuring me she's completely ready and excited to start dating me... 3 weeks in and same thing happened with the pics and social media. she was all clingy and seems happy with me until she TEXTED me and said she was gonna give it a second shot with her ex.. I don't understand what I do wrong... I met them all through tinder.. so the attraction is mutual.. I even got to the point where I asked them if it was something I did??? Something wrong with me?? I don't think I'm doing anything wrong in fact, I made sure I treat them with love and respect just the way I want to be treated but still wasn't enough... I'm just tired of fake bitches tbh

They sound like really deep, thoughtful, and caring people... jeez. I don't think this is a reflection on you at all.

 

[sadbadpsychogirl]

i know about this phenomenon all too well! almost every woman i've been with now identifies as straight ( most of them were just waiting for the right guy) all i know is that they were pretty gay with me lol

 

[WornOutLife]

Do they?
This is the first time I've heard this.
I've dated some girls on Tinder and there was one who was actually bi. No need to pretend.

 

[Manaaja]

There are some theories and studies that girls in heat go to handsome men while outside heat they go to personality. When they are ready to get pregnant, their genitals seek some quality seeds, but when the are allowed to think with their upper head, they love women or/and men with good personalities.

I'd suggest finding a sterilized woman or an antinatalist. There's less fear of her pussy screaming "I want to get impregnated!". Remember, there are people with genitals and genitals with people. The latter will always be controlled by their genitals without being aware of it or without giving their consent to such a thing.

I'm sorry you've had bad experiences, but I do hope you can find someone who'll stay with you and not dump to men. Maybe someone who has never dated a man? If she is let's say 30 and has never dated a man, chances are she won't suddenly start dating them now.

 

[motel rooms]

Why don't more str8 guys fake being bi for attention?! C'mon, str8 guys, would it kill you to make out with me?

 

[Celerity]

Damn, I guess I shouldn't be surprised, but it hurts to see all these negative comments about bisexuals. I have been attracted to both men and women but having never slept with either, I guess I can't be completely sure if I prefer men or women. Right now, I definitely prefer women though. I can't get this lesbian I know out of my head no matter how hard I try. I wonder if she distrusts me because I told her I was bi and dated men in the past.

As for your predicament with shitty bi women, I can't really answer as to why it's so trendy except the predominance of "lesbian" porn. Also, Tinder sounds like a dumpster fire. I hope you are able to find a woman who respect you and does not indulge in this juvenile behavior.

 

[GrumpyFrog]

I'm sorry this happened to you. There is nothing wrong with you. In fact, it's probably not even because you're a girl, if you were a guy things probably wouldn't change all that much. These girls simply aren't looking for a serious relationship. The wast majority of people on Tinder aren't, it's mostly used to find hookups for quick sexual gratification and validation. This doesn't only happen with "fake bi" girls, I've heard very similar stories about girls suddenly going from "being serious" to "exploring their options" or going back to their exes from guys. I have no idea where people find other people to date for real, so I understand why you went to Tinder, but @Celerity is totally right - Tinder is a dumpster fire if you're looking for something serious.
I hope you can find what you're looking for.

 

[DeadButDreaming]

Maybe you could leave a message on your tinder account reading 'no bisexuals' or something similar.

 

[GenesAndEnvironment]

Why don't more str8 guys fake being bi for attention?! C'mon, str8 guys, would it kill you to make out with me?

Best I can do is hand-holding and hugging bro.

 

[motel rooms]

Best I can do is hand-holding and hugging bro.

OK, but you have to strip to your undies first

 

[GenesAndEnvironment]

OK, but you have to strip to your undies first

Reported.

 

[Phoenix]

Reported.

everything gets reported in this thread my comment advising people not to trust a bisexual woman got removed too. Yet this is a suicide forum oh the irony

 

[motel rooms]

Reported.

OK, I guess I'll just have to grope the cop you reported me to

 

[GenesAndEnvironment]

everything gets reported in this thread my comment advising people not to trust a bisexual woman got removed too. Yet this is a suicide forum on the irony

Try reading a book and come back to the forum afterwards.

 

[Phoenix]

Try reading a book and come back to the forum afterwards.

I read all the Harry Potter books x

 

[GenesAndEnvironment]

I read all the Harry Potter books x

Not surprised.

 

[Phoenix]

Not surprised.

Nothing wrong with Harry Potter

 

[GenesAndEnvironment]

Nothing wrong with Harry Potter

Reported.

 

[Phoenix]

Reported.

Crying

 

[motel rooms]

Crying

Don't cry, he's a toenail fetishist. Genes, not Harry Potter

 

[Phoenix]

Don't cry, he's a toenail fetishist. Genes, not Harry Potter

Now that explains everything

 

[Lmd]

It's sad to see how bisexuality is always mistreat but I understand your feelings. I met a lot of girls "curious" and wanting the experience. I think it's pretty common,a t least where I live, having these thoughs but in the end most of them prefer men. I guess they are tired of men and tries to convice theirselfs that women are the solution when both sucks

 

[Meditation guide]

Sexual preferences can be fluid, meaning sometimes you're bi and sometimes you're not.

 

[Bat 17]

I don't understand why women would pretend to be bi, they could just get these guys anyway. Must be something more to it

It's sad to see how bisexuality is always mistreat but I understand your feelings. I met a lot of girls "curious" and wanting the experience. I think it's pretty common,a t least where I live, having these thoughs but in the end most of them prefer men. I guess they are tired of men and tries to convice theirselfs that women are the solution when both sucks

Ok that makes sense

 

[demuic]

It's sad to see how bisexuality is always mistreat but I understand your feelings. I met a lot of girls "curious" and wanting the experience. I think it's pretty common,a t least where I live, having these thoughs but in the end most of them prefer men. I guess they are tired of men and tries to convice theirselfs that women are the solution when both sucks

Yes, I think this is the case most of the time. Unfortunately those people don't care about the women they're hurting who were looking for a serious relationship. If you just wanna 'experiment' then you should you make that known and not play with people's feelings. It's not a problem with bisexuality but with people being assholes.

Sexual preferences can be fluid, meaning sometimes you're bi and sometimes you're not.

That doesn't make any sense. Someone bisexual could sometimes prefer men or women more but they will always still be bisexual.